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The scorn of the Korean mother and father
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rapier



Joined: 16 Feb 2003

PostPosted: Sun Sep 07, 2003 9:21 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Interesting tale there Kyrei: you suffered more provocation there than I ever did. Your own choice of course, but I think maybe you came to an unecesarilly extreme conclusion as a result of the experience. (for me, anyway).
Of course, with kids that speak English, its a lot easier because you can make them understand a whole lot of things by talking.
However in korea, thats not an easy option, and getting physical becomes the most effective way of showing your dissaproval or your approval.
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Squid



Joined: 25 Jul 2003
Location: Sunny Anyang

PostPosted: Sun Sep 07, 2003 10:11 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I noticed there were a few "Bad students" whom were shuffled around the hagwons in the area I worked in last year.
Their parents would pull them out and switch to another because of the "Bad foreign teacher" then switch back 6 months later for the same reason.
My main threat, to put them down a grade or into baby class, usually worked.
I will not teach kids again.

Squid
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Seoultrader



Joined: 18 Jun 2003
Location: Ali's Insurgent Inn, Fallujah

PostPosted: Mon Sep 08, 2003 7:32 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Jesus, remind me to adopt a 17-yr-old girl if I ever feel the need to become a parent...
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Gollum



Joined: 04 Sep 2003
Location: Japan

PostPosted: Wed Sep 10, 2003 8:11 pm    Post subject: Sick Reply with quote

Sick, sick, sick.
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A.I.
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PostPosted: Thu Sep 11, 2003 2:47 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Just Because, I had a very similar experience to yours. Seems like rationally placing the child outside for a few minutes quiet time constitutes an act of tyranny while losing your rag and beating the child to a pulp Korean style is acceptable. I was backed up by the Hagwon too. Child X did a big exit stage left and all was well in HagwonLand again.

I have since found another solution. Marker pen to the face. Just make little line drawings on the offending child's face. They go bananas and then calm right down and behave. I don't even wanna know why this works. I'm just happy it does. A little like a bumble bee flying, perhaps?

I'm sorry for those of you who think getting physical is the way to 'teach' their kids. Personally I think perpetuating the cycle of violence isn't the best way to go.
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VanIslander



Joined: 18 Aug 2003
Location: Geoje, Hadong, Tongyeong,... now in a small coastal island town outside Gyeongsangnamdo!

PostPosted: Thu Sep 11, 2003 4:37 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

A marker to the face is like a scarlet letter, branding the sinner. Hard to save face then, eh?

I prefer the hands off approach to discipline, though one need not be ghostly with the kids. I for one do the low five, high five and thumb shake. basically an arm's length type of touching, a risk-adverse, conservative approach to the ethics of teaching.
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captain kirk



Joined: 29 Jan 2003

PostPosted: Thu Sep 11, 2003 7:07 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

yeah, they really hate getting markered in the face. it's a big deal. one yahoo was stretched right back arching his back with no escape as the marker point moved upstoppably toward him. dabbed on the beak, he rubbed his schnozz like a racoon with an 'unfair!' look on his face. time stops. you can hear the silence.
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VanIslander



Joined: 18 Aug 2003
Location: Geoje, Hadong, Tongyeong,... now in a small coastal island town outside Gyeongsangnamdo!

PostPosted: Fri Jun 25, 2004 10:02 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

VanIslander wrote:
A marker to the face is like a scarlet letter, branding the sinner. Hard to save face then, eh?

I prefer the hands off approach to discipline...

Well, I wrote that nine months ago and guess what? I recently markered a student's neck when she kept goosing me with her pencil. Rolling Eyes It sounds like a light and funny situation, but this is the biggest brat in the school and she always pushes the envelope and gets into trouble with other teachers. I told her to stop poking and she only did it harder when I wasn't looking. So when the eleven year old did it one time too many I immediately took the marker in my hand and went to run it against her cheek, only to have to settle for her neck when she turtled in quick response to my attempt. (She hasn't been a problem since.)

