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like2answer
Joined: 21 Sep 2006 Posts: 154
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Posted: Thu Jan 11, 2007 7:39 am Post subject: English Men in the UAE |
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At my job in the UAE, when I get introduced to men from England (not anywhere else on the island), some of them tell me right away that they are married. I find this odd. I've never met a man from another place in the world who does that.
Then two other N. American single women, in the UAE, told me the same thing happens to them. All of us women are different ages and have very different personalities, but none of us say, "Hey, we are single and would like to date you." The men just tell us they are married.
Then last week I was talking to a man with an English accent in line at the supermarket, and he pointed out his family and told me he was married. Do men from England get hit on a lot? Are they afraid?
Is this odd, or am I? Ok, I am odd, but isn't this very odd? |
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Bindair Dundat
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Posted: Thu Jan 11, 2007 9:05 am Post subject: Re: English Men in the UAE |
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like2answer wrote: |
At my job in the UAE, when I get introduced to men from England (not anywhere else on the island), some of them tell me right away that they are married. I find this odd. I've never met a man from another place in the world who does that.
Then two other N. American single women, in the UAE, told me the same thing happens to them. All of us women are different ages and have very different personalities, but none of us say, "Hey, we are single and would like to date you." The men just tell us they are married.
Then last week I was talking to a man with an English accent in line at the supermarket, and he pointed out his family and told me he was married. Do men from England get hit on a lot? Are they afraid?
Is this odd, or am I? Ok, I am odd, but isn't this very odd? |
Maybe they're just being careful or they don't want to mislead you. I wouldn't consider this strange at all. What would you think if the conversation just kept getting friendlier and friendlier and they didn't tell you? |
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like2answer
Joined: 21 Sep 2006 Posts: 154
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Posted: Thu Jan 11, 2007 9:16 am Post subject: |
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That's the point. It is the first meeting and it really isn't getting "friendly."
Person who knows both people = A
Me = B
English man = C
A: Hello Mr Darcy. This is Elizabeth.
C: Nice to met you Elizabeth. I'm married.
B: Nice to meet you Mr Darcy. (What do I say then? "I'm single"? "Congratulations"? "How long?" "Thank you for sharing."?)
Man at supermarket: <He turns to talk to me>"This line is very long and I'm late."
Me: "Sorry to hear that."
Man: "Yes, that's my family over there. I'm here with my family."
Me: "Ok"
Not strange? |
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Sheikh Inal Ovar

Joined: 04 Dec 2005 Posts: 1208 Location: Melo Drama School
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Posted: Thu Jan 11, 2007 10:42 am Post subject: |
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Yes ... we are all the same ... it's probably a side effect of the cloning experiments of the late 1940's and early 1950's ... to repopulate war torn England ... |
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Shakhbut
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Posted: Thu Jan 11, 2007 11:32 am Post subject: |
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globalnomad2

Joined: 23 Jul 2005 Posts: 562
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Posted: Thu Jan 11, 2007 11:37 am Post subject: |
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Like2answer...That's really funny! I don't know about these dashing Englishmen, but I, as an American who was handsomer when younger, got hit on only in Malaysia and Japan. Never here in the UAE. One thing I've noticed in the UAE...my Irish women colleagues at HCT were so wonderful--I loved them! And they're the only ones who liked me! So tell me, what's that all about?? Not that I got to know them very well...I wish I had.
By the way Like2...I'm divorced!! Note that down.  |
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veiledsentiments

Joined: 20 Feb 2003 Posts: 17644 Location: USA
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Posted: Thu Jan 11, 2007 3:37 pm Post subject: |
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I don't recall this happening, but I must say that I would consider it odd too.
Just as in Egypt, the first question that was always asked of a woman by an Egyptian of either sex was "How many children do you have?" Apparently all are assumed to have them and it is considered a safe area of conversation with a stranger.
I do remember a single American woman that warned me just after my arrival in the Gulf to beware the 'single' Brits... as "they all have a wife and family back home that they neglect to mention." Perhaps you are running into the honest men who don't want to keep that reputation alive.
But... in the supermarket line?
VS
(I agree with GN2 about the Irish... they were my favorite nationality to work and socialize with in the Gulf.) |
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globalnomad2

