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[king kakipi]

Sweetsea; I am suprised at your suprise!!

Yes it is taboo and yes it is `wrong` (in MY opinion I hasten to add; I see it as an abuse of power, even if it is between adults at Uni) but I am NOT suprised it happens.

In my time as a school student (way back) in the (19!)80s, in the UK; I saw it happen:- a teacher(M) and a student(F) were always together after school (she was `helping with the books`). Teachers that were told, dismissed it as gossip. Within 2 months of her graduating he had PURCHASED the house next door to hers and later that year they got engaged. In the end she broke the engagement but nonetheless.....

It has always happened, and always will I think.....in virtually every country where some students have crushes on teachers; and some older men enjoy the attention from students that they probably DIDN`T enjoy when they, themselves, were students!!

[ntropy]

I (male) married my Japanese teacher (female) while living in Japan.

Are we both evil? Condemned to hell? Shocking examples to young people of depravity?

[Lynn]

A classmate of a friend was 3rd year junior high and got pregnant by her teacher. After she graduted they got married. I asked my friend if people looked down on this and she said no because they got married.

[joncharles]

About six-months after we graduated from High School, my classmates and I were totally surprised when our beloved English teacher suddenly, divorced his wife and married one of our classmates. She was 18 and he was 36 at the time. They are still together after all these years... This may be a case of true love that transcends age. No indication that the romance was going on before graduation. I won't judge them as I knew both fairly well as as far as any of us knows, they did not start dating until after he and his wife filed for divorce.

I know in Japan a professor/instructor -student relationship in a university and high school is not acceptable. Still I knew some JET and ALT's who used to go to student parties on invitation. The Eikaiwa schools and many private English schools in Japan (except NOVA) encourage outside socializing between students and teachers. However, I am sure that there are some limitations regarding the teachers and high school students. I myself have been invited by high school students to go out drinking with them... I politely refused. (common sense prevails) However, if a 25 year old woman asks me to go out drinking with her.. that is a different story..

[Sweetsee]

Ntropy,


Nobody ever said that.

Only curious about societies perceptions.




Cheers,
S

[Glenski]

Sweetsee,

Yes, that's all. Just a simple question, "Why do you want to know?" Do I have to ask a zillion in reply?

I see you have edited your post with that snooty little innuendo. Good for you, because you had no business writing that. My Japanese wife was never my student, and it was way off base for you to insinuate that, even in the loosest of terms.

To tell the truth, the reason I asked was twofold.

1. In an earlier thread, you suggested that you were going to do "research" on some interesting topic. I thought perhaps this was it.

2. More importantly, since you have been teaching in Japan for 15 years and have been in the public school system for a while, I was rather confused at why you had to ask. Again, it would seem to me that you are the one who should be answering, not asking, such things. With that in mind, care to elaborate on why you felt you had to ask? I mean, what have you learned in the last 15 years?

[Sweetsee]

Glenski,

I apologize.

1. I said I was envolved in a research project, not doing one. It has to do with EFL in Japan.

2. I ask the question to stimulate discussion. There are three cases, I know of, where HS teachers have wed their former students.

I was simply curious whether anyone else had any feelings on the matter.

I agree with a previous poster and consider it an abuse of power and unethical.

Also, as far as I know this is unique to Japan. Elsewhere, I have heard of uni instructors envolved with students but not HS.

I sincerely hope I haven't offended you in any way. I was merely surprised at the brevity of your response and felt perhaps this was a sensitive subject with you. Is it?

Do you have an opinion or is it a topic that "doesn't warrant a reponse, from you anyway?"




Cheers,
S


The only thing I know for sure is that I know nothing at all.

[Glenski]

[Sweetsee]

Glenski,


I have found that it is common in Japan.

And not the least bit surprising to me.


I don't recall you giving your opinion.

Or was it that it is none of your business what your co-workers do in their private lives with your students?



Cheers,
S

[Glenski]

[Sweetsee]

Glenski wrote
"Others have pretty much stated the same opinions that I hold."


Aside from reading every post again, how am I to ascertain your opinion?

Forgive my asking, but all previous posts I have read of yours were always informative and to the point. Yet, you don't care to give an opinion here.

Perhaps, your opinions are your own and not relevant to this forum?



Well then, are you enjoying this wonderful summer solstice day?

Any celebrations on tap in your neck of the woods?



All the best Glenski,
S

[Gordon]

[Glenski]

Geez, Sweetsee!

[Synne]

[Sweetsee]

Thanks Glenski,


I understand now where you stand on the teacher/student relationship issue. And I'm with you 100%.




Cheers,
S


P.S. FWIW, I value your opinion.