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danniedoodles
Joined: 27 Dec 2012
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Posted: Wed Feb 06, 2013 4:55 pm Post subject: social life with no (or limited) alcohol?? |
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i have been researching what life will be like living in south korea and surprise! lots of alcohol! even with employers/coworkers, maybe!
my question is - will my social life suffer if i don't drink? i mean, i DO drink, sometimes. not a lot at all. maybe one drink a month, or a special occasion. i have no problems with it its just not my thing most of the time.
am i better off just saying i don't drink AT ALL so i'm not pressured? HOW bad, exactly, is it to turn down drinks with an employer or co-workers? |
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Otherside
Joined: 06 Sep 2007
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Posted: Wed Feb 06, 2013 5:04 pm Post subject: |
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It is what you make of it.
The co-worker drinking thing (Korean co-workers) is not actually a big deal.
At a public school, you'll go out for a staff dinner once or twice a semester. 2 or 3 drinks is more than enough for such an occasion (though, some of the teachers drink a lot more).
Personally, I don't drink much. I can easily go a few months without a drink, but if the time is right, I'll drink with the best of them.
The problem comes with your expat friends. A large amount of socialising here is geared around the bars and clubs, and guess what, at those places you're going to drink.
So, either
1. find friends who like activities which don't involve alcohol,
2. get used to drinking alot, or
3. be the only sober guy at the bar. |
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boomhauer
Joined: 02 Nov 2012
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Posted: Sat Feb 09, 2013 5:00 am Post subject: |
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Im not a drinker, it does effect things a bit
If you go out to the bar, just try to nurse a beer or two the whole night, you dont need to get drunk |
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Harpeau
Joined: 01 Feb 2003 Location: Coquitlam, BC
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Posted: Sat Feb 09, 2013 4:52 pm Post subject: |
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There are some meetups that seem pretty tame. If you go to a bar, just have a soft-drink. Not a big deal. |
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wylies99
Joined: 13 May 2006 Location: I'm one cool cat!
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Posted: Sat Feb 09, 2013 5:33 pm Post subject: |
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There are many things you can do in Korea besides sit in bars while everyone else is getting smashed. There are plenty of museums, palaces, shopping centers, and groups that have meetups. You can look on Facebook and on other social media. It all depends on your interests.
Even if you end up essentially on your own use the time to get in shape, see movies, or try new restaurants on your own. You'd be surprised how strong you can be if you've never done things alone.
Just remember that everyone came here alone, the first year, anyway, and others understand how you feel. |
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Hugo85
Joined: 27 Aug 2010
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Posted: Sat Feb 09, 2013 6:04 pm Post subject: |
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When I got to Korea I would just get smashed with other foreigners. These days I drink a lot less hanging out with Korean friends and just doing dinner/coffee/multibang.
It really depends on which friends you make, foreigner or not. |
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wylies99
Joined: 13 May 2006 Location: I'm one cool cat!
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Posted: Sat Feb 09, 2013 6:10 pm Post subject: |
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Hugo85 wrote: |
When I got to Korea I would just get smashed with other foreigners. These days I drink a lot less hanging out with Korean friends and just doing dinner/coffee/multibang.
It really depends on which friends you make, foreigner or not. |
It is true that when you first arrive in Korea that it appears that "everyone" drinks to excess. But it's not true. It just takes time to find others. |
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dairyairy
Joined: 17 May 2012 Location: South Korea
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NohopeSeriously
Joined: 17 Jan 2011 Location: The Christian Right-Wing Educational Republic of Korea
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Posted: Sun Feb 10, 2013 6:03 am Post subject: |
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I speak Korean and I rarely drink any alcoholic beverage. I'm doing fine. |
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Yaya
Joined: 25 Feb 2003 Location: Seoul
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Posted: Mon Feb 11, 2013 6:01 am Post subject: |
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You can have fun and live in Korea sans alcohol. Even back in the 1990s, I knew people who barely drank who liked the country.
A good way to avoid having to drink is to say you're either sick or have a physical condition not conducive to alcohol consumption.
Plenty of other things to do other than drink if you look for them, like studying Korean, special interest groups, mountain climbing, exploring the Korean countryside, preparing for graduate school or a test, etc. |
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some waygug-in
Joined: 25 Jan 2003
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Posted: Mon Feb 11, 2013 6:43 am Post subject: |
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Tell them you don't drink (alcohol). You can still go to the school
dinners, but just drink pop or water. It actually may work out to your benefit since you are not drinking,
you can leave right after the dinner is finished.
