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[bhog]

Do you find it more difficult to end or forget a relationship in Korea? I dated a western woman for a short period of time (5 dates or so). It's now been a few MONTHS since we last spoke, and I still can't forget her. Is this because of the dearth of western women in Korea? Back home I've never been this hung up on someone I dated so briefly.

I have no problem dating Korean women, but the whole lack of a common language thing rules out a lot of them, or at least makes it difficult. Also it seems that about 95% of attractive western women I met are in a relationship either in Korea or in their country of origin.

(And ladies, I know you might think there's no overabundance of attractive western men here either, so some of you may have the same problem.)

[merkurix]

Wow! This is usually a common complaint I hear from Western women, more than Western guys. I myself cannot answer your question as I have never dated a Western woman here, but I had a lot of Western female friends who complained of being lonely because many of the Western fellows had or were primarily interested in Korean women, and Korean men are not exactly their cup of tea (this is not a sweeping generalization; I can only speak about my own waygook female buddies.). I would say, just keep looking around. I believe there are a lot of females who are thinking the same thing you are. You might want to hear some women poster's opinions here too.

[esetters21]

It does seem that a lot of western girls here are tied up with someone back home. I always wonder how these people mantain a relationship this way. I can't imagine being serious about someone and living thousands of miles away from them for an extended period of time. Maybe thats just me. Anyway, there are plenty of Korean girls that language is not a problem with. I guess that it depends on where you are and your patience. Good luck.

[europe2seoul]

Dude, you are still thinking about her because from all this dating with K-girls you finally found someone you can prolly relate to better and communicate better.
Now you are realizing that there ain't so many white girls in Korea like it is back home so if things did not work out with A you can date B.
I guess you should go out and meet some other white girls and then you will forget about her since you will find a replacement. Don't think she can't be replaces - do not chase the bus - another one will come.

[oneofthesarahs]

I think breakups far from home are harder simply because you know less people, so cutting one important person from your life is devestating. When I broke up with my last boyfriend, I had a moment of "Oh sh*t, now what??" just because I had relied on him as my primary source of socialization. Back in the States though, I could easily rely on my friends to fill in the sudden "empty" time. In Korea, you're less likely to have a large group of random acquaintances that one tends to gather in a place you've lived for a while.

[tfunk]

1. You have more time to think about this shit and less distractions(heart-to-heart buddies) to get over it.

To another poster...girls just say that they have a boyfriend back home. It's a form of security.

Here's a bit of Confucian philosophy to cheer you up:

Every dumper is only a dumper because there is a dumpee. So, even though you might think it is embarassing to be a dumpee you are actually in a symbiotic relationship with the dumper. In other words, who would Luke Skywalker be without Darth Vader? Even though everybody thinks Luke Skywalker is the man, he'd just be a moisture farmer if it wasn't for Darth Vader. I learnt this from my Korean ancestors, so respect where respect due.

[bhog]

I guess I agree with oneofthesarahs. It's that whole not knowing a lot of people there that makes it hard.

Also, europe2seoul I agree with you as well, it was nice to have an attractive girl to hang out with in Korea (even if only for a short time), with whom I could actually communicate without excessive use of sign language/hand gestures.

The other problem is that I tend to be more physically attracted to white, black, and Latina girls than K-girls, and there are way less to choose from in Korea. Nothing against K-girls, 'cause there are some definite beauties there, just a general preference. I think in general it just pisses me off that I must've said or done the wrong thing to run off a hottie in Korea where they are fewer in # (by my taste).

[Saxiif]