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[kdynamic]

[gaijinalways]

I think Sherri and kdynamic raise valid points; as guys we really don't know. Based on foreign women I have spoken to in Japan, my own feelings are mixed. If we are looking at the actual number of marriages, it's rare indeed that a Japanese man marries a Western women (the majority of them marry Chinese, Filipino, and Korean wives), in contrast with the number of Japanese women who marry Western men. But remember, we are primarily talking about foreign women dating in Japan in this thread.

[Sherri]

I wonder how many western (US, Canada, UK, Oz, NZ etc) guys are married to Japanese women? I know that there are about 1,000 western female contributers to an email list I belong to for women married to Japanese men (mainly living in Japan). There are other organizations too with some cross membership, and some members are just in serious relationships--not married.

Message to girls coming to Japan, if you want to date Japanese guys, there are many opps out there, don't be put off by the nay-sayers!

Best
Sherri

[kdynamic]

[gaijinalways]

Sorry KD, I meant the recent part of the thread.

As to the %s for marriage Sherri;

http://www.glocom.org/special_topics/social_trends/20021112_trends_s16/index.html

http://www.kanai.net/weblog/archive/2004/04/02/06h50m11s


Min. of Health & Welfare nationwide figures for 2000


Total marriages: 798,138, of which:
Japanese husband-Foreign wife: 28,326
Foreign husband-Japanese wife: 7,937
total mixed marriages: 36,263 or 4.5% percent

Origin of non-Japanese spouses:

Foreign-born wife:
China 34.9%
Philippines 26.5
Korea 21.9%
Thai 7.5%
Brazil 1.3%
USA 0.7%
Other 7.1%

Foreign-born husband:
Korea 31.6%
USA 18.7%
China11.1%
Brazil 3.5%
UK 3.1%
Other 32%

Only 163 of marriages in 2002 of Japanese men were with Americans.


http://whatjapanthinks.com/2005/11/29/international-marriage-still-means-japanese-man-and-asian-woman/


Husband Japanese, wife foreign

Nationality of wife 1985 1990 1995 2000 2001 2002 2003
South or North Korea 3,622 8,940 4,521 6,214 6,188 5,353 5,318
China 1,766 3,614 5,174 9,884 13,936 10,750 10,242
Philippines n/a n/a 7,188 7,519 7,160 7,630 7,794
Thailand n/a n/a 1,915 2,137 1,840 1,536 1,445
USA 254 260 198 202 175 163 156
UK n/a n/a 82 76 93 85 65
Brazil n/a n/a 579 357 347 284 295
Peru n/a n/a 140 145 142 126 139
Others 2,096 7,212 990 1,792 2,091 2,030 2,427

Wife Japanese, husband foreign

Nationality of husband 1985 1990 1995 2000 2001 2002 2003
South or North Korea 2,525 2,721 2,842 2,509 2,477 2,378 2,235
China 380 708 769 878 793 814 890
Philippines n/a n/a 52 109 83 104 117
Thailand n/a n/a 19 67 55 45 62
USA 876 1,091 1,303 1,483 1,416 1,488 1,529
UK n/a n/a 213 249 267 317 334
Brazil n/a n/a 162 279 243 231 265
Peru n/a n/a 66 124 135 137 125
Others 662 1,080 1,514 2,239 2,286 2,407 2,601

Sorry the table figures don't match up so well after I copied it over.

So for 2003, we're looking at 1863 (US/UK) marriages with Japanese women versus 221 (US/UK) marriages with Japanese men. That looks about 7.5 to one in favor of the Western men.

My apologies to Canadian, S. African, Australian, and New Zealand partners. If you can read Japanese, the second link above also has an excel link in Japanese and this may add details that are missing for some nationalities.

[Jon22]

[MyTy]

I have the best of both worlds when I'm in Japan/Asia. My mother is Swedish and my Dad is black Brazilian/Chinese. (We're Canadian). I can blend in pretty much anywhere worth visiting on the planet. I date the J girls who don't like white guys, the J girls who don't like black guys and the J girls who like both. I can pick and choose and this goes for Korea and any other place in Asia as well. Don't get me started about the hotties in Korea.

I have dated a few girls that come from very traditional wealthy families. Sometimes it's those girls whose parents are the most strict or traditional and it can be difficult to get in that 'inner circle of trust' as Robert DeNiro put it. "I got my eyes on you Focker" Of course it can work the other way too. Some uneducated fathers can be pretty ignorant. I wish you luck meeting the father of a girl who is from Hiroshima. It's about a 50/50 shot of amicability.

I'm dating a girl who comes from a wealthy family complete with lineage. The Prince recently presented her father with the most prestigious yellow ribbon award for engineering. His company is the oldest environmental engineering corporation in Japan. The cute thing is I met her online from Canada and she waited for me to come to Japan. She's well known too. She was a former sports TV journalist from Tokyo of all things. She doesn't like going to clubs and bars because the Japanese people recognize her and talk about her.

There are millions of easy hot J girls. All the nampas can have them. I don't want my jimmy to break and be chewing my fingernails for days after. I stick to the conservative girls who have real jobs or lifelong students. I like the cool artsy girls from Osaka as well.

You won't find the prettiest and classiest girls walking around Shibuya with cigarette in hand waiting for some Canuck, Yankee, Kiwi, Aussie or Brit and they don't hit the clubs either. Infact the best girls have never even been with more than maybe 2 guys let alone a gaijin.

Regarding the other post. I have a lot of Japanese guy friends and they definitely would like to date a non Japanese. They don't care if she's white. It just happens that most female gaijins besides immigrants are white. Any girl who is not Japanese and pretty is on their list.

Gaijins and "yellow cabs" are a penny a dozen. What's the old saying? It's quality not quantity.

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