People who drink will be expected to stay there for hours drinking with
the principal and the staff.
As far as things to do, you have to make those things happen.
Join a Korean class, go to church, go hiking, ride a bike, go sight-seeing,
there's plenty to do if you put your mind to it. |
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Cartman
Joined: 30 Jun 2009
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Posted: Mon Feb 11, 2013 9:50 am Post subject: |
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I must admit, this was tricky for me, generally a guy who enjoys 1-2 beers at a bar on any given night - surrounded by alcoholics (most of the teachers at my school were in their mid twenties, while I was over 30) - for the first few months I just went with it, was drunk more times per week than I've been my whole life. Then I couldn't take it anymore. I backed right off, and everyone definitely notices - it's hard when beers were 2500 won or less at a bar and someone always came back to the table with a round of 6 beers. Now there's a fresh beer in front of you and it's hard to turn it down. Constant comments always directed toward the light drinker - "HEY, are you not drinking? What's going on?" - of course, I could just laugh it off and not care, but I did get bored hanging around a bunch of wasted foreigners most of the time. And it's not fun sitting at a table for 3+ hours if you are not keen on getting drunk!
Another lesson to learn was to NEVER allow the bar to run a tab on your table... too many times we were charged for extra beers, and had no way to prove otherwise, or argue in Korean. I've had Koreans tell me this has happened to them, but at least they could argue in their own language and get it cleared up. And sadly, one of the worst bars I experienced for this was the favorite one in Itaewon that starts with a "W". They cleared things up EASILY after a minor complaint, but this shouldn't happen to begin with and it happened at least 3 times when we had a group there. Keep a separate tally somehow on your phone as to what is being ordered!
Some good advice here, and I know people are saying to do "other" things, but when it's a Tuesday night and you feel like getting out of your place, sometimes the only option available and convenient at the last minute is to meet your colleagues at whatever local bar they are at |
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happiness
Joined: 04 Sep 2010
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Posted: Mon Feb 11, 2013 7:12 pm Post subject: |
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I dont drink and I hate the smell of smoke. So, I just buffed up my social skills, talking to people everywhere out and about. I works and its free, but you have to decide you need to do it. |
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CentralCali
Joined: 17 May 2007
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Posted: Mon Feb 11, 2013 7:31 pm Post subject: |
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Simply tell the boss, supervisor, friend, or whoever it is that you don't drink. No need to discuss reasons for it. Simply say you don't drink if you don't want to drink. Unless your boss is some kind of sociopath, you won't have any problem. |
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sojusucks
Joined: 31 May 2008
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Posted: Mon Feb 11, 2013 8:50 pm Post subject: |
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Cartman wrote: |
I must admit, this was tricky for me, generally a guy who enjoys 1-2 beers at a bar on any given night - surrounded by alcoholics (most of the teachers at my school were in their mid twenties, while I was over 30) - for the first few months I just went with it, was drunk more times per week than I've been my whole life. Then I couldn't take it anymore. I backed right off, and everyone definitely notices - it's hard when beers were 2500 won or less at a bar and someone always came back to the table with a round of 6 beers. Now there's a fresh beer in front of you and it's hard to turn it down. Constant comments always directed toward the light drinker - "HEY, are you not drinking? What's going on?" - of course, I could just laugh it off and not care, but I did get bored hanging around a bunch of wasted foreigners most of the time. And it's not fun sitting at a table for 3+ hours if you are not keen on getting drunk!
Another lesson to learn was to NEVER allow the bar to run a tab on your table... too many times we were charged for extra beers, and had no way to prove otherwise, or argue in Korean. I've had Koreans tell me this has happened to them, but at least they could argue in their own language and get it cleared up. And sadly, one of the worst bars I experienced for this was the favorite one in Itaewon that starts with a "W". They cleared things up EASILY after a minor complaint, but this shouldn't happen to begin with and it happened at least 3 times when we had a group there. Keep a separate tally somehow on your phone as to what is being ordered!
Some good advice here, and I know people are saying to do "other" things, but when it's a Tuesday night and you feel like getting out of your place, sometimes the only option available and convenient at the last minute is to meet your colleagues at whatever local bar they are at |
That was my problem. I don't mind tossing back a few, watching a game, and just socializing, but too many fellow teachers think going to a bar means drinking until you literally pass out, or run out of money, and that's any and every night of the week. That's just too much, especially when those drinking buddies are not exactly college-age kids. It's not just men, either. I've seen many women of all ages do it and put themselves in potentially dangerous situations with no sober friends there and a bar full of drunken strangers all around them. You need to be smarter than that. |
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