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uberscheisse · Joined: 02 Dec 2003 Location: japan is better than korea.

this annoying turbochristian kyopo prat i used to work with just got married to one of the staff members at my school. i never really paid her any mind, and never tried to build any alliance with her. i was also never really close to the husband, though he's a good guy. so i was relieved to see that i was not invited to her wedding. 30,000 won saved.

other co-workers went to the wedding. they had planned to do what they thought they were expected to do, by preparing a 30,000 won envelope.

on the invitations was written "since we will be leaving for our honeymoon directly after the wedding, could we please get our wedding gifts in advance?" which i thought practical yet in poor taste.

so some people handed over envelopes at work the day before the wedding. one guy was told "well you know, it's supposed to be 50,000, not 30, and since it's the wedding of two co-workers, you're expected to double the wedding gift, since you're attending the wedding for both sides."

now - korean weddings annoy me to begin with. some things about korean culture annoy me and i can take them in stride. one or two things about the culture repulse me, and wedding industry/wedding culture is one of them. so i'm glad this was a bullet that i dodged.

but has anyone heard of two people at the same office getting married, therefore demanding 2x the money? it seems not only materialistic as hell but incredibly rude. i can't imagine it being a cultural rule, except in the mind of this particular psychopath.

princess · Joined: 16 Jan 2003 Location: soul of Asia

No, I have never heard of this, and they sound greedy and selfish. What they wrote on the invitations was also tacky and tasteless. I find it funny how people can having nothing to do with you, then when they want something, you will get an invite from them. hahaha...There are users in every country. I would also never tarnish my special day by getting married in a cheesy wedding hall. Everyone rushes in ppalli ppalli style, with the next wedding party talking on their handphones at the back. t-a-c-k-y. Tacky!

uberscheisse · Joined: 02 Dec 2003 Location: japan is better than korea.

JD1982 · Joined: 19 Apr 2007

If both are kind of greedy arseholes that op described, I'd say that marriage won't last a year. Rolling Eyes

uberscheisse · Joined: 02 Dec 2003 Location: japan is better than korea.

ED209 · Joined: 17 Oct 2006

I hate wedding anyway. But I'm just a miserable git.
Sure the bride always scrubs up a treat but those tacky wedding halls take any magic there was and turns it sour. Back home weddings are pretty cool, pissed up uncles, aunts breaking their hips on the dance floor, kids in little suits punching each other. Great fun, and it was always the brides day not "quick, are you finished? we need the room!"

These conveyor belt weddings here really put me off not just getting married but also going to friends weddings. Plus the buffet sucks. And remember most of that money will end up with the brides parents anyway. I don't mind tacky, but there's no sense of irony here.

kprrok · Joined: 06 Apr 2004 Location: KC

If I had been the person they said that to, I would've snatched the envelope back and said "well, since you obviously only invited me for the money, I'll be just as conceited and take it back. Thanks for the memories and next time I'll not even bother wasting time thinking of you."

Oh well. This is the reason I dodged 2 weddings of co-workers in the past two years. I didn't want to "have" to give a certain amount of money. I've always thought of gifts and something I want to give.

KPRROK

Richard Krainium · Joined: 12 Jan 2006

I don't know which one is worse. Asking for the money upfront or putting the couple's bank account number in the wedding invitation. Shocked

Yes, we've seen this. Laughing

Bibbitybop · Joined: 22 Feb 2006 Location: Seoul

I always give 10,000 won because my coworkers think no one has explained to me the concept of giving money upfront. 10,000 buffet time.

oxfordstu · Joined: 28 Aug 2004 Location: Bangkok

uberscheisse · Joined: 02 Dec 2003 Location: japan is better than korea.

i might add this -

soon after she started working at our school, a few of us were on the topic of religion. my friend said "well, i'm a good person, and i don't lie, i do good things, i'm pretty sure that even though i'm agnostic, i'm going to a heaven of some sort."

she replied "uh... no you're not."

"where am i going?"

"well, if you don't believe in god, you're going to hell."

it kinda showed us her true colors really early-like. the fact that someone could tell another person in an amicable discussion that they're going to burn in hell points towards a black soul, if one even existed.

ilovebdt · Joined: 03 Jun 2005 Location: Nr Seoul

ED209 · Joined: 17 Oct 2006

pdx · Joined: 19 Jan 2007

ugh. Horrible.

Of course I'm the kind of person who really thinks registering for gifts is also kind of tacky.

Milwaukiedave · Joined: 02 Oct 2004 Location: Goseong

Uber,

Honestly give whatever you think is appropriate. Given what you have explained about the situation, I wouldn't give them squat.

I got married last year and I was kind of uncomfortable about people giving money and it being recorded in a book. If people aren't understanding and want to be gripe about what you give them, then they don't deserve anything. I hope you stand your ground.