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MissSeoul
Joined: 25 Oct 2006
Location: Somewhere in America
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 Posted: Wed May 30, 2007 9:57 am Post subject: Can you choose your mother over your wife ? |
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My uncle who is CEO at one of major Companies in Korea re-married to his 2nd wife after his lovly first wife passed away a few years ago.
His first wife who he met just a few days before he went Vietman war in late 1960 was staying home wife. She was a wonderful lady and had such wonderful relationship with her mother-in-law.
His 2nd wife is a successful career woman, but somewhat outspoken.
The problem is she can't get along with her mother-in-law who was living in same house.
My uncle is the first son and he always took care his mom in his house.
My grandmother wanted her son to be happy, so told him put her in nursing home.
Instead puting his mom in nursing home, he left with his mom to another house and filed divorce against his 2nd wife, I think the marriage is over now.
By the way my grandmother is 87 years old.
I am very glad that he made right decision, yes that was right decision.
You only have one mother, there is no another way around, but you can have another wife, it's that simple.
I am sad it didn't work out, but I am happy for his decision.
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caniff
Joined: 03 Feb 2004
Location: All over the map
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| Posted: Wed May 30, 2007 10:00 am Post subject: |
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| You are not Korean. Cut it out, already. |
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MissSeoul
Joined: 25 Oct 2006
Location: Somewhere in America
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| Posted: Wed May 30, 2007 10:15 am Post subject: |
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| caniff wrote: |
| You are not Korean. Cut it out, already. |
I understad that you operate bar in korea.
Do your bar serve *washington apple* ?
Some cocktail waitress don't even know what's *washington apple* |
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the eye
Joined: 29 Jan 2004
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| Posted: Wed May 30, 2007 10:19 am Post subject: |
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| Living in america sure hasn't improved your ability to mimic konglish. |
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MissSeoul
Joined: 25 Oct 2006
Location: Somewhere in America
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| Posted: Wed May 30, 2007 10:35 am Post subject: |
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| the eye wrote: |
| Living in america sure hasn't improved your ability to mimic konglish. |
That's true !
My english education ended when I grauate highschool, I didn't study english in college years.
Since I married to an American, I have a great oppertunity to practice my english in everyday life, but it's SPEAKING, not writing.
Almost zero oppertunity to practice writing in everyday life, maybe writing personal check, that's about.
Honestly It's frustrating, hopely I get some result from Dave's. |
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the eye
Joined: 29 Jan 2004
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| Posted: Wed May 30, 2007 10:47 am Post subject: |
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| Apparently it's made you dumber, though. Your 'english' has gotten worse. |
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MissSeoul
Joined: 25 Oct 2006
Location: Somewhere in America
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| Posted: Wed May 30, 2007 10:55 am Post subject: |
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| the eye wrote: |
| Apparently it's made you dumber, though. Your 'english' has gotten worse. |
I appreciate your opinion, but I don't think it has gotten worse.
I am proud that at least I try to improve my writing, so many korean women who married/have a kid never try anything except just being a house wife or making $$$$$
I am talking of married korean women in America. |
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whatever
Joined: 11 Jun 2006
Location: Korea: More fun than jail.
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| Posted: Wed May 30, 2007 11:40 am Post subject: |
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| Hello? You are an outed troll. Get a life. |
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Ozabout7or8
Joined: 04 May 2007
Location: NZ
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| Posted: Wed May 30, 2007 1:32 pm Post subject: |
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Misseoul,
I understand the dilemma you described and I also know how the decision that was made may have been distinctly a Korean decision because a western male would have probably chosen his wife over his mother.
There are many other practical solutions to that problem, and personally I would have tried to sort out relations between them by setting some ground rules because sending someone away is always an extreme reaction no matter who it is.
Counselling should have been tried, aswell as physical changes to the living arrangements that mean they don't have to look at each other all day long.
Finally, if you marry someone you marry their entire family full-stop. If that woman married him she also married his mother in law, and should make an extra special effort to bite her tounge and try to make good relations even if it is extremely difficult for her.
