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timothypfox · Joined: 20 Feb 2008 Posts: 492

Fifth Column, your response started respectfully, and then you smugly implied that I never tried 1), 2), or 3) and for these reasons failed in my marriage. How would someone in a marry NOT try to keep their partner interested? Nobody intends to have their marriage end up in a train wreck assuming they entered into the union honestly.

Don't attempt to read between the lines in what I wrote to search for reasons how I failed to keep my marriage together and imply things about my "inadequacies" as a marriage partner.

That is something for another discussion, and not something I want to discuss with a stranger - you. Marriages break up for a variety of reasons - even when you are doing or trying to do everything right. That is my point, and my experience.

As it was general reflection on the topic of Japanese infidelity (which this whole discussion sidetracks away from), I was only philosophically reflecting.

Maitoshi · Joined: 04 May 2014 Posts: 718 Location: 何処でも

Very well said, Timothy!

Even later in life, people do change quite a bit, particularly after kids enter the relationship dynamic.

At times, it can be quite a struggle to remember what I ever saw in my wife.

I remember reading an apropos quote somewhere (though I can't recall the author's name): "women marry men, expecting to change them. men marry women, expecting them never to change. both are disappointed"

Maitoshi · Joined: 04 May 2014 Posts: 718 Location: 何処でも

Found it!

"Men marry women with the hope they will never change. Women marry men with the hope they will change. Invariably they are both disappointed."

Albert Einstein

rxk22 · Joined: 19 May 2010 Posts: 1629

I wonder with the somewhat larger cheating culture here, how many Dads are raising kids that aren't theirs?

http://living.msn.com/life-inspired/are-you-raising-another-mans-child
http://www.wisegeek.com/how-many-men-unknowingly-raise-children-who-arent-their-own.htm
It is pretty common in the US, well more common than it should be. I think in Japan, it may very well be even more common Shocked

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Master Shake · Joined: 03 Nov 2006 Posts: 1202 Location: Colorado, USA

I have heard from several sources that Japanese wives pretty much stop having sex after the kids are born. Is this true?

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