Joined: 23 Jul 2005 Posts: 562
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Posted: Thu Jan 11, 2007 4:05 pm Post subject: |
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...and the lasses are so hot and sweet! And that includes personality, voice, intelligence (except for one I knew, from Belfast, but too much perfection from one small island would be just too...perfect, right?)
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redcliff
Joined: 23 Nov 2006 Posts: 46
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Posted: Fri Jan 12, 2007 10:37 pm Post subject: |
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slightly off topic,
but when I was in Malaysia everyone seemed (anytime between the hours of 10 and 4) to ask me if I had "taken my lunch" ?
Apart from the odd verb choice I was never sure if I looked hungry or was being propositioned. Of course on the other hand the food in Malaysia is so good that any excuse to eat would be welcomed... |
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scot47

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Posted: Sat Jan 13, 2007 5:25 am Post subject: |
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This has never happened to me. |
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globalnomad2

Joined: 23 Jul 2005 Posts: 562
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Posted: Sat Jan 13, 2007 9:20 am Post subject: |
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Redcliff--About "have you taken your dinner" in Malaysia, here is a little excerpt on this topic from the Malaysia chapter of my as-yet unpublished travel memoir:
The first few days at our LNSU campus, I am puzzled by the Malay administrative assistant who keeps smiling and mumbling about breakfast. �Have you taken your breakfast?� he says.
What�s he talking about? I wonder, and why does he care if I�ve had my Cocoa Puffs? Is he inviting me out for some spicy Nasi Lemak? I�ve got class in ten minutes.
Then I get the same thing after work when I go home to my Chinese neighborhood, where a friendly neighbor asks, �Have you tekken your dinner?�
It�s all very mystifying, until I finally realize it�s all about food in Malaysia, so the language reflects it, even as a function of everyday greetings. Six to 10 pm--have you taken your dinner? After 10 pm, have you taken your supper? Back to work--have you taken your breakfast?
Back in the days of the British Empire, the locals apparently heard somebody say �how do you take your tea?� and they started generalizing �take� as in �Have you taken your dinner?� |
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veiledsentiments

Joined: 20 Feb 2003 Posts: 17644 Location: USA
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Posted: Sat Jan 13, 2007 3:44 pm Post subject: |
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scot47 wrote: |
This has never happened to me. |
gee... I wonder why not?
VS |
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Bindair Dundat
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Posted: Sat Jan 13, 2007 4:26 pm Post subject: |
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globalnomad2 wrote: |
Redcliff--About "have you taken your dinner" in Malaysia, here is a little excerpt on this topic from the Malaysia chapter of my as-yet unpublished travel memoir:
The first few days at our LNSU campus, I am puzzled by the Malay administrative assistant who keeps smiling and mumbling about breakfast. �Have you taken your breakfast?� he says.
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This is a translation of what is a very common greeting in Southeast Asia. It is left over from days when the question of whether one had eaten one's breakfast was a matter of serious concern. I was taken aback the first time I heard it in Korea, but have found out since that it is not at all unusual among Asians. |
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helmsman
Joined: 13 Aug 2006 Posts: 58 Location: GCC
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Posted: Sat Jan 13, 2007 7:15 pm Post subject: |
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These gentlemen from the UK are missing out on a lot of fun by spilling the beans so soon.
I wonder whether they give out this information when they meet incredibly attractive women?
As for me, I am not in any hurry to reveal my married status, except to overly friendly men -- which I supect is what a lot of straight men do. |
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globalnomad2

Joined: 23 Jul 2005 Posts: 562
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Posted: Sat Jan 13, 2007 8:23 pm Post subject: |
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Uhm...I'm confused. |
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