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SuperFly · Joined: 09 Jul 2003 Location: In the doghouse

So we're on our way to a doggie cafe in 덕소 yesterday around 4pm to play with the doggies and relax. We're on the highway and all of a sudden I look up and there on the side of the road, in the freaking cold is standing a young woman in a miniskirt and light jacket. My wife gasps, my MIL gasps, and my BIL says, "maybe she's waiting for someone" (In Korean) - I'm like, so are we going to stop and pick her up - give her a ride to the next exit? Because - OBVIOUSLY she was dumped out of a car, possibly had a fight with her husband or bf...I mean really, who would willingly get out of a car on the highway? There's not a whole lot of room to walk on the side of the highway, she's standing there with a horrified look on her face...I really don't think she was happy about the situation.

Does my BIL pull over? No.

I didn't speak to him, my wife or my MIL the rest of the day. The doggie cafe people must have thought I was a nutjob. I wouldn't sit with them at the cafe either. I played with the dogs outside with the frisbee for about an hour. They knew why I was pissed off. They tried to reason with me. I just felt like they were completely messed up for not helping that woman. "She's a stranger" is all they kept saying...

I spoke to my wife about it this morning. I tried to be reasonable. I tried to think about what I would've done in this situation if I was back home. These people go to church every sunday. My MIL goes to church three times on Sunday...in all that time, all those years going to church, has she not learned what a good samaritan is?

Am I wrong? Tell me I am, I'll shut up. I won't say another word about it.

Evil or Very Mad

JongnoGuru · Joined: 25 May 2004 Location: peeing on your doorstep

Ryst Helmut · Posted: Sat Jan 27, 2007 5:22 pm Post subject:

Supa,

Mate...your in the right...in that situation I'd say pick her up and drop her off somewhere safer.

My question is this: What vehicle were you all in? Four adults and a couple of dogs...are y'all midgets and chihuahuas? Where were you guys gonna put her?

!shoosh,

Ryst

Confused Canadian · Joined: 21 Jan 2003

I feel for you...

Luckily, my wife agreed with me in a similar situation a year or too ago...

We were in the car, on our way home (2 minutes away from home), when we saw an old woman on the other side of the street, sitting on the sidewalk, looking somewhat distressed. It was the middle of summer and the weather was scorching. I figured it was quite possible something was wrong and my wife agreed. I pulled a U-turn and we got out to investigate. It turned out the woman was indeed in distress. She was diabetic and also suffered from a bit of dementia. We got her into the car, but she couldn't tell us exactly where she lived or the phone number of anyone she knew. She got us to the general area, but then got confused and couldn't figure out where to go. My wife eventually went through her bag, found an address book, and finally got a hold of her daughter (whom she lived with). Turns out the mother had snuck out of the house and gone for a walk. She took a wrong turn, got lost, and then started to fail in the summer heat. Needless to say, the daughter was VERY relieved to see us drive up with her mother, though more than a tad confused to see a foreigner behind the wheel of the car... Wink

I've also been involved in stopping a couple of guys beating their wives / gf's (again, with my wife's help), but we'll save those stories for another time...

VanIslander · Posted: Sat Jan 27, 2007 5:32 pm Post subject: Re: Highway blues

SuperFly · Joined: 09 Jul 2003 Location: In the doghouse

RH,

I didn't mention this before.

We adopted Ulee and Shiloh out to a family that has 18 acres (no fences) in Miami-Globe (Outside of Phoenix) they're involved with rodeos and they have two kids, ages 13 and 9 (Boy & Girl) - 8 horses and pigs - and they are wonderful people. Their dog died of old age the week before I put up the ad in the feed store...I went to a feed store in East Mesa and put pictures up with about a paragraph explaining their general health condition, why we were looking for a family with land to adopt the australian shepherds, etc. We got ten calls on the first day...they were caller number 1. It worked out well, the trip to the doggie cafe yesterday was because we missed our kids and we wanted some interaction. The doggy cafe has about 50 dogs, all sizes and breeds. Wonderful place really.

JongnoGuru · Joined: 25 May 2004 Location: peeing on your doorstep

princess · Joined: 16 Jan 2003 Location: soul of Asia

As a Christian, I can say, going to church is not what makes you one. There can be more devils in than out of church, as the saying goes. I have met some pretty cold people who go to church all the time...cold, rascist, aloof types of people, here and in the states. Some people fall for that mess, that just because a person goes to church all the time, they must be superb, upstanding citizens. hahaha!!! They should have helped that poor girl, IMHO. I am sorry, but in Korea, I have met nicer Buddhists than Christians. There are REAL Christians and then there are DRESS UP Christians, as in "I want to go to church to show off my new outfit, or my new BMW, etc. Or, it's Christmas/Easter, etc., i better go to church. Wink

Ya-ta Boy · Joined: 16 Jan 2003 Location: Established in 1994

No, you were not wrong. You've done all you can at this point. You've made your position clear.

For the future, consider watching for stories about Koreans helping strangers and (with some tact) point them out to your family and indicate how much you admire what one stranger did for another. Maybe it will have a small effect.