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[southofreality]

To the OP:
For many, living abroad is a truly life-changing experience. You may decide after a year here that you don't want to go home. In that case, you'll have to tie up all those loose ends back home while being based overseas. I was in a similar situation to yours the first time I came to Japan. It didn't work out. I returned home, tied up my loose ends and returned to Japan within a year. It's been much easier to make it work here without worrying about having major obligations back home.

[sallycat]

hey, everyone, being able to use chopsticks proficiently is a very important skill. the japanese are impressed by anyone who is "ohashi jouzu".


also, find the japanese language easy to pick up? BWA_HA_HA_HA_HA_HA_HA .

[furiousmilksheikali]

[kdynamic]

My prediction: if you come, you'll have a great time. You'll make enough money to make your loan payments and still have enough to enjoy the nightlife, travel, etc.

But you'll lose the girlfriend. My suggestion would be to lose the girlfriend before you come, or else you'll have to go through several months of BS before the inevitable breakup over the phone. Not fun.

If you are serious about your girlfriend, get married now and come over here together. If you're not serious about her, you'll never last after you get here. It sounds to me like you want to have the freedom to live your life and experience the world.

Either come here and go all the way (break up with the girl or bring her with you, sell the car, and jump feet first) or else don't bother because you won't enjoy your time here if you're always distracted by what's back home.

[JU!]

[Precise]

Yeah I had a long distance relationship with a Romanian girl before. It lasted for about a year but then we ended up breaking up. Long distance relationships are a pain in the arse but it has always been my dream to go to Japan so not doing so would make me upset. This girl I'm with now I eventually want to marry so I have to find some sort of way to go to Japan and still be able to be with her once I get back. It's a risk I know but if I never go then I'll always wonder and never know.

[Quibby84]

so why cant she go with you? Maybe wait to come to japan until after you are married?

[Precise]

[MrCAPiTUL]

you know what? Here's what I say, final:

Unless you are ready to marry her NOW - go to Japan and fulfill your personal appetite. Before you go, free up the relationship so you can both date without any negativity surrounding it. When you come back, one of a few things will happen. They are:
A) you both realize no other person satisfied as well as you or her and you get married.
B) you both realize neither of you is right for eachother.
C) one of you realizes you aren't right, whilst the other thinks you are.

Those are the real risks. Contemplate it. Sit on it for a while. Finally, search for a job, hopefully get an offer, and then make up your mind as to whether or not it is truly something you want to do. If it is, process that VISA and go to Japan, if not, work on your relationship.

Either way you decide, the best advice I can give you is this -

Make the most of your decision and don't look back!

[Quibby84]

I think that that is great advice. If this was really the girl that you would marry then you will marry her...right? No Japanese with a short skirt will get in your way...haha.

Good Luck

[Precise]

Thank you for you insight. I guess I'll have to take my time and consider what's right for me and my loved ones. I will go to Japan eventually. If the relationship with my girl was meant to last it will. Time will tell.

I really like Japan and like I said, I'm into nature and history and such. I'd love to see Tokyo but I think I would prefer to live in a quieter, more traditional town. Are there a lot of beautiful sites to see in the countryside that don't require a lot of money to spend?

[canuck]