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munji



Joined: 08 Sep 2006
Location: Daejeon

PostPosted: Tue Jan 02, 2007 9:24 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wedding_ring

I didnt get any engagement ring (no, actually I did get a thin silver band, she insisted that I should wear one) and I wear my wedding ring in right. We got matching wedding bands made prior to wedding.

There's no right or wrong hand for wearing a ring... it depends on you. Smile

Congratulations!
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Young FRANKenstein



Joined: 02 Oct 2006
Location: Castle Frankenstein (that's FRONKensteen)

PostPosted: Wed Jan 03, 2007 12:45 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I'd just go for a Claddagh ring. Serves as an engagement ring, then after the wedding you turn it upside down and it serves as the wedding ring.
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Gamecock



Joined: 26 Nov 2003

PostPosted: Wed Jan 03, 2007 7:52 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

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Some people don't bother with engagement rings because they think they are too expensive. This isn't "traditional", so much as it is personal taste.


Tradition??? Diamond rings as engagement rings are a pretty new invention, created by the jewelry industry to make a buck- Much in the same way Valentines Day has been blown up by the greeting card/candy/flower industry for profit. Now every Western materialistic girl believes it is a MUST. Blind sheep...
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tzechuk



Joined: 20 Dec 2004

PostPosted: Wed Jan 03, 2007 8:04 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Just want to say congratulations... others have pretty much answered your question.

For me, I have an engagement ring that is made up of a ruby in the middle with diamonds around it and half way round the band in platinum; and our wedding ring is made of yellow gold on the rim and platinum in the middle with a nice symmetrical pattern that I designed and had made in Hong Kong. So they are not matching, as you see or as others have suggested they should be, but they look really pretty together!
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FUBAR



Joined: 21 Oct 2003
Location: The Y.C.

PostPosted: Sat Jan 06, 2007 6:32 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Just out of curiousity, how much do these rings cost?
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Hyalucent



Joined: 16 Jan 2003
Location: British North America

PostPosted: Sat Jan 06, 2007 7:05 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Heard a frightening rule of thumb that it's supposed to be two month's salary... but it's arbitrary, I guess.

Looks like I'll rebrand this one as a promise ring and shop for the traditional ring and band set as soon as possible.

Lucked out, I think. My boss's husband is a diamond wholesaler. Apparently, he says it's not uncommon for jewellers to apply a 700-800% mark up. Failing that, we'll order one from Korea where the prices are half what they are in Soviet Canada.
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Buff



Joined: 07 Apr 2004

PostPosted: Sat Jan 06, 2007 7:44 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Hyalucent wrote:
Heard a frightening rule of thumb that it's supposed to be two month's salary... but it's arbitrary, I guess.

Looks like I'll rebrand this one as a promise ring and shop for the traditional ring and band set as soon as possible.

Lucked out, I think. My boss's husband is a diamond wholesaler. Apparently, he says it's not uncommon for jewellers to apply a 700-800% mark up. Failing that, we'll order one from Korea where the prices are half what they are in Soviet Canada.


The two months' salary thing is bull. Just a ploy by the jewelry companies to "guide" guys who are clueless about engagement rings. Granted, my engagement ring is certainly high quality and beautiful...if my husband would have proposed with a ring worth two months' salary, I would have told him that it was lovely, but take it back and get a less expensive ring! What a waste! 1-2 grand is is pretty standard for a good quality diamond.

White gold is cheaper than platinum, but beware, the rhodium plating wears off, turning it yellow and you'll have to get it re-plated to keep that silvery color.
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tzechuk



Joined: 20 Dec 2004

PostPosted: Sat Jan 06, 2007 7:51 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Hyalucent wrote:
Heard a frightening rule of thumb that it's supposed to be two month's salary... but it's arbitrary, I guess.

Looks like I'll rebrand this one as a promise ring and shop for the traditional ring and band set as soon as possible.

Lucked out, I think. My boss's husband is a diamond wholesaler. Apparently, he says it's not uncommon for jewellers to apply a 700-800% mark up. Failing that, we'll order one from Korea where the prices are half what they are in Soviet Canada.


Don't get one from Korea - they are not internationally guaranteed.

Hubby bought me one, we took it to HK to get it checked out by our jeweller friend, he said that what we paid should have been half, plus the ring is not internationally guaranteed (no mark inside the ring)...

If you like to bid for a nice ring, here's a website..hehe.. just don't tell her:

www.bidz.com
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Juregen



Joined: 30 May 2006

PostPosted: Sat Jan 06, 2007 10:55 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Qinella wrote:
Hyalucent wrote:
So two distinct rings worn at the same time after marriage?


No, you buy them as a pair. The engagement ring should fit into the wedding ring to make a larger, more elegant ring after the marriage. Left hand.