The only other physical incident was when I tried to heave a student's bag out of his hands when he wouldn't let go, and since I didn't realize it was over his shoulder, I yanked the poor kid over his desk. I was angry because he had once again forgotten his book, usually had a bad attitude and when I'd asked to look in his bag that time he got defensive and I suspected he actually had the book in the bag. It turned out he didn't want to open the bag because it contained a salamander he was hiding. Embarassed (He still looks at me a little apprehensively.)
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Grotto



Joined: 21 Mar 2004

PostPosted: Fri Jun 25, 2004 7:31 pm    Post subject: brats Reply with quote

Using physical discipline

Many a time have I grabbed ears, slapped hands and knuckled heads.

Never harshly, just a firm grab or a light tap to let them know I was serious.

My students learned very quickly that dong chim is a major no no Mad The first time someone does it I firmly say no.....and tell them never again....usually thats enough...I had one 10 year old girl who seemed to get her jollies out of it. The second time she did it I tapped her head...the third time I threw her out of the class....the fourth time she got a hard smack on the ass...a proper spank! Never happened again.

Rude behaviour....I had these two 11 year old boys who started holding their noses when I entered class and making smelly noises(I checked it wasnt me) I just cuffed both of them upside the head....not hard but that and the dirty look turned them from little shytes to hardworking students.

Sometimes a more direct approach is needed when dealing with kids...especially when there is a language barrier involved.
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Butterfly



Joined: 02 Mar 2003
Location: Kuwait

PostPosted: Fri Jun 25, 2004 7:38 pm    Post subject: Re: brats Reply with quote

I admire you people, dealing with these foul children.
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just because



Joined: 01 Aug 2003
Location: Changwon - 4964

PostPosted: Sat Jun 26, 2004 11:05 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Geezz...that was a blast from the past Smile
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ryleeys



Joined: 22 Dec 2003
Location: Columbia, MD

PostPosted: Sat Jun 26, 2004 11:32 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

My first classes weren't bad at all... a little talkative, but nothing serious. Then I got a whole flood of kindergardeners in March. Little hellions every last one of them. It took me two months to get the law laid down... yelling didn't work. One day I lost it and picked up the desk of the kid that was pissing me off and threw it across the floor. That scared the hell out of them. Then I started making them stand in the corner (as learned from you online people)... they didn't much care, so I had them hold a stack of books (which they would repeatedly drop over and over for jollies), so then I put a glass of water on top of the books (worked like a charm, nobody wants to get all wet). But about a month ago, the Korean teacher quit and I suddenly had all of my classes double in size and was teaching as many as 4 different levels at the same time. The little kids went ape s*** and I've been trying to calm them down ever since. Now they ASK for the punishments... my good older students have stopped responding to me... it's drivin' me crazy and my friends are telling me they're noticing grey hairs! (I'm only 22!) It probably hasn't helped that I haven't taken a single vacation day since I came here in October and that I've got a never ending stream of Korean teachers (since my boss ain't too good). Actually, I'm about to lose another Korean teacher.

I hate to say it, but there are some days now when even the slightest infraction sets me off: asking me for 100 won (EVERY SINGLE DAMN DAY!), "forgetting" their pencils (they do it on purpose), sometimes even just talking quietly when I have them doing work in their books. The bigger things: flicking me off, swearing (first Korean I learned was how to swear), throwing things, etc... man, I just know I'm gonna go off one of these days.

Stay tuned for some really good stories...
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Juggertha



Joined: 27 May 2003
Location: Anyang, Korea

PostPosted: Sun Jun 27, 2004 5:22 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I have used ears, hair, arms, hands, fingers or whatever else i can get ahold of in extreme cases. If a child refuse reason or is physically combative they will be removed from the class.

I have to say my Hogwon director has backed me up in every instance. We have numerous student reviews and we all know who the trouble makers are Laughing
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