Korean Job Discussion Forums

[ScottyG]

this is an interesting discussion.

to switch gears here, have any of you fellow GUYS ever had a girl hit on you where you shut her down? (hooker hill doesn't count)

i have.....i think? hmmm. not sure. actually i am a really nice guy and would never shoot anyone down for any reason. but i can recall times where i have been hit on by girls that i was completely uninterested in, and could not escape politely. at the risk of getting flamed, i won't say that it seems to happen quite a bit at the RMT by large waygookin ladies. the only other time i can recall being hit on and having the NO feeling was by a good friend's korean girlfriend who was really drunk, and wanted revenge on him by following me into the WC and cornered me. and then there was that time in koh samui when a ladyboy cupped me. the NO feeling was overwhelming.

[thebum]

[cj1976]

If a bird gives me the brush-off I assume she must be a lesbian. The amount of lesbos I've met in my life is unbelievable!

[JZer]

[PimpofKorea]

If a girl brushes me off...well...she better be prepared to have her feelings hurt...thats all I have to say about that.

[cdninkorea]

[postfundie]

Sistersarah.....NO this girl does not get a break. She was needlessly rude...she's evidently learned a good amount of English but can't extend the courtesy to someone....dang her to heck and then back to heck again....I support you Gwangjuboy..

[OCOKA Dude]

For those of you who resent being shot down by K-girls they've randomly approached uninvited in various bar/restaurant/pub settings in Korea, did you really think that you could score? If you thought you could, or if you think that you deserve to be treated deferentially or with courtesy, you are soooo freaking stupid to defy belief, and it is obvious that people like the op know nothing about Korea or Korean social etiquette. (You get no points for regurgitating a few phrases you memorized from "How to Pick-up Korean Women.")

If you've ever spent time in various pulic places in Seoul, any idiot would immediately notice that Koreans socialize differently than in the West, specifically by putting a premium on private space in a public setting, and by being exclusive.

The problem is that for those of you who are comfortable with hitting on strangers at a Saturday-nite meat market/watering hole in your average po-dunk college town or neighborhood bar back home in the U.S., if you try the same s*** in Korea, you will be thought of as incredibly rude and uncouth and will be shot down mercilessly. so I'd advise to not invite yourself into other's private parties.

Koreans use pubs/bars/restaurants as an extension of their own living rooms (due to the lack of living space), to entertain friends, conduct business, be with family or lovers, etc. Koreans regard as private their dining or drinking space in a public establishment much more so than the Westerner who does not put a premium on space, and feel no qualms about invading the private space of others.

People, please show some manners, sensitivity, maturity and intelligence by not imposing, posturing, soliciting, propositioning, hitting on, or invading the space of others when in a Korean pub/bar/restaurant/coffee shop, i.e., unless you yourself are approached. It is so rude, you can't even imagine how rude it is from a Korean point of view.

This is just one of the basic rules of etiquette in Korea, and yes, it does apply to Hongdae and to a certain exxtent, in Itaewon too.

[RJjr]

[JZer]

[JZer]

[Mashimaro]

[Qinella]

Yeah.. Mr. Dude, you are way off on this one. The whole stereotype of Koreans only being comfortable with formal introductions, yada yada, just does not apply liberally to the new generations. I've been out countless times where both men and women were accepting of my random self-introductions.

You seem to be bent on bashing foreigners so as to uplift Koreans. It's possible to uplift both cultural aspects simultaneously.

[Hyeon Een]

[JZer]