Korean Job Discussion Forums

[MollyBloom]

What is the easiest way? If two committed people who just need to take individual steps to complete their goals have to part for a year or so, what can make it work? Success stories, please. Let's keep this optimistic!

[Junior]

" If two committed people who just want to fly to mars in a cessna, what can make it work? Success stories, please. Let's keep this optimistic!"

[oneofthesarahs]

Uh...phone sex?

[ED209]

Watch your friends!

[faster]

A good friend of mine was away from his fiancee for 22 out of the last 24 months, but they're going strong, so I suppose it's possible.

[mnhnhyouh]

I have seen two long distance relationships in my short time in Korea, one working, and the other just finished.

The difference? Those in the working one have free reign to satisfy their physical needs.

However, I have rarely seen them work, and have seen a few try. I dont do them.

Advice: let it go, with the knowledge that it isnt over for good. Then if you are both available, and interested, you can start up again. No angst then, either about them or you "straying".

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[RACETRAITOR]

I would say the best thing is to maintain the commitment but keep it an open relationship so both parties can engage in sex as long as it doesn't bring about commitment.

It sounds extreme, and there's probably a 75% chance it'll end horribly, but at least you'll get some along the way and it beats the 95% chance you had if you tried to stay monogamous.

/numbers pulled from ass.

[kimchi story]

7am to 8am Mon - Fri on the webcam. Saturday and Sunday between 8am and 5pm - webcam's on as we go about our day.

It's possible, but man it sucks.

[Alyallen]

[endo]

Tried it for a month when I first got here, but soon realized I should of been a man about it and broken up with her before I left.

Instead I was a coward and broke up with her over the phone.

I hope I learned my lesson.

[lastat06513]

LDR don't work...in the short time I have been on the dating scene, those types of relationships where the couple have to be apart for anytime longer for a few months have a good chance to end in utter failure.

Case in point....Travellus Maximus (whatever he calls himself), he left the US for Korea and then the seperation was too much for him to bear, so he pulled a runner.....and now he haunts the hallow halls of Dave's, being annoying most of the time.

Listen, it is all up to you on how you deal with the seperation, but if you know it is going to be a stumbling block in your relationship, you either have the choice of putting your plans on the back-burner and see how the relationship progresses or just cut your ties and hope they will be there when you come back......

If they care about you enough, they will come back to you; You know....

"Love is like a bird with a broken wing, you can care and nurture it back to health. But when it comes time for it to fly, let it go. If the bird comes back to you, it is true love. If it goes away, it was meant to be...."

[Yo!Chingo]

I and my husband have been engaged in frequent forays apart ranging from weeks to months apart. The most recent of which having been 4 months. It's been diffucult at times but if the relationship is strong it can work. I've found that frequent communication and complete honesty works wonders. Also much depends on the individuals themselves. Some people need constant companionship whether it's you or someone else and aren't strong or willing enough to remain in a long distance relationship. It's not easy.

Someone here has mentioned having an open relationship. Bad idea especially if one or both partners are jealous natured.

How long have you been with your partner? Do you both have fulfilled enough lives apart to be satisfied when left alone for long periods?

[manlyboy]

For it to work, you need to be more committed to each other than you are to your goals.

Are you?

[RACETRAITOR]

[Junior]