Hi,
I have got a lower-intermediate class and they are all 13 and 12 year olds. The problem is that I have a 17 year old boy in my class who disrupts everything! It is impossible to teach with him. He is also very wild everytime I try to tell him what to do he shouts back and completly does the opposite. He doesn't listen to anybody not even his parents. The institute owner WILL not take him out of my class. So I end up not doing a lesson as he disrupts the lesson. What can I do? I've kicked him out the classroom a couple of times but he comes back and does the same again. ADVICE PLEEEEAAAAAAAAAAAAASE!!!
how to deal with very very very very problamatic teenager...
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1. Find something he likes to do and use that as a reward for good behavior. I base this type of treatment on motivation theory.
2. Take him on the side and let him know that the reason he has these outbursts is that studying is hard and frustrates him, and he would rather be punished than embarassed, especially in this situation with younger students. Have him work by himself, and give him 1 on 1 tutoring.
For the two above, I had a student who was misdiagnosed as autistic when he was actually dyslexic, and had outbursts because school work, especially math, was too hard for him. After I did #2, and helped his parents use #1 at home, what I did in lessons was to take it slow and lower the level of the exercises (he was around 12-13 but academically at 1-2 grade.)
Even though we both knew the exercises were under his age level (yet right at his academic level) we tackled the work seriously and I kept rewarding him for minor (but major for him) successes, such as the first time he was able to do a group of multiplication exercises without using a multiplication table or when he could do a paragraph of reading or writing.
2. Take him on the side and let him know that the reason he has these outbursts is that studying is hard and frustrates him, and he would rather be punished than embarassed, especially in this situation with younger students. Have him work by himself, and give him 1 on 1 tutoring.
For the two above, I had a student who was misdiagnosed as autistic when he was actually dyslexic, and had outbursts because school work, especially math, was too hard for him. After I did #2, and helped his parents use #1 at home, what I did in lessons was to take it slow and lower the level of the exercises (he was around 12-13 but academically at 1-2 grade.)
Even though we both knew the exercises were under his age level (yet right at his academic level) we tackled the work seriously and I kept rewarding him for minor (but major for him) successes, such as the first time he was able to do a group of multiplication exercises without using a multiplication table or when he could do a paragraph of reading or writing.
And if it is a class of very very problematic teens?
I have a group of teens, actually they are rather young adults rather than teens. They are about 17 and in their last year at school. They are very relaxed and they are sure that they won't get bad marks when leaving school because of parents. Several teachers have rejected to worked with them and they are very proud of that. They swear at lessons and say that I can't do anything in this situation - they will do whatever they want.
I try to use some unusual technical means, try to invent various tasks, but it's very difficult to find something which will be equally interesting for all 12 teens.
How can I motivate them?
I try to use some unusual technical means, try to invent various tasks, but it's very difficult to find something which will be equally interesting for all 12 teens.
How can I motivate them?
I recently had a problem with a similar student, what I did was pull him aside and talked to him, asked him why he behaved the way he did, and simply asked him to be good in class, so far he has been great, he was seeking attention and just wanted to know that someone cared about him.
If the parents don't care that is difficult, set some goals for the student and work with the school, if you refuse to teach the class, your school may take notice.
good luck!!
If the parents don't care that is difficult, set some goals for the student and work with the school, if you refuse to teach the class, your school may take notice.
good luck!!
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Sivagami Muthusamy
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I have had similar experiences myself where a sixteen year old boy refused to follow my lessons, complete his exercises and he even started influencing some of his other classmates to be rebelious. I tried all kinds of methods to get him to listen to me but nothing worked. My last option was to ask him to stay back after class and I had a heart to heart talk with him to find out what is bothering him. I eventually got him to open up to me and the main reason he was behaving badly was because he had some pernonal problems. I gave him some advice and told him that he could always confide in me if he ever felt like sharing his problems with someone else. He eventually changed and now he is such an angle in class. One of the reasons was that he knew I cared and that I am not just another teacher who is not bothered about her student's well being.