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pest2
Joined: 01 Jun 2005
Location: Vancouver, Canada
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| ticktock wrote: |
| rocklee wrote: |
| Some parents believed that their efforts to migrate to another country in search for a better life should be honoured by their kids by studying hard and paying them back. |
When you say paying them back, I hope you're not implying financially, cos that's not really how it is. You pay them back if you have made a sucess of your life,
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I have a very close friend who moved to the US from China when he was 14. He is no longer very close to his parents because they are angry because he doesnt send money home from work..
I have heard people here and in China say it over and over: As a son or daughter, you are you parents' investment/property. |
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contrarian
Joined: 20 Jan 2007
Location: Nearly in NK
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| Posted: Mon Apr 30, 2007 10:09 pm Post subject: |
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Hater:
Would you believe both. My mother and grandmother were long lapsed Jews, so I'm a Jew. By religion I'm a Mormon.
The Mormons as a rule push their kids to college - with two years off to be missionaries for the boys. The all want to be doctors lawyers and accountants.
The Jews historically, and in my experience actually push their kids to succeed in things considered to be appropriate.
I pushed my four kids like heck. My oldest a girl has a fine arts degree in Music and works as a personnel manager. My oldest son quit in the 10th grade and makes more than any of us. Number 2 son is in Afghanistan getting shot at and the youngest has a computer degree and is teaching in Korea. |
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gyopogirlfromtexas
Joined: 21 Apr 2007
Location: Austin,Texas
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| Posted: Tue May 01, 2007 5:20 pm Post subject: |
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[quote="pest2"][quote="ticktock"]
| rocklee wrote: |
I have a very close friend who moved to the US from China when he was 14. He is no longer very close to his parents because they are angry because he doesnt send money home from work..
I have heard people here and in China say it over and over: As a son or daughter, you are you parents' investment/property. |
Wow, my biological dad in Korea talked about this. AM I sending him lot of money when I start working and I'm successful. I thought he was "kidding." Although, I'm not Chinese. Maybe he was serious?  |
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gyopogirlfromtexas
Joined: 21 Apr 2007
Location: Austin,Texas
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| Posted: Tue May 01, 2007 5:22 pm Post subject: |
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| He also expected me to live with him when I get married. I was like what a nightmare, just like those Korean family dramas where the couple lives with the husband's parents and grandparents. I feel bad for not wanting to do that, but living with daddy when I'm that old doesn't sound right unless it was a war situation and was absolutely necessary for survival. |
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wylies99
Joined: 13 May 2006
Location: I'm one cool cat!
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| Posted: Wed May 02, 2007 2:37 am Post subject: |
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Try to stay on a different continent from him as long as possible!  |
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