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[Nagoyaguy]

J. said;

[japanman]

I do think though that such problems arise a lot between English speaking couples. A lot of Japanese say things in English that they would never say in Japanese. They feel that English gives them the right to say whatever they like and be as blunt or disagreeable as they like. I realy don't understand these couples who only speak English, that is where the root of the problem arises.

[jademonkey]

As I said to my (Japanese) wife long ago, "The biggest difference between you and me is gender. Everything else is secondary. Therefore there is no problem that we can't work out." It worked, I guess.

[gaijinalways]

I think I will back what J said. It does take a lot of patience, something even easy going me is short on sometimes. Surprisingly, Japanese have a different view of 'easy going', thinking it means you will accept anything, thus someone like the pig in the adage 'don't throw pearls before swine'. Also J, I never can use hormones as an excuse for when I am cross, though I wish I could!

But actually I am one of those guys that can sometimes say, ' I understand you, and will defend your right to express your opinion, but I'm going to do my thing'