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dynow
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it's a miracle, but the consulate finally got back to me!
contrary to what some may think, getting married in the states is going to be a total piece of cake.
a family member of mine called the appropriate offices this week and as it turns out, all my fiance needs to marry me (in New Jersey) is a translated copy of her passport. with that copy, it needs to be signed and stamped by a notary in America and you're done. ID that I will require: valid driver's license.
regarding the consulate, they wrote to me yesterday telling me that my fiance can travel using her tourist visa to the states and legally marry me, no K1 fiance visa or anything else is required. |
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spiral78
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Congrats!  |
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maniak
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Dynow, how long have you known the girl? Do you live together?
Im no bitter crusty veteran like Jack (sorry Jack) Im polish myself, but trust me, looks can be decieving and Ive known too many polish girls that turned from nice normal happy active woman into freeloading bonkers sziksas.. |
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dynow
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| Posted: Sat Jan 16, 2010 2:18 pm Post subject: |
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| i guess in some weird way, i should be thanking you all for looking out for ole' dynow |
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Jack Walker
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| Posted: Sat Jan 16, 2010 4:47 pm Post subject: |
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| maniak wrote: |
Dynow, how long have you known the girl? Do you live together?
Im no bitter crusty veteran like Jack (sorry Jack) Im polish myself, but trust me, looks can be decieving and Ive known too many polish girls that turned from nice normal happy active woman into freeloading bonkers sziksas.. |
Lol...I admit that I'm a crusty bitter old Guv'nor! 
Anyway Mr.Dynow,congrats to you but let me give you some advice.....think this through thoroughly.Polish women are complete,total,nutcases. 
Nice for a 6-8 month courtship....but marriage........  |
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dynow
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Anyway Mr.Dynow,congrats to you but let me give you some advice.....think this through thoroughly.Polish women are complete,total,nutcases. |
hahaha!
well, where I come from, the divorce rate for first time marriages is 41%....  ..... so I'll take my chances with a Polish girl  |
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Jack Walker
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Anyway Mr.Dynow,congrats to you but let me give you some advice.....think this through thoroughly.Polish women are complete,total,nutcases. |
hahaha!
well, where I come from, the divorce rate for first time marriages is 41%.... ..... so I'll take my chances with a Polish girl |
I'd say it's getting near that number here as well.Everyone I talk to seems to be divorced or know of someone who is divorced.It's the new trend now!  |
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hrvatski
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Currently Poland's at about a 25% divorce rate for new marriages, not bad, could be kept low by those unwilling to divorce in front of the Catholic church.
Anyhow I'm sure dynow knows what he's getting himself into, perhaps you guys didn't test the waters thoroughly enough before jumping in? I'm also sure there are some warning signs that your partner is going to be a bat-shit crazy spouse if you're paying enough attention.
I think we're forgetting women are insanely difficult to understand no matter where they're from! |
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dynow
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| Currently Poland's at about a 25% divorce rate for new marriages, not bad, could be kept low by those unwilling to divorce in front of the Catholic church. |
along with the grueling amount of paperwork involved, lawyer fees, etc. Going in and out of marriage is simply an easier process in America. let us not forget the numerous wedding chapels in Las Vegas (On avg., there are 114,975 marriages per year are in LV!)
also, the judge really needs to be convinced that the marriage will not and cannot work in order to be granted a divorce in Poland. |
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Sgt Bilko
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| All the best. Mrs Bilko (Polish) and I have just celebrated our 12th anniversary and we're still as happy as ever so it's not impossible. |
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spiral78
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Congrats to the Sgt. Bilkos!
Me and my Czech spouse are going for the 10th next month.
Hurrah! |
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Jack Walker
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| Currently Poland's at about a 25% divorce rate for new marriages, not bad, could be kept low by those unwilling to divorce in front of the Catholic church. |
along with the grueling amount of paperwork involved, lawyer fees, etc. Going in and out of marriage is simply an easier process in America. let us not forget the numerous wedding chapels in Las Vegas (On avg., there are 114,975 marriages per year are in LV!)
also, the judge really needs to be convinced that the marriage will not and cannot work in order to be granted a divorce in Poland. |
My divorce in Poland took one,40 minute session.The toatal cost was 900 zl.Very simple and straightforward.
Yeeeeeh....marriage....falling in love....yeeeeeeh Humbug!  |
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justflyingin
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| hrvatski wrote: |
Currently Poland's at about a 25% divorce rate for new marriages, not bad, could be kept low by those unwilling to divorce in front of the Catholic church.
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I think a better question would be...what percentage of marriages in Poland are happy or reasonably so?
Not many, I'd say. At least not many that I've met. In fact, maybe I can count them on one, maybe two hands. I've been here for 15 years. They don't always get divorced, though. Sometimes, they just live in the same house, but two completely separate lives.
Weird. I'm sure it's the "Catholic" thing/peer pressure/fear of hell that keeps some of them from getting divorced, as well as the high cost of housing (that last one is probably the number one reason). I'm female myself, and maybe I'm a bit prejudiced. But I have noticed that Polish women are very used to "calling the shots" in a marriage and if grandma is around, she will most likely try to run your lives.
So, moving away sounds like a great deal. Since many of you guys are convinced that Polish "birds" are "hot", then probably the best thing to do is get yours and run away.
But many Polish men are wimps and are lazy, and alcoholics to boot. So, the women are often forced into leadership roles in order to keep the families together and the children fed.
So, it probably works both ways.
But I'd say that Polish women in general are "hard to get along with"/very strong-willed and do want to control the marriages. How's that for stereotyping???
There are wonderful exceptions, though. I'm sure there are. I've got a few students this year who seem to have wives who are nice. :0 (I've not the met the wives yet, though.). |
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dynow
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| aaahhhh, it's always nice to hear a woman's point of view, especially one that knows what she's talking about. |
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justflyingin
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| dynow wrote: |
| aaahhhh, it's always nice to hear a woman's point of view, especially one that knows what she's talking about. |
That's really the problem with stereotyping.
Just like "all Americans are loud, obnoxious and fat."
Or Brits (esp. young men) are all "drunks".
Anyway, I think it is mostly the "babcias that are the problem. They don't let the young people live their lives. (At least it isn't the norm.) They really do like the control the family.
I don't live in the heart of Warsaw, so, Warsaw being the enlightened place it is--maybe completely different. |
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