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princess
Joined: 16 Jan 2003
Location: soul of Asia
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 Posted: Mon May 28, 2007 1:28 am Post subject: Calling a Guy |
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| Hello everyone! Is it true if a girl calls a guy that he will lose interest, because you are the one pursuing and NOT the guy? I read that book The Rules and also another book called "Why Men Marry Biatches". They both say things like if a woman calls a man first, even if he likes her he will lose interest. Also, The Rules says if you ask a guy out, he may go out with you and even end up marrying you. But, since it was at your suggestion and not his, he will never treat you very well or with much respect. Is this true? I spent a lot of time Saturday chatting with this guy and I like him so much. He told me to message him on his webpage, too. But, if I do it first, will he pull back? He could leave me a message first. What's with guys telling us gals to call or message first. Why can't they do it first? I'm shy. The second time I saw this guy he gave me a hug, so he must like me. |
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Masta_Don
Joined: 17 Aug 2006
Location: Hyehwa-dong, Seoul
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| Posted: Mon May 28, 2007 1:29 am Post subject: |
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| Guys drive like this, girls drive like this... |
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blackjack
Joined: 04 Jan 2006
Location: anyang
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| Posted: Mon May 28, 2007 1:51 am Post subject: |
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maybe he is shy?
maybe he is wondering if you are into him?
maybe he is thinking what could a girl like that possibly see in me, maybe she is playing with me?
maybe he read the same book?
maybe he is taking it slow?
maybe he is not into you?
maybe he is game playing?
maybe he has read some of your posts?
Have i left any out?
guys ask themselves the exact same questions girls do. If you like the guy call/message him. If you don't, call/message him and tell him (make it nice tho)
for every self help book that tells you one thing you will find another that will tell you some thing different. your gut instinct is more important. Do you really want to risk not meeting "mr right" because of what a book tells you?
He might be a freak, he might be nice and perfect, he might also be a homicidal maniac. Same questions at the beginning of every relationship
my point god knows? |
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RACETRAITOR
Joined: 24 Oct 2005
Location: Seoul, South Korea
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| Posted: Mon May 28, 2007 1:59 am Post subject: Re: Calling a Guy |
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| princess wrote: |
| Hello everyone! Is it true if a girl calls a guy that he will lose interest, because you are the one pursuing and NOT the guy? I read that book The Rules and also another book called "Why Men Marry Biatches". They both say things like if a woman calls a man first, even if he likes her he will lose interest. Also, The Rules says if you ask a guy out, he may go out with you and even end up marrying you. But, since it was at your suggestion and not his, he will never treat you very well or with much respect. Is this true? I spent a lot of time Saturday chatting with this guy and I like him so much. He told me to message him on his webpage, too. But, if I do it first, will he pull back? He could leave me a message first. What's with guys telling us gals to call or message first. Why can't they do it first? I'm shy. The second time I saw this guy he gave me a hug, so he must like me. |
What a useless book. Ask for your money back or hollow it out to transport drugs. |
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butlerian
Joined: 04 Sep 2006
Location: Korea
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| Posted: Mon May 28, 2007 2:01 am Post subject: |
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| blackjack wrote: |
maybe he is shy?
maybe he is wondering if you are into him?
maybe he is thinking what could a girl like that possibly see in me, maybe she is playing with me?
maybe he read the same book?
maybe he is taking it slow?
maybe he is not into you?
maybe he is game playing?
maybe he has read some of your posts?
Have i left any out?
guys ask themselves the exact same questions girls do. If you like the guy call/message him. If you don't, call/message him and tell him (make it nice tho)
for every self help book that tells you one thing you will find another that will tell you some thing different. your gut instinct is more important. Do you really want to risk not meeting "mr right" because of what a book tells you?
He might be a freak, he might be nice and perfect, he might also be a homicidal maniac. Same questions at the beginning of every relationship
my point god knows? |
Nicely put. Go with your instinct but don't completely ignore what you might have learned through previous experiences. |
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Scarlet13
Joined: 10 Apr 2007
Location: Changwon
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| Posted: Mon May 28, 2007 2:01 am Post subject: |
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If you are not comfortable making the first call then don't. Do what feels right to YOU. Every guy is different, don't make the mistake of generalizing them, it is unfair and don't change your behaviour to suit his style.
