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travelingirl68 · Posted: Fri May 26, 2006 11:06 am Post subject:

As far as a poll goes, I would say yes - but only with the right person. I am not interested in being in a relationship just to be in one. Smile

To the original poster, I would say that when you are happy and productive and all that other good stuff, you tend to attract the right people. (To echo a previous poster!)

I would also share some good advice that I did not heed my first year abroad (with disastrous results): give yourself time to get comfortable in your new surroundings, go through culture shock and come out on the other side feeling confident and comfortable in your own new skin before jumping into a relationship. I am not saying that those 'just got off the plane' relationships never work, but that many people use them as a crutch to get through the feelings of alienation.

That said, I am very happy in my relationship of 6 months with a wonderful Indian man!

carolynv · Joined: 08 May 2006 Posts: 7

Does anyone have any thoughts on what 'romantic' life is like for western woman in Asia?

curious

carolynv · Joined: 08 May 2006 Posts: 7

oops...women

anospi · Posted: Mon Jul 10, 2006 12:30 am Post subject:

I lived in Cambodia for ten months and most of the single western women I knew there were not having the time of their lives relationship-wise.

I knew a lot of people in the expat community, and one day over breakfast a group of us tried to think of all the western guys in town who were a) single, b) didn't sleep with prostitutes and c) weren't gay and I think we came up with four names. That took some time too!

Saying this, I know one girl who met the love of her life, a local man, in a small town in the remote north of the country. Anything can happen Smile

carolynv · Joined: 08 May 2006 Posts: 7

Just as I suspected Confused

So, the locals-not interested in western women generally, huh?

thanks

anospi · Posted: Mon Jul 10, 2006 2:07 am Post subject:

Generally it was the other way around. I haven't meet too many women who are particularly fond of Asian men. And plenty of them are interested in western women.

Rin · Joined: 09 Jan 2006 Posts: 173 Location: Doha

jr1965 · Joined: 09 Jul 2004 Posts: 175

Super Frank · Joined: 03 Feb 2006 Posts: 365

Yeah, big up to the UK males, cheers girl xx

JZer · Joined: 16 Jan 2005 Posts: 3898 Location: Pittsburgh

schminken · Posted: Wed Jul 12, 2006 8:43 am Post subject:

I have lived in Europe for six years and I love my job. It's a great job and it's really rewarding. But....I can honestly say that in the last 6 years, my personal life has not changed at all and it's one of the reasons I've decided to leave Europe. I really don't believe I will ever get married if I stay here and I want to get married and maybe have children one day. I hate to talk about ticking clocks but I am starting to hear mine.

I know going back to my home country doesn't automatically mean that I will find the right person but I just can't take my lackluster personal life anymore! Dating in my home country is hard enough but it seems that here a thousand new factors come into play that make it even more difficult for me. When I meet somebody, it's harder to be "me" because I'm speaking German and I'm not able tp express myself the same way I express myself in English and therefore I can't seem to attract guys here with a joke or whatever I would do normally. I've been with many guys that would be thrilled at first because I was "the exotic foreigner"(tm) but when it came time to get serious, they would tell me that I wasn't Austrian enough or that their family wouldn't accept me. There are a lot of foreign men here married to Austrian women but you don't see as many foreign women married to Austrian men.

After a while it just seemed my whole life was my job and I got tired of it. You need both a personal life and work life and they need to be seperate. My personal life IS my job. So it's time to move it on.

jr1965 · Joined: 09 Jul 2004 Posts: 175