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someshine · Joined: 23 May 2011 Posts: 12 Location: Chicago, IL

I left my 7-year, live-in boyfriend to do this. I wanted to do it on my own and I didn't want to string him along for a year+ while I was overseas. It was the right thing to do. It's sad, but I don't regret my decision. Neither of us will be the same when and if I come back to the states.

sunrader · Joined: 12 Dec 2005 Posts: 101

I suspect you just want to hear that other people have done it and survived or found it worth it.

I ended mine when this upcoming trip finally got to be a serious option, although he'd known all along that it was coming (probably hoped it really wouldn't). Yes, it was sad but it was the right thing to do. He wants to settle down here and I'm just getting started.

Bottom line is I've been working for this for years. Everyone along the way has known it and now it's here. I'm thrilled and I just want to be thrilled that I'm finally getting to do what I've been dreaming of. I don't want anyone holding me here when I go. It's a life choice.

Insubordination · Joined: 07 Nov 2007 Posts: 394 Location: Sydney

Relationships end, but so do lives. Don't waste any more time. Get on with it!

SahanRiddhi · Joined: 18 Sep 2010 Posts: 267

Madame J · Posted: Wed Aug 03, 2011 9:08 pm Post subject:

I did it, it worked, now I'm back and we're living together. Didn't seem like that big a deal to me.

ancient_dweller · Joined: 12 Aug 2010 Posts: 415 Location: Woodland Bench

i had a partner and i went abroad, i returned occasionally and the phone bills were big. In the end, it just peetered out. But with hindsight i realise that the fact that i didn't want to stay with her meant that she probably wasn't worth it anyway.

geekpie · Joined: 17 Oct 2006 Posts: 31

I thought I'd reply to this post as it's been another year or so and the desire to do this seems as strong as ever. In terms of where I'm heading it just seems to be a natural progression for me. That isn't to say that perhaps I can't just do a one year contract and see how it goes, perhaps that will get it out of my system. But if I don't I'll have regrets which will carry over into my life here anyway. Damned if you do, damned if you don't.

I suppose very deep down if I were to analyse why, it would be a desire to cut free from what would be considered a normal life. You could of course do that in any number of ways, but I don't see myself becoming a rockstar anytime soon.

spiral78 · Joined: 05 Apr 2004 Posts: 11534 Location: On a Short Leash