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A teaching job for Me, what do I do with my wife?!
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wjreaves



Joined: 21 Jan 2011
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PostPosted: Thu Feb 03, 2011 6:55 pm    Post subject: A teaching job for Me, what do I do with my wife?! Reply with quote

I"ve been following this forum for quite some time now and i just wanted to start by saying that those of you on here that post have been amazingly helpful!

I'm left now with two questions which I haven't really got answers for:

1- I will have my degree in a couple short months and am confident about landing a job in China however, my wife is only a high school graduate and there is no way I could leave her at home alone in China while I go teach. She likes to babysit or be a nanny but is it realistic for me to first land a job somewhere and then expect her to find something to occupy her time with such as this? I can't sell China to her if she's sitting at home waiting for me to finish teaching... Smile I'm open to other ideas and suggestions as well if you have any.

2- This is somewhat related to the first question: Both my wife and I would like to live in a small village or town (small being like less than 8-10,000 people) and want something picturesque at the same time. Can you guys suggest places in China that would fulfill these requirements

*Decent teaching job for me
*Beautiful place to live, not big city
*Wife could maybe find babysitting or nanny job based on someone looking for English speaking help.

We only speak English but want to learn while we are there.

Appreciate any help you can offer and thanks again!
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Non Sequitur



Joined: 23 May 2010
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Location: China

PostPosted: Fri Feb 04, 2011 12:45 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Doubt that you will find an employer who is legally able to employ a FT in a village of the size you mention.
I think you will need a larger city to accomodate both you and your wife''s employment needs. This doesn't mean no small town experience. I taught over 6 weeks in summer a few years ago in a smallish town in Liaoning prov. BUT I had a regular uni job in Dalian during term time.
I suggest get a uni or college job with accommodation and then your wife can run around local language schools and will get work for sure.
Especially if she is Caucasian, young and relates well to kids.
The language school hours will tend to be weekends and after 3pm weekdays.
Do an initial contract under this scenario and check out the other possibilities as you do so.
China is a big ask at first both culturally and phsically. Get into it by degrees and the total experience will be far more enjoyable.
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Zero



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PostPosted: Fri Feb 04, 2011 1:29 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

A town of less than 8,000 to 10,000 in China is a farming village. Or it is the backwaters of the outskirts of the backwoods. As in, there may not even be a proper road. In the off chance there would be a school to employ you, there would be absolutely nothing, and I mean nothing, to do in your off hours, unless you like mahjong. Or rice paddies.

I've said this before and it wasn't taken well, but I'll say it again, hopefully in kinder language this time. Western males hold an allure to women from developing countries. Some think it's because of our dashing good looks and vibrant personalities, while others think it's our passports. You be the judge. But Asia is rough on western couples. They call Hong Kong the graveyard of expat marriages. I have no reason to think the mainland is any different, except maybe worse. Consider carefully.
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Non Sequitur



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PostPosted: Fri Feb 04, 2011 2:18 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

My 'small' Liaoning town was maybe 200,000 people.
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Mister Al



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PostPosted: Fri Feb 04, 2011 5:09 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Leave your wife at home. Plenty of cute little locals only too willing to keep you warm at night. Laughing

Seriously, your wife has no chance of getting a legal job. Maybe she could help out with some voluntary work but without any language skills that would be difficult unless you are in a big city, and even then....

There are community expat groups in larger cities that keep the tai tais (wives of foreign employees) occupied to a certain extent but maybe in only half a dozen cities or so.

So back to what I said earlier.......................... Laughing
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sistercream



Joined: 18 Dec 2010
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PostPosted: Fri Feb 04, 2011 7:08 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Just to back up what has been said before - in China, 10,000 people is a backwater village, not a town - I have worked somewhere with a population of 50,000 (a county seat) that had not a single ATM machine (as of 2008), and the nearest breakfast cereal and coffee was 16 hours away by bus. There were fewer than 10 people (including the other two foreigners in town) with whom I could communicate in English. No running water, and hole-in-the-ground toilets. OK for a summer school, but would you want to live there full time?

Particularly for a first China job, even if just coming by yourself, you should be looking for somewhere with a reasonable support base for expats - like being able to speak English out of hours and being able to find foods at least close to those you'd eat at home - read up on culture shock.

My own nomination for a small (by Chinese standards), liveable city would be Zhuhai. Good infrastructure, enough expats to find someone else to talk to if the first group you met drives you crazy, and even if your wife can't find anything to do on that side of the border she can head to Macau for the day (quite a few people commute across). Macau is also excellent for grocery shopping and restaurants.
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xi.gua



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PostPosted: Fri Feb 04, 2011 7:29 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Zero wrote:

I've said this before and it wasn't taken well, but I'll say it again, hopefully in kinder language this time. Western males hold an allure to women from developing countries. Some think it's because of our dashing good looks and vibrant personalities, while others think it's our passports. You be the judge. But Asia is rough on western couples. They call Hong Kong the graveyard of expat marriages. I have no reason to think the mainland is any different, except maybe worse. Consider carefully.


I agree with this. China is a good place to go to ruin your marriage, although obviously that's not a guarantee, but you will be tested.

Just to echo the others yeah.......it'd be hard to land a job in a city of 10,000, if you did expect salaries to be very low and living conditions very very low.

There is stuff your wife could do. Part time employment at a preschool or something. These schools usually like having FT's to start the English learning and it's basically like daycare except with 100 kids. (Yes this work would be illegal but if you're living in a small town where you have a job most likely no one is going to care. Although someone will probably fight me on that along with the ethics of working illegally Rolling Eyes ) If she didn't wanna do that she could be doing other things like learning the language, learning a Chinese instrument, TaiChi, or whatever. Although this could get boring I guess but meh.
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slareth



Joined: 29 Jun 2010
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PostPosted: Fri Feb 04, 2011 8:33 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Going to chime in with others here and recommend against such a low populated area. Especially since you guys can't speak Chinese at all.

Are you really interested in working here or is your main goal a quiet getaway in the country with your woman? I strongly suggest getting a taste of living in an average city in China before heading out into the boonies. Many people do not realize all they will have to give up (even in an average city) and this can put serious stress on any relationship.

Grab a Uni job somewhere and on your breaks travel to wherever you want. It will feel like a real vacation that way instead of trying to rough out life with practically zero amenities or comforts or anything remotely familiar. Likely far less headaches for you and your lady. Good luck.
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flyingscotsman



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PostPosted: Fri Feb 04, 2011 8:34 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

You also need to look at the visa issue. What kind of visa will she have? If it is a tourist visa then she's going to need to exit and reneter frequently so it will be a serious issue. Are they going to give her a resident permit ?

if not then she cant stay a long time.

So as someone mentioned, look for a southern area - like Shenzhen or close to it so she can leave as needed. If not costs will add up quickly for her visa and travel.

Now I have met people with less than a college education working in China so don't always listen to people saying that a non-college grad can't work here. There are plenty of jobs for young females who like working with really young kids ( ages 2 -6) that pay decent by the hour. So if you and she are determined to stay here for xx months or whatever then make sure you