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GentleSusan · Joined: 25 Nov 2005

Anybody had any experience with their Korean wife expecting their parents to cough up money. My wife wants to buy a condo and we don't have enough money for a downpayment. She wants to me to ask my Dad, who is retiring next year. To ask him seems grossly unfair and utterly emasculating for me. I told her that we don't really do this in Canada but she says all her Canadian co-workers expect the same. Irony is her Canadian co-workers are all Indo-Canadian or Chinese-Canadian and have different values from a WASP like me.

Do WASP families actually help their "kids" (I'm 35) with downpayments on houses? Anybody else dealt with this?

Qinella · Joined: 25 Feb 2005 Location: the crib

Dude you're asking us to generalize about an entire ethnic group.

Personally, I wouldn't do it, but others would. Tell your wife it's time to cowboy up and stop expecting everything on a silver platter. Razz

Roch · Joined: 24 Apr 2003 Location: Seoul

kotakji · Joined: 23 Oct 2006

Might I so humbly ask what W.A.S.P. refers to? Sounds like an evil organization from a Bond movie.

I'm Seoul Lost · Joined: 19 Jun 2006 Location: In the mountains of Gyeonggi

White Anglo-Saxon Protestant

Roch · Joined: 24 Apr 2003 Location: Seoul

I'm Seoul Lost · Joined: 19 Jun 2006 Location: In the mountains of Gyeonggi

Roch · Joined: 24 Apr 2003 Location: Seoul

Hear you, Sir.

Samantha · Joined: 20 Jul 2006 Location: Jinan-dong Hwaseong

Wanna know what a WASP is think of Charlotte and her husband (the Scottish one) on Sex and the City. They are stereotypical WASPs.

Sorry can't offer much beyond that I was raised as a WASC (White Anglo Saxon Catholic) that was in the middle class no man's land. Too much money to qualify for assistance or discounts and not enough money to actually do anything.

Bondrock · Joined: 08 Oct 2006 Location: ^_^

you better ask Roch; or the other geniuses on this site.... or pm them directly..... always good advice here on DAVE'S.... no sense lookin elsewhere

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yingwenlaoshi · Joined: 12 Feb 2007 Location: ... location, location!

By 35, I'd say that well is pretty much dry. Wink

If you're father knew you were even asking such a quesiton on a message board, he'd probably think you were guay.

blaseblasphemener · Posted: Wed Feb 28, 2007 12:50 pm Post subject:

All families are different. I personally would not dream of asking my mom and dad for money while I'm in Korea and could sacrifice and save for a year or two (while my Korean wife does the same) and thus would have $100,000 in a couple years. Your wife didn't marry a Korean, and the rules of the game are different for us. Just ignore her on this one, don't allow her to be the man in the relationship. Korean women will be differential to their husbands if you put your foot down.

mercury · Joined: 05 Dec 2004 Location: Pusan

poet13 · Posted: Wed Feb 28, 2007 3:21 pm Post subject:

42 Canadian Male. Haven't asked family for anything since I was about 18. Can't imagine doing so unless there was a dire emergency, and buying a house doesn't count.

jaderedux · Joined: 10 Jan 2003 Location: Lurking outside Seoul

If both of you are working it shouldn't take that long to save up the money you need. If you have an f5 take up some privates. I have been on my own and would never ask my parents for money. They deserve a stress free retirement and well they earned it I hope they spend every penny and then there will be no vultures circling when they pass. (they have pre-paid) funerals.

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