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[Omkara]

Is there some piece of wisdom that you often return to? A quote, moment, or piece of advice that you carry with you?

One that helps me find peace is, "Don't argue with fools."

(It helps me to stop arguing with myself!)

[SuperFly]

Dogs are better than cats, period. Cats are sneaky, dogs are lovers.

[faster]

pick your battles



never eat anything bigger than your head

[Qinella]

Yeah, I was told several years ago by a wise person that you can not change what others do -- you can only change your reaction to what others do.

It's good and practical advice. If someone cuts you off in traffic, bumps into your ankle with a shopping cart, or gives you a dirty look, you have a choice to get angry or to move on.

[faster]

And a corollary:

You cannot change a person. The best you can hope is to be either a good example or a horrible warning.

(That said, we all change each other all the time; we just can't control or force the way it happens)

[Sine qua non]

Forgive.
and
Love God with all your heart, all you mind and all your strength.
and
Love, and submit your will to the will(s) of those who love you, as necessary.

These help me.

[Omkara]

[Tarmangani]

It's only wrong if you get caught.

[Omkara]

An older Mexican man walked up to me. He had noticed that my bicycle was packed with camping gear. He asked me where I was going. I told him that I was crossing California from Lassen Park to the Humboldt Coast, along 36.

He understood I was searching. So, he chose to share his gem of wisdom with me.

"Man is his biggest deceiver," he said. "Look at me. I am 57, and I'm still strong." Indeed he was. He was built like a brick wall. He flexed a massve bicep to prove it.

He said, "My friends lived their lives fast--chasing so many women, drinking, smoking. Now, my friends cannot keep up with me. They are miserable, and I am healthy, strong. Don't you live your life that way. Don't lie to yourself. I tell you, man is his biggest deciever."

I see the truth of this as I grow older and see friends enter into rehab, have unplanned children with women they don't love, and lose their health. There are a million ways we decieve ourselves.

[Omkara]

[Woland]

Good stuff above, especially the parts about who we have influence over and who we don't.

I would just add - Most people are nice and will try to be helpful if you give them a chance. To give them a chance, you have to be willing to risk some trust. I have made an effort over time to be more trusting and less susupicious of others. It has almost always paid off.

A couple of quotes in support of this:

[mikowee]

When I feel like shit:

"Some people have it much worse than me"

and its corollary:

"At least I'm not Britney Spears"

[twg]

what life has taught me:

Telling someone "I forgive you" means "Do it again" to their ears. The best I give those who have troubled me in the past is to make them dead to me.

[indytrucks]

Ignore the problem. It'll go away.

[Hapkido-In]

Never wrestle with a pig in the mud. You both get dirty and the pig enjoys it.