Make sure you did like my friends did and buy your rings out of a 25-cent gumball machine.

Hmmm

it doesn't really matter.

My engagement and wedding ring are of complete different styles, but still i guess both very delicate, so they do match, just not on the same finger, so first she wore the engagement ring on the right, then when the sedding ring came she swapped the fingers and put on the wedding ring.

It doesn't really matter you know
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Juregen



Joined: 30 May 2006

PostPosted: Sat Jan 06, 2007 10:57 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

tzechuk wrote:
Hyalucent wrote:
Heard a frightening rule of thumb that it's supposed to be two month's salary... but it's arbitrary, I guess.

Looks like I'll rebrand this one as a promise ring and shop for the traditional ring and band set as soon as possible.

Lucked out, I think. My boss's husband is a diamond wholesaler. Apparently, he says it's not uncommon for jewellers to apply a 700-800% mark up. Failing that, we'll order one from Korea where the prices are half what they are in Soviet Canada.


Don't get one from Korea - they are not internationally guaranteed.

Hubby bought me one, we took it to HK to get it checked out by our jeweller friend, he said that what we paid should have been half, plus the ring is not internationally guaranteed (no mark inside the ring)...

If you like to bid for a nice ring, here's a website..hehe.. just don't tell her:

www.bidz.com


I also advise against buying diamonds in Korea.

I boght one for a substantial amount of money in Antwerp, brought it into Korea (No taxes woohoo), had it valued in Korea, and here it was worth twice as much.....

can you imagine what crap they sell here.
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Samantha



Joined: 20 Jul 2006
Location: Jinan-dong Hwaseong

PostPosted: Sat Jan 06, 2007 11:52 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

How I grew up and know to do it is-

You can buy the engagement ring seperate which traditionally is a diamond solitaire (size, cut and carat are you choice/preference and as budget allows). There is an old adage about what it should cost which is 2 months salary but personally I think that is crap.

The engagement ring is worn on the left hand ring finger. In superstition the left ring finger was believed to have a vein in it that ran directly to the heart, putting a ring of gold or silver around symbolized a blocking of love by the person you were committing to. Smile

The wedding rings (yours and hers if you are having a double ring ceremony) are bought after the engagement and are a matching set. These are usually plain bands (though you can buy a three ring set with the engagement ring matching as well).

During the ceremony the rings are exchanged after the priest/reverand (if you are having a religious ceremony) blesses them. She places your ring on your left ring finger and you place hers on her left ring finger in front of her engagement ring. Since the engagement ring was a way of signifying her emotion/love was yours the wedding ring was supposed to "cap it off" and let everyone know that both of you were tied to someone else.

I don't know if that helps but that's what I was raised with you, she wears two rings-one to show she accepted someone and was going to be off limits (engagement) and the other that shows she was committed and taken (wedding) and the groom wears one to show that he was committed and taken. I never understood guys who wouldn't wear a wedding ring, it always made me wonder if they really wanted to be married or not Smile

edited for spelling issue Smile
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Novernae



Joined: 02 Mar 2005

PostPosted: Sat Jan 06, 2007 11:59 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Buff wrote:
White gold is cheaper than platinum, but beware, the rhodium plating wears off, turning it yellow and you'll have to get it re-plated to keep that silvery color.


Actually, it depends on the alloy of the gold. Good white gold should not be rhodium plated, but it is really expensive (though still not as expensive as platinum)

Gamecock wrote:
Tradition??? Diamond rings as engagement rings are a pretty new invention, created by the jewelry industry to make a buck- Much in the same way Valentines Day has been blown up by the greeting card/candy/flower industry for profit. Now every Western materialistic girl believes it is a MUST. Blind sheep...


Gamecock, Have you taught the North Star series? Wink
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Cerebroden



Joined: 27 Dec 2006

PostPosted: Mon Jan 08, 2007 3:53 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

They don't have to be the same, but just know, some things...
either buy them as a set..i.e. a wedding band that fits and goes around the e ring or buy flat sided (not rounded) that can fit well together so there isn't a space in between the rings.
You can always get them sautered together later if you want.

Doesn't matter what color you get, I just recommend that you get the same color for both.

Also to those who say their ring is worth more when you get it appraised....DUH, didn't they tell you that when you bought it?!?!?

I spent 3k on my wife's e-ring and it was appraised for 8...in the states.

Does your wife have small hands? don't buy something that's gonna drawf her fingers. Also talk to her about diamond shape, she more than likely won't care about size, but could be picky about the shape.
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Hyalucent



Joined: 16 Jan 2003
Location: British North America

PostPosted: Mon Jan 08, 2007 3:58 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

She's shown me a couple of designs she likes. I hope to go looking together with her soon. She's pretty keen on the white gold.
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