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cheerio · Joined: 18 May 2005 Posts: 2

Is it good that two people who have the age difference of 10 years have a romantic relation?
Most people get married when they become adult. The difference of age between husband and wife is not often big.They are not bigger than5 years. But some are so big difference of age. They are more than 10 years difference. You can see them in the world of entertainment. I'm surprised at them. I think it is neccesary that husband and wife can have a common basis in terms of their thinking and interests. What do you think about their big age difference between husband and wife?[size=24][/size]

asterix · Joined: 26 Jan 2003 Posts: 1654

I know some people who have been married for 40 years. They have 4 children. The husband is 12 years older than his wife and yet they are very happy together.
I think age is not important if they respect each other and are kind to each other.

stellara · Joined: 02 Apr 2005 Posts: 583 Location: germany

hi

one of my friends has got a boyfriend who is almost exact ten years older than she is ( 18 ). i think they are happy together but they definitely have their problems.. other than in a "normal" relationship i mean.
he is already a (more or less Very Happy

) successful businessman and she still goes to school - there are not much common ground here, but they understand each other and they have some common interests so for them it's maybe perfect for now. but i don't think that they will be together too long because the age difference is really big - not only the age but also the ~ horizon, i mean she can't have as much experience as he has, concerning nearly everything, driving, travelling, common things like keeping house and taking care of everyday needs.

but i think that the older we are the easier we can get over the age difference - it doesn't bother so much in a relationship between a 40 and a 50 than between an 18 and a 28.

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notajuliet · Joined: 08 Jun 2005 Posts: 40

It depends on the people involved. But it would be kind of weird to have grown up in practically a different decade.

Raedon · Joined: 10 Jun 2005 Posts: 2

I think ''No''. They cannot understand each other. When One of them tell your events, maybe other man or woman cannot understand. All Ages are different.

In My country, Ages are very important, for meeting, geting married... However, If man is 40 years old. I shouldn't think, the man is clever.

stellara · Joined: 02 Apr 2005 Posts: 583 Location: germany

where do you come from, if i may ask?

i think, yes they can understand each other. the mental developement of a person actually depends on her/his age but a 30 year old can have the mental developement of a ~25 year old as well as of a ~35 year old. and that determines if he/she fits to his/her partner.
so as in my examle, my friend is indeed only 18 but she is relatively adult for her age. her parents were divorced since she was born and due to that she had to become independent and adult early. and her boyfriend is 28 but - i don't wanna say premature because he definitely isn't but he fits to her so maybe it's okay for them for some time. they're together for about 7 month now, that's quite a time.

and, Raedon, i wasn't talking about intelligence or cleverness but about experience (thanks chenny Laughing

). it's a fact that the older a person is the more experience does he have. there are some people who have much more experience in whatever than other people in their age but each of them has a lot more experience than he had 10 or 20 years before. like said before.

greets

ps: but i wanna understand your foolish thoughts! what do you mean by these graphes? one's the line of growing experience?? and the other? and what are the numbers? Very Happy

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stellara · Joined: 02 Apr 2005 Posts: 583 Location: germany

oh, that means, each number in x-direction means 20 years? so 1 = 20, 2 = 40 and so on?
and the decreasing graph, the older you get the worse is your chance to get married? but that can't be right, because then you should get married in the age of 10.. Mr. Green

i've surely made a mistake.

but it's an intelligent thought although sort of complicated..
(was meinst du mit laufpunkt?? der schnittpunkt?)

greets
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