He asked you to message, if you don't he may think you don't like him...maybe he is shy too. I would leave a message, something friendly and simple, and I would only message once...and then the ball is in his court. |
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brento1138
Joined: 17 Nov 2004
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| Posted: Mon May 28, 2007 2:30 am Post subject: |
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| I like it when a girl calls first. Especially if she's hot. |
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yingwenlaoshi
Joined: 12 Feb 2007
Location: ... location, location!
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| Posted: Mon May 28, 2007 2:44 am Post subject: |
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| There's definitely some truth to it. You want them when they don't want you and vice versa. |
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Canadian Club
Joined: 12 Aug 2006
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| Posted: Mon May 28, 2007 2:48 am Post subject: |
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Why would anyone buy that piece of crap book? It has the shittiest advice ever!
"Don't act interested"
"Don't call him first"
"Dont be available for dates"
"Always hang up first"
Or whatever else. |
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jajdude
Joined: 18 Jan 2003
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| Posted: Mon May 28, 2007 3:53 am Post subject: |
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| No rules apply to all people because we are all different. The only rule to follow is try to be a good person, whatever you think that is. |
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Young FRANKenstein
Joined: 02 Oct 2006
Location: Castle Frankenstein (that's FRONKensteen)
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| Posted: Mon May 28, 2007 5:05 am Post subject: Re: Calling a Guy |
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| princess wrote: |
| Hello everyone! Is it true if a girl calls a guy that he will lose interest, because you are the one pursuing and NOT the guy? I read that book The Rules and also another book called "Why Men Marry Biatches". |
My advice would be to stop buying garbage "advice" books. |
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mikowee
Joined: 03 Aug 2006
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| Posted: Mon May 28, 2007 5:37 am Post subject: |
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| jajdude wrote: |
| No rules apply to all people because we are all different. The only rule to follow is try to be a good person, whatever you think that is. |
True. Just look at the variety in the responses. Personally, I would love a girl to make the first move, call, whatever, AS LONG AS I'M ATTRACTED TO THEM.
I think that's the rule of thumb to follow, girls. If a guy's physically attracted to you, any way you play it will at least get your foot in the door, so long as you show at least a little interest. |
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Satori
Joined: 09 Dec 2005
Location: Above it all
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| Posted: Mon May 28, 2007 5:44 am Post subject: Re: Calling a Guy |
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| princess wrote: |
| Hello everyone! Is it true if a girl calls a guy that he will lose interest, because you are the one pursuing and NOT the guy? I read that book The Rules and also another book called "Why Men Marry Biatches". They both say things like if a woman calls a man first, even if he likes her he will lose interest. Also, The Rules says if you ask a guy out, he may go out with you and even end up marrying you. But, since it was at your suggestion and not his, he will never treat you very well or with much respect. Is this true? I spent a lot of time Saturday chatting with this guy and I like him so much. He told me to message him on his webpage, too. But, if I do it first, will he pull back? He could leave me a message first. What's with guys telling us gals to call or message first. Why can't they do it first? I'm shy. The second time I saw this guy he gave me a hug, so he must like me. |
That would be quite pathetic if you were real and not the board longest running and most transparent troll. No one could possibly be as dumb as this character you have created. |
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FUBAR
Joined: 21 Oct 2003
Location: The Y.C.
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| Posted: Mon May 28, 2007 6:00 am Post subject: Re: Calling a Guy |
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| princess wrote: |
| Hello everyone! Is it true if a girl calls a guy that he will lose interest, because you are the one pursuing and NOT the guy? I read that book The Rules and also another book called "Why Men Marry Biatches". They both say things like if a woman calls a man first, even if he likes her he will lose interest. Also, The Rules says if you ask a guy out, he may go out with you and even end up marrying you. But, since it was at your suggestion and not his, he will never treat you very well or with much respect. Is this true? I spent a lot of time Saturday chatting with this guy and I like him so much. He told me to message him on his webpage, too. But, if I do it first, will he pull back? He could leave me a message first. What's with guys telling us gals to call or message first. Why can't they do it first? I'm shy. The second time I saw this guy he gave me a hug, so he must like me. |
If he's into you, it's all cool. If he doesn't like you that way, it won't be.
It's as simple as that and a quick call will answer your question. |
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yingwenlaoshi
Joined: 12 Feb 2007
Location: ... location, location!
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| Posted: Mon May 28, 2007 6:01 am Post subject: |
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Girls seemed to be turned off when they find me in their closets. As for me, I"ve never found a girl in my closet except for the inflatable one I put there.
She's my love and my best friend. And she gives damn good head, too!
Her name is Rubby. |
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