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shaner · Joined: 27 May 2005 Posts: 47 Location: Medellin, Colombia

I have a question that will probably annoy some people but what the heck.

Has anyone ever had a student really hit on you? I mean in your face sexual advance.

I once had a lovely female studet wait for all her classmates to leave the room and then when I asked her if she had a question about the class, she grabbed me and and kissed me.

I didn't know what to do. Has this happened to anyone else. I have a lot of stories like about Mexico.

Cdaniels · Posted: Sun Dec 25, 2005 3:32 am Post subject: Whoa!

Having we been hitting the Christmas cheer a little too hard? Wink

I'm not sure how to interpret "lovely female," but if the feelings are mutual and she's of an appropraite age, etc, etc. Set the limits for romance for after the course. If she's no longer interested when you're no longer the teacher..., you've saved youself a lot of grief and trouble. Fortunately this kind of problem is taught about in psychology/therapist training.

Guy Courchesne · Joined: 10 Mar 2003 Posts: 9650 Location: Mexico City

shaner · Joined: 27 May 2005 Posts: 47 Location: Medellin, Colombia

I guess I did have one too many egg nogs when I wrote this topic. Won't happen again kids.

Merry Christmas.

Cdaniels · Posted: Mon Dec 26, 2005 12:05 am Post subject: Re: Sorry

Guy Courchesne · Joined: 10 Mar 2003 Posts: 9650 Location: Mexico City

Two weeks away...you must be just about foaming at the mouth Mr. Daniels...I do hope you'll report in from the Rviera. Maybe not with an egg noggy point view, but rather a Mexican one?

Salud, companyeros!

Cdaniels · Posted: Mon Dec 26, 2005 4:24 am Post subject: Oh oh

Errr- Yes and maybe anticipating a need for cold showers? Laughing

Its only cert time though. the real part will be getting a contract and doing teaching. Shocked

But I'll just miss Little Christmas in Mexico Crying or Very sad

I'm always miserable at New Years... and Johnny Damon just signed with the Yankees. Get me Outta Here!!!

carolynne · Joined: 24 Sep 2005 Posts: 80 Location: Spain

Ah, the trauma!

I've had some guys make subtle comments and I just laugh but remain neutral if possible. However, there have been some cases where things got out of hand... I was teaching Saudi men and I had this kind of thing all the time... My response? Either you stop (cat calling in class, trying to kiss me/grab my arse etc) or you sit in the dos's office for my classes. (I didn't discuss this with my dos- it came out in a moment of fustration and disbelief! - but as it turned out I had his full support. Luckily!) Unfortunately I had to do it once, but it stopped straight after that. Good too because it's difficult when you're class is getting up to grab you all the time Rolling Eyes

Actually now that I think about it, I've been hit on in almost every adult class I've given. I suppose it's because all my classes have consisted of typically 'macho' cultures. Hmmm, I starting to get irritated now that I think about it. I think I'm going to have some more mulled wine... (yes, please excuse my grammar!)

MELEE · Posted: Wed Dec 28, 2005 3:51 pm Post subject:

My students are 80% males between the ages of 17 and 22, when I started this job, I was 25. Have I ever been hit on in class, hell yeah. After my first semester I stopped wearing any skirts that were above my knee. (We have those platforms at the front of our classrooms so the students at the back can see the board, and the students in the front can see, use your imagination Laughing

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If you've read a lot of the archives you can probably find mention of how I met my husband Embarassed

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Guy Courchesne · Joined: 10 Mar 2003 Posts: 9650 Location: Mexico City

thelmadatter · Posted: Wed Dec 28, 2005 7:41 pm Post subject:

Henry_Cowell · Joined: 27 May 2005 Posts: 3352 Location: Berkeley

carolynne · Joined: 24 Sep 2005 Posts: 80 Location: Spain

Haha... But who knows one day I may meet a lifelong partner while being groped in front of a class??? Here's hoping!