Sounds like he might have divorced her not just for his mother-in-law, but because she was being a bitch? |
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SuperFly
Joined: 09 Jul 2003
Location: In the doghouse
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| Posted: Wed May 30, 2007 1:46 pm Post subject: |
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Miss seoul,
May I suggest another website more suited for you? It's called MissyUSA. Check it out. |
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caniff
Joined: 03 Feb 2004
Location: All over the map
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| Posted: Wed May 30, 2007 1:49 pm Post subject: |
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| Ozabout7or8 wrote: |
Sounds like he might have divorced her not just for his mother-in-law, but because she was being a *beep*? |
Sounds like you're a recent arrival you hasn't picked up on the fact that this guy is a foreigner (most likely whitey like me) who does this lame posting shit because he gets off on people responding to him.
Did I just respo......DOOOHH!! |
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swetepete
Joined: 01 Nov 2006
Location: a limp little burg
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| Posted: Wed May 30, 2007 2:00 pm Post subject: |
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| Ozabout7or8 wrote: |
Finally, if you marry someone you marry their entire family full-stop. |
Oh, come on, that's just not true!
You marry somebody, you inherit a lot of family connections, but drawing no distinction between the spouse and their family--eeewww. That's just gross. What, you all sleep together in the same twelve poster bed or something? What is this, the Ozarks?
'Sawry, darlin, butcha gots ta dew mah paw, tew, ayn mah bruthers. And don't fergit tuh give maw hur bayath in the mawrnin, she gits tetchy utherwise.'
Of course it's important to get along with the in-laws, but I think you're exaggerating.
We need to be free of our parents, eventually, just as our kids will eventually be free of us. If that means walking a different path, and pissing off the elders, so be it.
Sometimes the old ones are just f***ked. |
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mercury
Joined: 05 Dec 2004
Location: Pusan
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| Posted: Wed May 30, 2007 3:51 pm Post subject: |
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| MissSeoul wrote: |
| caniff wrote: |
| You are not Korean. Cut it out, already. |
I understad that you operate bar in korea.
Do your bar serve *washington apple* ?
Some *beep* waitress don't even know what's *washington apple* |
Wow! She showed you, the washington apple comeback, have not seen that in a while!
actually, miss seoul is one of the girls you see in the bars, the juicy gals, she married a G.I, now she is divorced, and she works giving massages to truck drivers. She just made up all the other stuff, but look at her english, it is even worse than the bar girls in seoul. Woops, better go give bubba a massage miss seoul,
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Ozabout7or8
Joined: 04 May 2007
Location: NZ
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| Posted: Wed May 30, 2007 3:57 pm Post subject: |
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| swetepete wrote: |
| Ozabout7or8 wrote: |
Finally, if you marry someone you marry their entire family full-stop. |
Oh, come on, that's just not true!
You marry somebody, you inherit a lot of family connections, but drawing no distinction between the spouse and their family--eeewww. That's just gross. What, you all sleep together in the same twelve poster bed or something? What is this, the Ozarks?
'Sawry, darlin, butcha gots ta dew mah paw, tew, ayn mah bruthers. And don't fergit tuh give maw hur bayath in the mawrnin, she gits tetchy utherwise.'
Of course it's important to get along with the in-laws, but I think you're exaggerating.
We need to be free of our parents, eventually, just as our kids will eventually be free of us. If that means walking a different path, and pissing off the elders, so be it.
Sometimes the old ones are just f***ked. |
Yeh, I'm with ya Pete. I guess one thing I do suggest is that if you marry someone who for example thinks highly of their parents (like a Korean) and you already know that you don't get on with the Mother in Law, then this is something that the wife should have investigated further before getting married.
That is why people get engaged, and court so that they can learn more about the other and what makes them tick, and the special people in their life and how those relationships might impact on the marriage.
Had this been properly look at prior to the marriage then some early ultimatums could have been reached that would have prevented one person having to be discarded from that man's life. |
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spliff
Joined: 19 Jan 2004
Location: Khon Kaen, Thailand
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| Posted: Wed May 30, 2007 4:43 pm Post subject: |
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| You only have one mother, there is no another way around, but you can have another wife, it's that simple |
Quite true...wife's are a dime a dozen...if you can afford them. |
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