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Adventurer
Joined: 28 Jan 2006
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 Posted: Wed Apr 18, 2007 9:20 am Post subject: Man proposes after four minutes |
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Last Updated: Sunday, 15 April 2007, 08:32 GMT 09:32 UK
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Man proposes after four minutes
Carl and Danielle Dockings met playing cards online
A single father-of-two proposed to an American woman he met on the internet four minutes after flying 4,000 miles to see her for the first time.
Carl Dockings, 36, from Newport, south Wales, popped the question to Danielle at Chicago's O'Hare Airport after the pair met playing cards on the internet.
The 26-year-old said "yes" and the couple were married four months later.
The pair are now settled in his home city with their daughter Isabel, who was born on New Year's Day.
Council worker Mr Dockings explained how the couple met while playing the card game gin online.
He was really funny and we seemed to click right away
Danielle Dockings
He said: "I'd always liked cards and was filling in the evening. I went on there and bumped into Danielle playing in a card game and we hit it off straight away.
"I was inundated with work and the computer was where I went to relax and wind down and that's where I found Danielle.
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/uk_news/wales/south_east/6552333.stm |
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Bibbitybop
Joined: 22 Feb 2006
Location: Seoul
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| Posted: Wed Apr 18, 2007 4:06 pm Post subject: |
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| I have friends (American and Korean) who are getting married after 1-3 months of meeting and dating. Insanity, pure and simple. |
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Juregen
Joined: 30 May 2006
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| Posted: Wed Apr 18, 2007 6:56 pm Post subject: |
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| Bibbitybop wrote: |
| I have friends (American and Korean) who are getting married after 1-3 months of meeting and dating. Insanity, pure and simple. |
It took me 10 years to pick up the courage /;0 |
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princess
Joined: 16 Jan 2003
Location: soul of Asia
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| Posted: Wed Apr 18, 2007 7:54 pm Post subject: |
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| It's called desperation. It's sad really. I'd rather spend the rest of my life single than to settle. It's better than settling for the wrong person...someone you are not crazy about and you know they are not crazy about you, either. Also, the guy was 36 years old with 2 kids. I'd run like hell from that. He was desperate for a mommy figure for his 2 kids too. I'm NOT raising someone else's brats. |
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Big_Bird
Joined: 31 Jan 2003
Location: Sometimes here sometimes there...
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| Posted: Wed Apr 18, 2007 8:34 pm Post subject: Re: Man proposes after four minutes |
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| Adventurer wrote: |
A single father-of-two proposed to an American woman he met on the internet four minutes after flying 4,000 miles to see her for the first time.
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I understand that to be 4 minutes after he'd met her in the flesh. But before then they'd presumably got to know each other quite well on the internet - yes? In which case it doesn't seem so crazy. |
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Adventurer
Joined: 28 Jan 2006
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| Posted: Wed Apr 18, 2007 9:45 pm Post subject: Re: Man proposes after four minutes |
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| Big_Bird wrote: |
| Adventurer wrote: |
A single father-of-two proposed to an American woman he met on the internet four minutes after flying 4,000 miles to see her for the first time.
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I understand that to be 4 minutes after he'd met her in the flesh. But before then they'd presumably got to know each other quite well on the internet - yes? In which case it doesn't seem so crazy. |
Yes, they talked on the internet for a long time and presumably on the phone. He felt she was the one for him and vice versa. Were they crazy? Anymore than the people who have been together face to face and then got a divorce? I am not sure. Arranged marriages seem to last longer or ones based on common interests and values and ways of approaching things. I admit it sounds a little crazy, but he felt in his gut that she was for him. There are people who felt that the person they met for a first date would be the person they would marry. People say love at first sight is crazy, too. Love is not exactly a rational thing per se...
I consider myself very rational, and I don't think I would do this, but I wouldn't call him or her irrational. How am I to know what will happen?
I just thought of a Beatles' song when posting just now"
Would you believe in a love at first sight
Yes, I'm certain that it happens all the time
What do you see when you turn out the light
I can't tell you but I know it's mine
Oh, I get by with a little help from my friends
Mm, I get high with a little help from my friends
Mm, gonna try with a little help from my friends
Do you need anybody
I just need someone to love
Could it be anybody
I want somebody to love
Oh, I get by with a little help from my friends
Mm, I get high with a little help from my friends
Mm, gonna try with a little help from my friends
Yes I get by with a little help from my friends
With a little help from my friends |
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ChimpumCallao
Joined: 17 May 2005
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| Posted: Wed Apr 18, 2007 10:12 pm Post subject: |
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| princess wrote: |
| It's called desperation. It's sad really. I'd rather spend the rest of my life single than to settle. |
looks like your dreams are coming true! :)
I think its very romantic. |
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princess
Joined: 16 Jan 2003
Location: soul of Asia
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| Posted: Thu Apr 19, 2007 12:45 am Post subject: |
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| ChimpumCallao wrote: |
| princess wrote: |
| It's called desperation. It's sad really. I'd rather spend the rest of my life single than to settle. |
looks like your dreams are coming true! 
