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zaneth
Joined: 31 Mar 2004
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Well, it's just KH's mid-life crisis isn't it? 40th birthday, life begins at forty?
At one point in my early 20's I was talking with some guys I worked with. One of them said he was having a mid-life crisis.
- Mid life crisis? Your only 24!
- Well, it depends on how long you think you're going to live.
It's hitting you so hard you're digging up year old posts? |
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| Posted: Fri Apr 30, 2004 10:08 pm Post subject: |
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I find myself at 57 - living and "teaching" in China, with 67 DEPENDENTS!
Good grief! |
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Gordon
Joined: 28 Jan 2003
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Location: Japan
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| spiral78 wrote: |
yikes, apologies! I meant to be light about the 'baggage'
It wasn't meant In All Seriousness, guys.....
I think most of you would concur that ESL is tougher if you've got families.....AND I think there was a thread that discussed pretty thoroughly different personal feelings about having children. Yes, I happen to be One Person who doesn't personally want them - hence, my reaction to the suggestion that, just because you're "older" you're necessarily going to have spouse and children.
I'll try to be very clear here: I have the greatest respect for everybody's personal choice. Those of you who are raising children are Great. So are those of us who choose not to.
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I'm sure we all agree that we're glad you don't want children.
EFL isn't tougher if you have children, it is different with its own set of challenges and rewards. It is more difficult to find the right school/country because you can't go just anywhere. I'm so glad I have a family and would have gone nuts here without one. Don't judge something you are so ignorant of. You've offended me on both posts. |
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James_T_Kirk
Joined: 20 Sep 2003
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Location: Ten Forward
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| Posted: Sat May 01, 2004 1:15 am Post subject: |
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| EFL isn't tougher if you have children, it is different with its own set of challenges and rewards. It is more difficult to find the right school/country because you can't go just anywhere. I'm so glad I have a family and would have gone nuts here without one. Don't judge something you are so ignorant of. You've offended me on both posts. |
Easy Gordon! Spiral has already apologized for his/her first post...really, what more do you want? And I find it hard to believe that you find the whole "EFL is tougher if you have children" statement offensive. Perhaps this isn't true and you don't agree, but, regardless, how exactly do you find it offensive? Give me a break  |
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Gordon
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| Posted: Sat May 01, 2004 1:20 am Post subject: |
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| All right, I admit I was too hard on him, but the dependent baggage remark really ticked me off. I think I'll have another coffee. |
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khmerhit
Joined: 31 May 2003
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Location: Reverse Culture Shock Unit
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| Posted: Sat May 01, 2004 3:53 am Post subject: |
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| I've got independent baggage. |
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Wolf
Joined: 10 May 2003
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| Posted: Sat May 01, 2004 5:18 am Post subject: |
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Well, I'll hop in and juduge that which I don't know.  I do agree that EFL would be tougher with kids.
Why?
Because kids cost money; something I barely have enough of for myself. And it's not exactly like I live an extravagant lifestyle that I could whittle down.
How would I edcuate them? Where would I educate them? Local schools? International schools? Back home? How would I save for their university edcuation? How easy would child rearing be with zero support from my side of the family? Then there are the parenting issues. What do I teach them? How do I discipline them? What will we do together as a family?
Actually, I don't believe it will ever be possilbe for me to have a family as long as I EFL. I respect those who do, however. |
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dmb
Joined: 12 Feb 2003
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| Wolf wrote: |
| as long as I EFL. . |
I didn't realise that EFL was a verb. What's the past participle? |
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Wolf
Joined: 10 May 2003
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| Posted: Sat May 01, 2004 11:15 am Post subject: |
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| dmb wrote: |
| Wolf wrote: |
| as long as I EFL. . |
I didn't realise that EFL was a verb. What's the past participle? |
to EFL.
I EFL.
I am EFLing.
I have EFLed.
I was EFLing.
I will have EFLed.
I had EFLed.
I had been EFLing.
I EFLed.
I will EFL.
I am going to EFL.
I was going to EFL.
It isn't a verb. It's an abbrivation I made up.  |
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catweasle
Joined: 17 Sep 2003
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Location: Australia
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| Posted: Sat May 01, 2004 12:53 pm Post subject: EFL'ing |
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Wolf: THANK YOU! I had been feeling a bit kissed off for the past couple of days but your post had me giggling for an hour�cheers!  It EFL'ing put it all back in perspective! |
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khmerhit
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Location: Reverse Culture Shock Unit
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| Posted: Sat May 01, 2004 5:39 pm Post subject: |
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| EFL off to Beffalo. |
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Gordon
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| Posted: Sun May 02, 2004 6:17 am Post subject: |
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Wolf,
You'll have a lot of the same questions whether you're overseas or in your home country. No one knows what they're doing as a new parent. It is more of a challenge though, but it was tough being a parent in Canada too. |
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