Korean Job Discussion Forums

[Seoul_Star]

I can only see this being a big deal because Korean people so often ask your age. The looks on their faces after you tell them that you are 34 and your boyfriend is 26 may get old after a while. Maybe your friend should relegate him to boytoy status instead of boyfriend, that would be easier to deal with. Really, it's only going to bother you if you let it. When I was living in Japan, I once "dated" a 40 year old woman (I was 22 at the time). She probably looked like she was in her mid 30's. She was young at heart. She had an 11 year old son. She demanded that I service her frequently. She often baked cookies for my roommates and I the following morning. Oh Japan, I miss you so, you never did me wrong!

[crusher_of_heads]

Just tell him you're 34!

[TheBrain]

How can anyone know your ages just by looking at you? Get over yourself. "the paranoids are out to get me"

[TheBrain]

[EFLtrainer]

Hope this wasn't covered, but on the practical side, you're less likely to spend as many years alone at the end of the marriage, assuming.... lots of things.

[Adventurer]

[gyopogirlfromtexas]

I've dated both older and younger guys. I don't like them too old now. I really want them to be around the 4 yr range. Younger or older. If the age gap is more than that, they'd have to be really amazing as a person. I dated a lot of young guys this and last year for the first time in my life. They were all 2-5 years younger than me.

I used to exclusively go out with guys who were at least a year older than me. But that got boring, and age is sorta just a number anyways. I dated one guy who was 42 when I was 22. I just wanted to try for the experience. He had very good job, lived in a rich neighborhood, and was cute. It felt so gross, after the first kiss, I had to end it. I told him it felt like I was kissing my dad's friend and it felt like incest.

I prefer 2 years younger or 2 years older than me range, if I wanted to be picky. I think I prefer younger men, because they are usually in better physical shape than the older ones, and more fun to be around. My last serious relationship was with a white jewish guy, and we were together 3 yrs, but he was 6 years older than me. He put on 30 lbs during those years, started balding... I also think the big age gap might have been a problem with our case at least.

When I was finally single and free, it was nice to date early 20's mid 20's guys after him, and their bodies were wow, "YOUNG, MUSCULAR, HEALTHY, NON-PREGNANCY, NO MAN BREAST" look. So happy to enjoy that after all that time. And my ex got very boring. He was very conceited. I didn't like how he had to show off that he went to Baylor, was president of the honor society, and graduated at the top 5% of his class.

Every time we went out, he would talk like that. Even one time when he got in trouble with the law. I told him I don't think that the cops would care about him graduating at the top of his class at his good school, when he was wrong. That's not going to change their mind, but he thought that fact could get him out of trouble somehow. And when he got into grad school, he was telling everyone that he got into a semi prestigious university for his grad school. Something about the way he said that, it was so arrogant.

We always had to talk about boring things. For example, after watching a movie, I felt like I was in a movie critique class. He expected to talk about it in detail and all kinds of weird ways. I felt that he was trying too hard being sophisticated, that he was not being himself. I liked that younger guys can be funny, and have a sense of humor, and not have to be serious all the time. They were actually stress relievers than stress givers.

Anyways, I would never rule out dating someone just because of their age. The big thing is how they carry themselves, and what age they act. One time I dated a soldier and he was 22, but all his friends were in their late 20's and 30's. And he acted like a 30 year old. I was just going to be friends with him, because 27 and 22 doesn't sound right. Especially when most guys like their women young anyway. And he reminded me it's not the age, but how a person acts individually doesn't always match up with their actual age.

[Adventurer]

[gyopogirlfromtexas]

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[contrarian]

I was barely) 30 when I married, my wife was 21. She always claimed to have raised 5 children, our four and me. 35 damned good years. She died a couple of years back.

Now some friends are trying to line me up with a woman 27 years younger than me. I don't think I could handle the strain. (When my wife turned 40, I said as a joke that I should trade her for two 20's. She informed me I was not wired for 220.

[Adventurer]

[contrarian]

Yea, I got lucky. She died of the lang term effects of type I diabetes and Rheumatod arthritis. On our 30th anniversary and four babies later she could still wear her wedding dress.

The woman my friends are trying to line me up with is a young 42, I'm 67. As I said I don't think I could handle it.

[Adventurer]

[contrarian]

As I am strictly religious I could do nothing without marriage. I wonder how my kids (oldest aged 36 would like a 52 year old stepmother).

Life gets complicated.