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AjarnIam



Joined: 31 Jan 2010
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PostPosted: Thu Feb 11, 2010 1:50 pm    Post subject: Radical life change? Reply with quote

I was interested in others people's stories about becoming ESL teachers. Did you make a dramatic life change, or had educating people always been your career, and only your location changed.

For me, I walked away from a lucrative career which had fueled a very comfortable lifestyle. Money was just always there in the background waiting to be spent, and never a concern. Then one day after 18 years of living that life, I said screw it, sold everything, moved to Asia and became a teacher. The BMW was replaced with an old pickup truck that argues with me every morning, and the pretentious condo was replaced with a very simple "local style" row house. My monthly rent is equivalent to what I would have spent drinking in 1 night at some flash club. I replaced my agonizing 90 minute commute to work, with a very relaxing 10 minute drive though a countryside of pineapples and palm trees. I spend every nickel I make now, and I'm far less concerned about what the future might be. Most importantly, I wake up smiling know this is what is about.

Interested to hear your stories...
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XiGua



Joined: 13 Dec 2009
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Location: Hunan

PostPosted: Thu Feb 11, 2010 3:19 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Since you have no use for money anymore........can I have some? You can feel happy knowing your money made me happy.

I just feel depressed after reading this. Must be nice.
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jdl



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PostPosted: Thu Feb 11, 2010 3:37 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

AjarnIam,

Good for you! Enjoy life and the world, you have taken an opportunity!.......but keep an eye on that pension. Retirement age comes soooo quickly when one is having fun.
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tomstone



Joined: 09 Dec 2009
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PostPosted: Thu Feb 11, 2010 3:54 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

One of the stories I always open with at the beginning of each term: "English is the third most widely spoken language in the world; English is the most complicated language in the world; but English is the most important language in the world. Why? MONEY! I'm not saying it's a good thing. I wish peace and love and understanding were the most important things, but unfortunately it just ain't true!"

Sounds like you've beaten the odds, my friend! Nice to hear a true success story!
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AjarnIam



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PostPosted: Thu Feb 11, 2010 5:17 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I wouldn't say it's a success story, I'd call it a different story. I think too many people complicate their lives far too much with material items, and constantly worry about financial security, meanwhile forgetting to live. I had a reunion with my friends from that material world about 4 years ago, and I was amazed that I used to be apart of it. All these comparisons of cars and houses, and speed boats, and lake side cabins...I just sat back and smiled. Saying that, there's a few life luxuries I refuse to give up, especially my computer.
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johnslat



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PostPosted: Thu Feb 11, 2010 5:21 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Dear AjarnIam;


" I wouldn't say it's a success story . . ."

Guess it all depends on how one defines "success." It certainly sounds like one according to my definition.

Regards,
John
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nickpellatt



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PostPosted: Thu Feb 11, 2010 5:27 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Well, its a similar story to many Im sure...but a failed relationship at 36 sent my on a short volunteer experience to Kenya....and I spent time in a primary school and loved it, but I always felt teaching was beyond me. Id looked into it in my early 30s, but it just didnt seem possible due to my lack of formal education.

After my 6 months in Kenya, and I didnt want to go home, and I found a 3 month volunteer program in Hainan, China and plumped for that. I then kinda realised that EFL might be the way to go, and that volunteer gig in Hainan led to a full time paid gig. I found that job late 2006, and since then have enjoyed 3 full terms in Hainan....3 summer seasons in England with schools there, and recognising the need for education, I completed a BA from scratch (with a focus on English language studies) and also completed a Trinity on the way.

Im now on another stint in China...and kinda see EFL as the way ahead for me long term.

At the time, I really, honestly didnt know how I would ever recover from the failed relationship.....now, it seems like the best break I ever had, cos without it, I wouldnt have enjoyed the 101 experiences I have had in the last 4 years.

Like the OP, I have moved my focus away from money, and have found happiness on 1/10 of the salary I used to enjoy.
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tomstone



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PostPosted: Thu Feb 11, 2010 5:31 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

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now, it seems like the best break I ever had


The story of my life. Every "devastating" event in my life turned out to be for the best in retrospect. It's enough to make you believe in God.
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AjarnIam



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PostPosted: Thu Feb 11, 2010 5:51 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

One of the many things I find fascinating about TEFL is the ability to just to your job and forget about the race to the top of the mountain. I came from a corporate world where so called "friends" would stab you in the back the second they knew there was a new path to the summit. In my TEFL experience, there is no mountain. It's a nice feeling. I think TEFL is a much harder job than I had before, minus the stress, and yes, more rewarding, but not materially.
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tomstone



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PostPosted: Thu Feb 11, 2010 5:57 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

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I wouldn't say it's a success story, I'd call it a different story.


How about a different kind of success story? Since most people measure success in ducats, depends on what one's definition of "success" entails.
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fat_chris



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PostPosted: Thu Feb 11, 2010 6:11 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Some measure success in ducats, others measure it in Ducati s.

Regards,
fat_chris
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tomstone



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PostPosted: Thu Feb 11, 2010 6:26 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Lot of ducats for a Ducati.
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AjarnIam



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PostPosted: Thu Feb 11, 2010 6:27 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

nickpellatt wrote:
Like the OP, I have moved my focus away from money, and have found happiness on 1/10 of the salary I used to enjoy.



Interesting, I'm exactly 10% as well.
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Hadit



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PostPosted: Thu Feb 11, 2010 7:22 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I've been unemployed for the last two years, and am trying to organize my move into ESL now. I had been practicing meditation and such my whole life, and being denied a menial retail job I thought I was overqualified for was so excellent a blow to my ego that it helped initiate a core spiritual experience lasting several weeks. I was also reading Nisargadatta Maharaj at the time; his book "I Am That" is the best book on enlightenment philosophy I've ever read. http://www.maharajnisargadatta.com/

There is like a dull world some people live in based upon ego desire and material gain, where everyone is pitted against each other. That's why I don't like capitalism, because it promotes such behavior, though admit I don't have the answer to fix it.

Anyway, I have seen first hand how wonderful being impoverished is for the ego. It forces one to live in non-attachment and to experience the real self, which is undefinable and unlimited, of complete joy. I am particularly keen on experiencing some Asian cultures with Buddhism practiced. I am curious if the aer is different there than here in the US.

There is an alchemical term I use to describe the difference in mind set. It is that the traditional Asian cultures are suited towards the "dissolutio" or solution of the ego to a great extent. This tendency is actually apparent in many religions, but it seems very pronounced in such religions as Buddhism and Hinduism (I am actually a Thelemite, a little known religion). I am hoping to pick up on the "dissolutio" vibe during my Asia experience somewhere, which I hope cleanses me of the aer of attachment that seems prevalent here in the US.

Does anyone feel their headspace change from place to place?
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tomstone



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PostPosted: Thu Feb 11, 2010 7:52 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

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Does anyone feel their headspace change from place to place?


No. How many pseudo-Christians do you know in the West? Same thing. People SAY they are something, but very often.....

People are people. Everywhere. Make no mistake about it.
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