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doggyji · Posted: Mon Feb 19, 2007 9:47 am Post subject:

I've met a few really interesting and nice females through online channels (forums, penpal sites, and language exchange sites. Never tried any dating sites yet). I never actually met any one of them in person though since they all live too far away and thus couldn't take things more seriously than a certain level anyway. Meeting someone online seems to have its good share of pros if you can meet her/him for real without too much hassles. Not a bad option with all the technology available nowadays. It's just one way to meet new people. I find that common 'loser' talk a bit weird. "If you don't do things in this certain mainstream way, you are a loser, whatever that is."

crsandus · Joined: 05 Oct 2004

The topic says meeting people online, which all of us have done since we're chatting on this forum.

I must admit, I feel like there's a stigma with starting a relationship online. I'm sure I'll get over it once I realize that trying to get a girl is nearly impossible when you don't know the language and are relatively shy. Koreanfriendfinder here I come!

My best friend uses the internet as his main date finding method and I must say, he's had more dates in any given year in the last 4 years, than I will have in my lifetime. Granted this is in the states and almost every girl he's met has had some interesting quirks. There's been

-"I in love with you and if you ever leave me I'll kill myself" girl.
-"I live 10 miles from you and want to see you a lot but I refuse visit you myself since I don't have a car" girl.
-"I think you're really cool and want to date, but I'm a lesbian" girl.
-"I'll suddenly cut off every known means of communication after 12+ dates and 3 months of dating" girl.
and my personal favorite
-"I want to meet people so I can complain about life and how much you suck compared to me" girl.

J.B. Clamence · Joined: 15 Jan 2003

I too sort of feel a stigma about resorting to a dating site, and as a result I've never used them. However, keep in mind that you and I might scoff at guys here who do and call them losers, but trust me, they are doing very well on those sites, from what I hear. I just can't bring myself to do it, though.

caniff · Joined: 03 Feb 2004 Location: All over the map

Satori · Joined: 09 Dec 2005 Location: Above it all

It's just another medium for communication, nothing more nothing less ...

uberscheisse · Joined: 02 Dec 2003 Location: japan is better than korea.

i think the word "loser" would apply more to the person who recognizes that they're lonely and unhappy and is not using available options to rectify that situation because of what others may think.

i'm more likely to think someone's a loser if they say they met their SO in a bar. or at a church bazaar. or at work. but who fucking cares what i think?

2 of my best friends met, independently of me, via myspace. they're getting married in june and there's nothing loserish or creepy about their union. it's one of the most romantic stories i've heard, in fact.

my sister met her husband at work. they have 3 beautiful children. they have a perfect marriage.

it's not how you hook up, it's what you do with it afterwards that counts.

mindmetoo · Joined: 02 Feb 2004

Online usually works well for me. I'm not unfunny in real life, but online, when you're chatting with a woman via MSN, you always have that couple second lag in IM chat where you can make really good jokes. You know the kind of jokes you always go "man, if I just had half a second to think, I would have said X". IM gives you that extra time.

kermo · Posted: Mon Feb 19, 2007 6:10 pm Post subject:

I'll admit it: I've got a profile on a dating website, and I'm rather embarrassed about it. I wouldn't have set one up but for the fact that my sister wanted me to take a quiz which was only available to members. However, I'm glad I got over that hurdle, because of the following benefits:

-Quickly screening out attractive but irritating/dumb/horrible people. How many times have I spotted a cute, interesting-looking person, initiated a conversation, and then realized I had made a terrible mistake? More times than I can count.

-Easily extricate yourself from awkward situations/bad matches. Close the chat window, don't reply to the email. A lot easier than getting baleful glances across the bar for the rest of the night.

-Identify obscure interests you'd have a hard time getting around to in person. Unless you wear band t-shirts constantly or carry around your favorite book on the subway, it's not easy to sort through areas of common interests without actually going through the list, e.g., "Do you like _____? Have you seen ______? Do you listen to _______?" When someone puts that info in their profile, it's useful when starting that initial conversation, and finding out what might be fun to do on an actual date.

seoulshock · Joined: 12 Jul 2005

I think online dating is fine -- nothing wrong with finding love online.

I've also made new friends online (both male and female), so why should it stop at finding love?

Anyway, UBLove I think is a shady company. I did a search for premium (paid) members -- and one of the profiles that appeared was a friend of a friend, who works as a local model around here in Los Angeles. She's a half-Korean girls with enormous natural DD breasts.

On the profile however, she was living in Seoul and... I forget the rest because it was all false. Assuming it really was her, why would a girl like that need to be a paying member? She'd probably be bombarded with messages on an hourly basis.

I e-mailed her about this and no response. I also e-mailed UBLove to notify them of the fake profile -- they did nothing and did not respond.

My conclusion: UBLove uses fake profiles to get horny male members to pay for memberships.

UBLove = scam site.

Zoot · Joined: 12 Jul 2005 Location: Bundang

Nothing wrong with meeting people online. It's proactive, if you ask me. Instead of say, "I can't meet people. I'm lonely. I'm a loser." You can make a small effort to meet someone - and it's really quite easy. Sure, you can get lots of lemons but it's better than bellyaching about not having anyone and not even trying.

My brother met a woman on the internet by accident while looking for someone to translate something to or from Russian. They hit it off and now they've been married and living in Canada for 4 years. They're an amazing couple and I have no problem telling people how they met. He was her knight and she's his dreamgirl who takes care of him and has no fear!

Zolt · Joined: 18 May 2006

For some perspective: a buddy of mine once decided to introduce his GF of 5 years and newly fiancee to World of Warcraft. So he patched her up a new computer and opened up an account in her name.

6 months later he lost her to some belgian player whom she hadn't even met in real life yet!