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shmooj · Joined: 11 Sep 2003 Posts: 1758 Location: Seoul, ROK

Teachers dating teachers!!!? Shocked

How could you even mention the idea. I mean, where's your professionalism? these people are our colleagues for goodness sake...

Wink

Victoria · Joined: 02 May 2004 Posts: 137

sometimes you need "white meat"...

Clancy · Joined: 23 Apr 2004 Posts: 162

Workplace romances are the subject of numerous books.

Generally they lead to insurmountable difficulties and often loss of job for one or the other in the event of a breakup.

They can be considered sexual harrassment and the basis of subsequent litigation should the relationship sour.

There are plenty of fish in the sea. Just find a new fishing hole.

Joachim · Joined: 01 Oct 2003 Posts: 311 Location: Brighton, UK

Generally I'd agree that workplace romances aren't a good idea, and usually end in tears, but I think when you're working aborad and there is a much smaller pool of people to choose from, and you're all in the same boat, it makes a lot of sense to date a colleague. Who else knows exactly what you go through?, who else can appreciate why you made the choice to teach abroad?

hesterprynne · Joined: 16 Sep 2003 Posts: 386

Victoria said "sometimes you need 'white meat'..."
hahaaha
anyway, I think there is something to be said for learning a language this way- seems to be quite effective for a motivated person-maybe easier if the local is not trying to use YOU for English lessons
there is also something to be said for a lack of B.S. conversations that we are all sick of having in any language

zaneth · Posted: Fri May 07, 2004 12:56 pm Post subject:

Before I left the states I knew a number of couples who'd met via English teaching. Seemed like a reasonable way to find someone interesting.

Would be nice to have someone who shared the same language and understood some things like cultural humor.

On the other hand, two freaks who can't fit into their own society don't necessarily make a good pair, even if they understand each other.
Thing I've noticed in myself about freakiness is that when it comes down to it, we're actually quite used to being surrounded by normal people on some level. Even if we have freak friends there's still the larger society. And my freakiness is sensible, sane, perfectly logical. Being locked to someone else's freakiness is, well, just freaky.

icollin · Joined: 05 Feb 2003 Posts: 39

I don't think I would date a co-worker - that's just a bad idea, but I dated an English teacher while I was in Japan and it was one of the best relationship I've ever had. Things were clear from the beginning and we had so much fun together. I have also dated a japanese guy (before the other guy came along) and it was hard!! His english was really good, but the vocab was limited and he couldn't express himself correctly. He was (still is) very nice, but I needed to be stimulated (mentally, just to be clear). The teacher and I dated for almost 10 months out of a year...and then I had to leave... Crying or Very sad

Aramas · Posted: Sat May 08, 2004 2:21 am Post subject:

Teachers going out with ('dating' is such a stupid word) other teachers of the same rank is ok, but if one of them is more senior than the other then they're filthy paedophiles that should go to prison for a daily genital cattle-prodding. So should any manager that gets chummy with one of their underlings in any country or industry. The age of consent should be raised to 25 and anyone that disagrees should be tortured and dragged through the suburbs behind an SUV and then paraded naked and bleeding with the words 'child molester' carved into their foreheads on national TV.

And I should know because my horse is very high and it makes me feel good to look down on everyone else, so I'm eminently qualified to pass judgement on you all Smile

Eijse · Joined: 17 Dec 2003 Posts: 119 Location: Yemen (Aden)

Clancy · Joined: 23 Apr 2004 Posts: 162

I dated a professor from another uni in another city in a cross-cultural expirament.

We are now married and sorting everything out as we go. It is not easy but it is worth it!

Gordon · Joined: 28 Jan 2003 Posts: 5309 Location: Japan

johnslat · Posted: Sat May 08, 2004 1:20 pm Post subject: Many a true word . . .

Dear Aramas,

khmerhit · Posted: Sat May 08, 2004 1:47 pm Post subject:

Dear John,
Who are you to be judging others who judge others for judging the others that judge them, exactly?

Don't mess with the Judges, see? DAN WILL NOT BE BEST PLEASED, AND THOU SHALT RUE YE CONSEQUENCES.

johnslat · Posted: Sat May 08, 2004 1:57 pm Post subject: Judge not . . .

Dear khmerhit,
And you - just where do you get off, judging me for judging those who are judging those who are judging others?
As for Moab, been there (Moab, Utah, that is) - lovely place, with the Arches National Park close by.
Perhaps the Amorites are the ones who stole dan's moon pies.
Regards,
John