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crusher_of_heads · Posted: Tue May 15, 2007 1:33 pm Post subject:

princess, are you and your friend both 34?

Is this friend of yours carrying a torch for a bartender?

princess · Joined: 16 Jan 2003 Location: soul of Asia

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rockstarsmooth · Joined: 01 Aug 2006 Location: anyang, baybee!

i'm 33 and my wife is 25. she was 18 when we met, but i waited for her to turn 19 before i'd ask her out on a date. there was no way i was going out on a date with someone i couldn't have a drink with!
she's very mature, and i'm pretty childish so it all balances out. i've always dated people either much younger or much older than i. i don't relate well to people my own age.
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right now i'm listening to: hank williams jr. - women i've never had.

Cedar · Posted: Tue May 15, 2007 4:34 pm Post subject:

Can't believe no one has mentioned yet.... in Korea, this age difference (because the woman is the older party) is a BIG BIG BIG deal. Double the BIGs if the woman is a foreigner. Good for a f--- buddy but otherwise this has no chance (and I DO speak from experience).

Natalie · Joined: 16 Apr 2007

its only a big deal if you make it a big deal.

I wouldn't care either way. Probably draw the line at more than 15 years, but not saying it isn't possible (for man or woman).

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Cedar · Posted: Tue May 15, 2007 7:01 pm Post subject:

Adventurer · Joined: 28 Jan 2006

I would date a girl younger than me if she had the right attitude. There are girls who are in 25 who are less mature than girls who are 20, so it is somewhat relative to the person. I am a little over 30, and I would date a girl who is 24 or 25 if she had a certain kind of personality that I considered rare. I wouldn't use the number to deny her or me a chance at amorous bliss. It would certainly be folly to do so. Of course, you have to consider culture.

You said the person is Korean. Koreans are generally viewed as more conservative when it comes to appearance, age, race, religion etc.. than Westerners. So it depends on the Korean couple and their families. If a Korean wants a serious relationship and there is a big age difference, they might have more pressure to call it off.
As far as dating, it is less of a big deal. I think people should be adults and choose who they want to be. There is no point in making yourself
happy to placate narrow parental views. Respect your parents for creating you, but very narrow views are the opposite of creation, expansion. It's not just a number, but love doesn't simply go by some numbers game or cultural game.

Cedar · Posted: Wed May 16, 2007 8:00 am Post subject:

Adventurer, I am not saying that this is you, so don't be defensive, but in general with western men dating Korean women...

I've noticed a tendency to think that Korean women are mature when often what they're seeing is a woman who was -never- a Hello Kitty type who is in control of herself. It doesn't mean she's mature, it just means she has self respect. In terms of how advanced her thinking is, her understanding of others, compassion, ability to cope with the new/weird/stressful... it may be almost nothing. But from the outside she seems "mature" because she doesn't get plastered and kiss all the boys and wear short-shorts just to get noticed and giggle all the time.

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Psycho?