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respect for "I don't drink alcohol"?
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Ozzy2



Joined: 27 Feb 2010
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PostPosted: Fri Mar 12, 2010 8:43 am    Post subject: drinking in Thailand Reply with quote

I appreciate the comments everyone has made on this. They are very useful. Does anyone know similar pressure to what's desribed above exist in Thailand?
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basiltherat



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PostPosted: Fri Mar 12, 2010 10:17 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Yes. I was in Kazakhstan for a while and my not now being a big drinker did result in my being given some strange looks.

I was never ostracized as such by the people I was with but, rather, they looked upon me as being rather a wet blanket when it came to a night out on the town.

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kazazt



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PostPosted: Sat Mar 13, 2010 10:28 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

A bit like asking for respect because you don't have a degree.
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naturegirl321



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PostPosted: Mon Mar 15, 2010 5:56 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Saying you're taking Chinese medicine, religion prohibits it, are a recovering alcoholic, or that you're pregnant usually works. Usually.
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Old Surrender



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PostPosted: Thu Mar 18, 2010 2:25 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

naturegirl321 wrote:
Saying you're taking Chinese medicine, religion prohibits it, are a recovering alcoholic, or that you're pregnant usually works. Usually.


Saying that I'm on meds worked for me in China. I actually was taking meds, BTW.
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Justin Trullinger



Joined: 28 Jan 2005
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Location: Seoul, South Korea and Myanmar for a bit

PostPosted: Fri Mar 19, 2010 3:22 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I do drink, but am currently killing off the parasites I picked up in Ecuador. (On pretty heavy meds)

So I'm having a non-drinking period in Korea, and nobody seems to mind.


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NYCESOL11211



Joined: 22 Apr 2008
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PostPosted: Tue Mar 23, 2010 4:23 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Did anyone read River Town: Two Years on the Yangtzee? Shocked The native-Chinese English professors would call one of the other men (also Chinese) in the English department a sissy-girl when he couldn't keep up with their drinking.
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Prof.Gringo



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PostPosted: Mon Mar 29, 2010 8:59 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Drinking is a big past-time in Mexico. But if you say you don't drink, that's all there is to it.

Some drunks might feel like turning you into one, but being firm has good results.
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Tantris



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PostPosted: Wed Apr 21, 2010 5:25 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

The only place where this might happen is Russia. If you think it is a problem simply say you are on medication and can't.
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lummerlaoshi



Joined: 20 Apr 2010
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PostPosted: Thu Apr 22, 2010 2:58 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Japan: politely refuse drinks and it's not an issue.

Thailand: not so much pressure to drink; some ladies may call you a "good man" if you don't drink

China: much more pressure if you are doing business to smoke and drink. I say I'm allergic to alcohol/makes me sick (which is now true).

In all countries, be firm and consistent. If you say you can't drink, but then one time you do, excuses won't work. Most people won't press the issue if you make your refusal firm with a smile.
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jasonXkeller



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PostPosted: Thu Apr 29, 2010 4:55 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I really do worry about this myself. I don't drink and will react negatively if people are persistent. I will be firm but will not make excuses. If they don't like it they can shove it. I don't really like being around people who are drinking anyway. I would like to be sensitive to different cultures, but it's a two way street.
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bombay_kitty



Joined: 25 Feb 2009
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PostPosted: Thu May 13, 2010 2:59 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I'd suggest giving them a reason like "I'm allergic to alcohol" or simply "I can't drink due to health issues". Don't even give them reasons like you're a recovering alcoholic or something because that tells them you CAN drink but that it is a personal decision not to. I've been to China and am currently teaching in Japan, I go out to parties with my co-workers and students but I am notorious amongst them that I will not drink because I simply cannot, unless they so desperately want to see me vomit on them 5 minutes later.
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JDYoung



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PostPosted: Sun May 16, 2010 6:45 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I'm with lummerlaoshi. Be consistent. No alcohol under any circumstances, even if you're told that you should take a shot after having seafood to kill any bacteria. The day before I left China, for what I thought was the last time, I had one cuba libra while waiting for the rain to clear up before trying for a taxi. I came back to China 4 years later. They remembered that one drink.
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