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[plokiju]

I turn 25 in a few months. I'm not looking forward to that. I suppose I'm already in my mid-20s (I think that's the first time, I've said that) but they were supposed to last longer and I was supposed to have accomplished more by this point. When I'm fifty though, I know I'll really be wishing I was turning 25 instead of 51.

I think all the other big tens will be worse. 30,40, etc. except I'd imagine by the time you hit 70 you've just accepted that you are old and once I'm 80 something, I'll probably be excited for each birthday. See how many I can make it to.

[Ya-ta Boy]

Aging is kind of an odd thing.

When you turn 18, you think: Woo hoo! I didn't get run over by a bus this last year. Aren't I the cat's pajamas?! Everyone, stop your life for a minute and give me some attention.

A few years down the road and you figure out that a few billion (BILLION) other people have managed to avoid the bus, too. It slowly begins to lose that feeling of accomplishment.

My mom is going to be 83 soon, and a couple of months after that I'll be 58. I think the trick is to figure out how to value each day. I wasted a few hours of my life dreading the idea of 28 and 39. It didn't stop or delay those birthdays coming around. I guess I could have slit my wrists, but that would have defeated the purpose, wouldn't it?

There are a number of posters who attack me because of their discomfort about age. It's always both funny and silly. Funny because they are showing their ignorance. Silly because they are showing their lack of depth.

[cosmicgirlie]

I never dreaded the big 30. I was quite happy and super excited because at 30 I could be an "adult" now.

I found that the 20's wouldn't end fast enough. I enjoyed them to the full extent that the law would allow however I always found I was never taken serious on issues or items I wanted to get started on. I always found the 'what do you know you're only 25' a little tiresome after a while.

The whole idea of turning 30 felt so great because that meant I was ready for the whole adult world and responsibilities that come along with it. Now my folks or co-workers can't say "what do you know you're only in your 20's". I can say "No I'm in my 30's now so "

[i_teach_esl]

i love saying that im 31... and i really love it when people respond, "NO WAY!"

[gypsyfish]

[khyber]

I think that everyone who dreads the birthdays, deep down knows that it is illogical and untrue.

I CERTAINLY don't think that my 30s are contractually bound to be boring and vepid. I have just always dreaded that birthday because that is what I associated with that time.


What makes the devil right is that, over the last year, I've decided that indeed it IS time for me to get a house so my dogs can run around and have a big garden so I can eat fresh organic vegetables in the summer.

I'm (kinda) sure I'll still have time for fun though.

[Boodleheimer]

i've been dreading all my birthdays for 4 1/2 years now. my gran (and favourite person) passed away the day before my 23rd.

my great-grandmother died on my mother's bday, but they weren't that close.

[Omkara]

I dreaded 30, too. I had a thing for a 23 year old Russian cutie, and the age thing was a problem. (Thank God that didn't work out!)

Also, I was feeling real pain because I'd hurt my hip doing squat-presses which were far too heavy. (I'd thought in my 20's I was immortal.) It was so bad that I couldn't see how I was going to live the rest of my life.

Then, my hairline decided it wanted to get. . .longer! Now, I have a hair piece. And, I'm happy with it.

Actually, I just shaved my head . . . and my back. (I look sexier in a two-piece thong with my back and my butt shaved.)

I have since learned a lot about the care of my body; I got deeply involved in yoga. Now my hip is much better. I've dropped weight lifting, and now my exercise is part of my spiritual journey. All those blows to my image and idea of myself were actually helpful. They helped me to set my priorities straighter. (In all honesty, because of the care I take of myself, people often assume I am in my early to mid twenties. I'll be thrity four in two weeks.)


Here's the biggest difference. Though I was sharp as a twenty-something, I realize now that I knew far too much to have even the faintest taste of wisdom. I know far less now, and would not trade the whole world for all I've un-learned.

I ask myself, if there is such a difference in wisdom between 24 and 34, will I see myself to be so ignorant when I meet 44? Probably. I still know too much.

[ajuma]

[gypsyfish]

[mnhnhyouh]

[Buff]

I don't think I dread any birthdays. I like em all. Granted I'm only 25 (26 on the 31st!) but I appreciate looking where I've been and wondering where life will take me in the years ahead.

Also, I have a great role model for aging well. My ma rocks. She is way healthier, more beautiful, and far more vibrant at 53 than she was at 40. She's working out, writing books, becoming more adventurous, and it's great to see!. I would never have said it when I was 15 almost 16 but at 25 almost 26, I want to be just like my mom.

[JongnoGuru]

Dreading birthdays is women's business. We men are too busy being stoic, philosophical & uncomplaining about such things.
The only effect birthdays have on us is to increase by one year the age-range of women we might want to do.

Beautifully put, yes??


(personally, the big 1-3 is coming up and it's got me terrified. there's gotta be a way out of this.)

[plokiju]

[mehamrick]

hmmm you all are lucky.. I only get one every 4 years so I kinda have fun with them.. will be 8 next year whoohooo....