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[jessie-b]

Do any of the ladies have any positive or negative stories about dating Korean Men? I'm attracted to K-men, but am hesitant to deal with the cultural differences, different kinds of sexism, their possible mommy-dependencies. Please write and dispel or confirm the popular myths. I'm thinking more than just getting layed, starting a possible relationship of some sort, although any insight about sex would be appreciated...

[mindmetoo]

Lots of women here are married to k-men and they seem to be pretty happy. There are no doubts down sides (maybe the mommy thing) but then there are upsides: family oriented, romantic, generous, nice slender bodies, good dressers, career oriented, not much hair on their ass.

Based on my own experience dating Korean women and the experience of female friends dating Korean men, at the end of the day it's a zero sum gain. And you should look at it that way. Western mates have positives and gaping negatives. Korean mates have positives and gaping negatives. You have two hands but life has dealt you only one glove. You want a glove for your left hand or your right hand?

[periwinkle]

You should come to the ladies' lunch on the 11th. I think ppl are unlikely to post about their experiences on this board in any detail, really. The board is just too negative, and we (ladies) haven't been posting much these days. I will bet you ten to 1 this thread ends up with Korean guys trashed by a bunch of males posters.

Anyway, I'd date a Korean guy if you are attracted to them, and not let this board influence your decision one way or the other.

[Demonicat]

Don't worry, Peri, all the fellas are having a rumble in the Dating NON-Korean women thread, they won't bother y'all. Now, that said, I have never dated a Korean guy, but I have heard that they are kinda selfish in the sack.

[Adventurer]

[periwinkle]

[JongnoGuru]

[KOREAN_MAN]

[Ryst Helmut]

[periwinkle]

[hellofaniceguy]

I think if a western woman marries a korean male....and they leave korea....chances are good she'll be happily married...remain in korea...and she'll resent the marriage. Korean males are followers....not leaders and they usually fall back into the "stereotyped" role of what is "expected" of males in korea; abuse, prostitutes, alcohol abuse, etc...
just look around at the married korean women who are unhappy. Most are unhappy.
I know myself that when I am hanging out with my korean male friends, they act differently, when they get with other korean guys, all hell breaks loose it seems.
This is not being rasist on my part, just the facts.

[JongnoGuru]

[jaganath69]

OP, you go for it, be careful, but I sure as hell wouldn't be asking for advice here in the cuckoo's nest.

[crazylemongirl]

Despite the common wisdom around here, that western women are sitting alone fat and lonely in their apartment, or in some horrible relationship with a Korean man who beats her and then runs off to the local brothel, there are lots of women around Daves that have married korean men and are living happily ever after. Some of them stay in Korea, some of them don't. As peri, said some of the sexism on the board might drive a few responses away, so you might be best off going to the ladies lunch for more of the inside scoop.

Anyway I've been here almost 4 years and this is based on my experiences:

Good
Those beautiful dark eyes.
Lots of presents.
Really seems to look out for you (ie. make sure you get home ok) sends you text messages during the day.
Not afraid to shower you with affection. Sometimes a bit corny for a cynic like me, but nice all the same.
Will show you a different side of Korea that isn't in the guidebooks. Cool little hangouts etc.

Bad
'Who are you?' Disappear for months on end. No goodbye phone, call, email, text. Then show up and act as if nothing happened.

Ugly
Hello Mr Stalker Man. You may call 100 texts/calls a day romantic, I call it stalking.

In the end, dating Korean men is just like dating men. Some of them are good, some bad, and some a little crazy. However you'll never know until you have a go. At best you might find someone to spend the rest of your life with, and at worst, you might get your heart broken. But that's just life in general huh?

[Junior]

I've known 3 western women married to K-men. They seemed happy. They had one thing in common: their men were not the typical macho soju-swilling Korean ajosshis. They were more sensitive and quiet. maybe thats the type to aim for?