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JZer · Joined: 16 Jan 2005 Posts: 3898 Location: Pittsburgh

Does anyone know if a double standard exist among South American girls? Someone on this forum once wrote that South American women are less concerned in giving it up to foreigners than locals because they thought that the Latino men expected them to be virgins and it would ruin their reputation if they had sex too easily with a local man. On the other hand they felt that foreign men did not expect them to be good girls. Any truth to this?

P.S. I have no opinion on this. I just wanted to see what other people thought.

moonraven · Joined: 24 Mar 2004 Posts: 3094

From what friends have told me, once you are "quemada" (burned) you are not very desirable in the marriage marketplace. Doesn't matter with whom you did the deed.

I should qualify that by saying that the above is the case in towns in the provinces. It may be different in Mexico City or other large cities.

Ben Round de Bloc · Joined: 16 Jan 2003 Posts: 1946

OK, so I asked my students. Keep in mind that my students are mostly a mixture from Merida and from villages here in the state of Yucatan. Most are between the ages of 18 and 24, but there are younger students (15-17) and older students mixed in, too. When I asked, "How many men and women do you know who were virgins on their wedding day?" the consensus was about 2%. When I asked, "Of those same people you know, how many had more than one sexual partner prior to marriage?" they couldn't come to an agreement. Most said they thought the women they knew probably had maybe one or two, while the men, if they could be believed, had more than that. They said "decent" single women don't sleep around, but that most women do have sex with long-time steady boyfriends that they plan to marry. When I asked, "What about the guys? Do they only have sex with someone they plan to marry?" they all rolled their eyes and laughed like Ya, right! What a dumb question!

JZer · Joined: 16 Jan 2005 Posts: 3898 Location: Pittsburgh

JZer · Joined: 16 Jan 2005 Posts: 3898 Location: Pittsburgh

thelmadatter · Posted: Mon Apr 18, 2005 8:07 pm Post subject: gotta wonder

Gotta wonder about those self-reported stats....

OK, so you got women who supposedly only sleep with the guy they intend to marry, but guys who will sleep with any willing female ... supposedly. Who the heck are these guys sleeping with?

Ill believe that in general (and very general), guys will sleep with more women than women with guys. (true in the States too) but that still leaves an interesting imbalance.

matttheboy · Joined: 01 Jul 2003 Posts: 854 Location: Valparaiso, Chile

I've mentioned this somewhere before:

Almost all of my male Ecuadorian friends wanted their wives to be virgins. BUT, all of these guys were always on the hunt for a girl to sleep with...trying to explain to them that this doesn't a) add up, or b) make any kind of sense, was akin to a bit of head, banging and brick wall action.

Here in Argentina (at least in Buenos Aires and Mendoza and i assume for any large city) it's pretty much expected that boys and girls sleep together whether they're in a relationship or not. In fact, going out at the weekend in Buenos Aires reminds me of being at university-absolutely everyone on the pull. Quite entertaining to watch actually, thank god i don't have to get involved with all that anymore (although i look back fondly on the days when i was all alone, when i seriously think about it, it was rubbish!!) Very Happy

Ben Round de Bloc · Joined: 16 Jan 2003 Posts: 1946

thelmadatter · Posted: Tue Apr 19, 2005 1:52 pm Post subject: :D

Ben

Justin Trullinger · Posted: Tue Apr 19, 2005 2:41 pm Post subject:

This may be over the line, but another trend I've noticed, aside from the who/how many question, is a question of what people actually get up to.
Several Ecuadorian (male) friends have told me that there are certain things (intentionally left vague to maintain "g" rating) that they enjoy, but would only ever expect from a "loose woman." Things no "decent woman" would do, and no "decent man" would expect from his wife or serious girlfriend. Things that, in fact, to me, seem like a fairly normal part of a normal relationship. Anyone else run into this?

Justin

Ben Round de Bloc · Joined: 16 Jan 2003 Posts: 1946

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thelmadatter · Posted: Tue Apr 19, 2005 7:17 pm Post subject: tabus

Ive also heard of the DeNiro thing about oral sex and an ex-boyfriend of mine here told me that lots of guys feel that way about the mother of their children. Now, I have no intention of becoming the mother of anyone else's children so I guess thats why Ive met any guys personally with a hang up about that. Although I did meet a guy who didnt even want to hug a woman if he thought it was "her time of the month" But then, he was a bit whacked.

By the way, www.latinforos.com has some interesting forums dealing with sex. Ive read a few curious things in there.

FitterHappier · Joined: 13 Apr 2005 Posts: 1