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The Hammer
Joined: 18 Jan 2003
Location: Ullungdo 37.5 N, 130.9 E, altitude : 223 m
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| Have you ever been trapped in a room full of shy people? That would suck! |
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blaseblasphemener
Joined: 01 Jun 2006
Location: There's a voice, keeps on calling me, down the road, that's where I'll always be
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| Posted: Sun Dec 24, 2006 5:51 pm Post subject: |
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| kimchi_pizza wrote: |
| Mashimaro wrote: |
I am probably more introvert than extrovert. Needlessly loud people annoy me alot. I imagine many cases of either extreme introversion or extroversion are symptoms of insecurity.
I don't have a problem with someone who is secure in themselves who happens to be very outgoing and expressive, but the "look at me, look at me, I'm funny, I'm a party animal" are a bit pitiful but mostly aggravating. |
THANK YOU! I couldn't agree more. Being loud, a seemingly endless list of "friends", being quick witted (by being crude or insulting others) or showing off your profound "knowledge" is the trend these days. As soon as I meet someone like that I turn and walk away. Be sincere and of good character then I'd be happy to drink a pint with ye! |
Amen.
God, to think of the time I wasted in my 20s thinking that it was their world, and I was somehow deficient for not being like them.
One thing about Korea, it gives one the opportunity to remove yourself from these kinds of people, or, to fully embrace your inner ass-hole and join the party.
One of the joys of growing older is knowing the difference, and making the correct choice  |
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Moldy Rutabaga
Joined: 01 Jul 2003
Location: Ansan, Korea
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| Posted: Sun Dec 24, 2006 6:30 pm Post subject: |
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twg
Joined: 02 Nov 2006
Location: Getting some fresh air...
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| Posted: Sun Dec 24, 2006 6:50 pm Post subject: |
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| I prefer "I'll keep you at arm's length until I can figure out if you annoy me or not." over shy. |
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blaseblasphemener
Joined: 01 Jun 2006
Location: There's a voice, keeps on calling me, down the road, that's where I'll always be
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| Posted: Sun Dec 24, 2006 11:35 pm Post subject: |
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| twg wrote: |
| I prefer "I'll keep you at arm's length until I can figure out if you annoy me or not." over shy. |
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jajdude
Joined: 18 Jan 2003
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| Posted: Mon Dec 25, 2006 7:56 am Post subject: |
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| This may sound odd but I have found that some really attractive women like shy guys. Certainly some really attractive ones do not like shy guys so much, but I've had some good fortune before, I think mainly due to my timidness or bashfulness or meekness or whatever it is. I kind of like shy girls too, but sometimes it is hard for 2 shy people to risk opening up to each other. Obviously it must happen a lot, when you consider nearly half of all people consider themselves somewhat shy, and being shy around someone you are attracted to is certainly common enough. It can be helpful in a way to be inoffensive towards someone you like. Some women know they are good-looking, and they might just like the guy who doesn't come on to them so much, but seems nice and sensitive. Still, I think most of them like a bit of a tough guy too. |
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twg
Joined: 02 Nov 2006
Location: Getting some fresh air...
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| Posted: Mon Dec 25, 2006 10:09 am Post subject: |
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| jajdude wrote: |
| This may sound odd but I have found that some really attractive women like shy guys. |
Nah, they don't. They're just building up their collection of emergency cocks for future possible needs. |
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ella
Joined: 17 Apr 2006
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| Posted: Mon Dec 25, 2006 10:16 am Post subject: |
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| Introversion and extroversion don't have anything to do with shyness. They refer to where you derive energy from, where you prefer go to recharge your batteries. Introverts need down time alone to recharge, extroverts get recharged by being around other people. I'm a moderately-preferred introvert and I'm not shy. However, typical of my type, I loathe the inanity of small talk and avoid it. I also dislike phones - noisy, intrusive, rude things. That might lead some people to think I'm shy but they'd be mistaken. |
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jajdude
Joined: 18 Jan 2003
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| Posted: Mon Dec 25, 2006 10:46 am Post subject: |
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| twg wrote: |
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| This may sound odd but I have found that some really attractive women like shy guys. |
Nah, they don't. They're just building up their collection of emergency *beep* for future possible needs. |
Not even the ones in my experience? Maybe it was something else they liked then? |
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Junior
Joined: 18 Nov 2005
Location: the eye
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| Posted: Mon Dec 25, 2006 8:18 pm Post subject: |
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| The Hammer wrote: |
| Have you ever been trapped in a room full of shy people? That would suck! |
It reverses through your life.
I started off shy and now am nearer the opposite end of the scale.
Seen plenty formerly outrageously noisy/ outgoing folks when they were young, really calm down in later life...to the point of being quiet. |
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Satori
Joined: 09 Dec 2005
Location: Above it all
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| Posted: Mon Dec 25, 2006 10:38 pm Post subject: |
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| ella wrote: |
| Introversion and extroversion don't have anything to do with shyness. They refer to where you derive energy from, where you prefer go to recharge your batteries. Introverts need down time alone to recharge, extroverts get recharged by being around other people. I'm a moderately-preferred introvert and I'm not shy. However, typical of my type, I loathe the inanity of small talk and avoid it. I also dislike phones - noisy, intrusive, rude things. That might lead some people to think I'm shy but they'd be mistaken. |
Exactly, Im not at all shy, Im very comfortable around people, good at meeting strangers and handling all kinds of social situations, I just chose to spend a lot of time alone. |
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Moldy Rutabaga
Joined: 01 Jul 2003
Location: Ansan, Korea
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| Posted: Mon Dec 25, 2006 11:17 pm Post subject: |
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Junior
Joined: 18 Nov 2005
Location: the eye
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| Posted: Tue Dec 26, 2006 1:37 am Post subject: |
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| Moldy Rutabaga wrote: |
I had the strange ability in college of being good friends with slutty girls. |
Snap...
if you have the "misfortune" to grow up mostly with sisters and amongst women..you relate to women very well as "friends". |
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jajdude
Joined: 18 Jan 2003
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kermo
Joined: 01 Sep 2004
Location: Eating eggs, with a comb, out of a shoe.
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| Posted: Wed Dec 27, 2006 10:36 am Post subject: |
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| twg wrote: |
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| This may sound odd but I have found that some really attractive women like shy guys. |
Nah, they don't. They're just building up their collection of emergency *beep* for future possible needs. |
Well, I don't know about the "really attractive" bit, but I quite like shy guys. I'm relentlessly friendly, and I like the challenge that a shy guy offers. I get a sense of accomplishment when I can get a smile out of them, or when I feel like I'm one of only a few who gets to know them.
In fact, a shy guy is more likely to get some "action" out of me, because I'm not on the defensive. The "sneak attack" is very effective.
I don't understand shyness very well, but I think it's got a few sub-categories:
- introverts
- people with real anxiety problems
- people with few social skills (maybe from lack of practise from aforementioned points, or just ostracised/cut off for other reasons.)
Any other sub-types you think I should add? |
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