I think its very romantic. |
That's right and proud of it! Who wants to settle??? I am turning down guys I don't like left and right, mind you. Plenty of offers, just no good ones. I don't need marriage either. I am a busy gal! I have friends, hobbies, and a life! |
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Pak Yu Man
Joined: 02 Jun 2005
Location: The Ida galaxy
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| Posted: Thu Apr 19, 2007 4:06 am Post subject: |
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| princess wrote: |
| I am a busy gal! |
when I said this about you you got all angry and reported me.
Look at Koreans and mail order brides. Do they get to know the perso they're going to marry? At least these two got to know each other on the net before their '4 mins'.
Maybe Princess can get a mail order husband. Some nice rice farmer to treat her like a princess. |
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plokiju
Joined: 15 Mar 2005
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| Posted: Thu Apr 19, 2007 4:38 am Post subject: |
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| My grandparents got engaged after one weekend of knowing each other (my grandmother was engaged to someone else and the time). They met on my grandfather's vacation. He went back to home for about 6 months and then went back and they got married. A bit crazy to marry someone after nothing more than a weekend a handful of letters but they were married for just under 40 years until my grandfather died. Sometimes crazy works out. |
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nobbyken
Joined: 07 Jun 2006
Location: Yongin ^^
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| Posted: Thu Apr 19, 2007 5:21 am Post subject: |
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I met my wife in December '04 and proposed in March '05.
We had only seen each other for a few weeks, and the rest by email/msn.
She got worried, so we called it off until after I spent a month vacation in Korea.
We had a pre-wedding blessing (Sept.) in Scotland and then the proper wedding in Seoul (Oct.).
When you meet that person, and you both meet each other, you know what's the right thing to do.
If our parents were single, where would we be? |
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the_beaver
Joined: 15 Jan 2003
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| Posted: Thu Apr 19, 2007 5:24 am Post subject: |
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| nobbyken wrote: |
| If our parents were single, where would we be? |
Sperm and egg are the requirement, not a certificate.
Nearly 10 years with my girlfriend and no marriage in sight. |
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Corporal
Joined: 25 Jan 2003
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| Posted: Thu Apr 19, 2007 6:25 am Post subject: |
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| Though I'm not advocating anyone get married after four minutes, the idea of having to spend months and months of living with/getting to know the person before committing to marriage to is a fairly recent (and no doubt Western) concept. |
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Bibbitybop
Joined: 22 Feb 2006
Location: Seoul
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| Posted: Thu Apr 19, 2007 8:09 am Post subject: |
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| Corporal wrote: |
| Though I'm not advocating anyone get married after four minutes, the idea of having to spend months and months of living with/getting to know the person before committing to marriage to is a fairly recent (and no doubt Western) concept. |
It beats arranged and/or convenient marriages that end with infidelity, suspicion, a desire to be with someone else and no love. But that's true with marriages that were years in the making, too, eh? |
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princess
Joined: 16 Jan 2003
Location: soul of Asia
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| Posted: Thu Apr 19, 2007 3:10 pm Post subject: |
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| I still say it's best to get to know someone for 2 years or longer before you say "I do". If we are talking about giving the rest of our lives to a person, there is just no way you can know enough about someone in 2 days or 2 months. It's called two desperate souls finding each other. We don't always know what goes on behind closed doors. I would almost bet money that these marriages are not very good ones. I am sure there is a lot of taking each other for granted going on, as well as some poor woman never receiving romantic gestures, or receiving them after much nagging. If you have to nag a man to buy you flowers, he isn't doing it from the heart. That's why I believe those relationship books that say the more a woman lets a man chase her, the more he will treat her like a prize. I used to work with a gal here in Korea, whose Korean boyfriend left her to go meet and marry someone his mommy and daddy found for him. Two weeks later she met another Korean man and they ended up getting married. How is that marriage??? hahaha She said she wishes she would not have married him many times. They have a kid, too. |
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