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Young FRANKenstein
Joined: 02 Oct 2006
Location: Castle Frankenstein (that's FRONKensteen)
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| I must have been unlucky: 11 years and several multi-year relationships later, and I still have yet to meet any of my girlfriends' parents. |
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ajgeddes
Joined: 28 Apr 2004
Location: Yongsan
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| Posted: Tue Jun 19, 2007 4:49 am Post subject: |
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I met my GF's parents after dating for about a month. I have seen them probably about twice a month since, and it has been 2.5 years now. I stay over there all the time and we sleep in the same bedroom, although not in the same bed.
They have always been friendly to me and give me way more than I deserve. When my GF moved in with me, they bought me a dining table set. They weren't keen on us living together, but they accepted it because we both had jobs outside of Seoul. Now, they want me to move in with them.
And her family is better off than mine, so they aren't just trying to make sure she has a better life in another country. In fact, they are really trying to make sure I never leave Korea because they don't want her to leave, so they have given proposed a few different deals with me to keep me here. |
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Juregen
Joined: 30 May 2006
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| Posted: Tue Jun 19, 2007 6:21 am Post subject: |
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| coldcrush wrote: |
Sideways vaginas.
Consider yourself warned. |
My father told me the same thing
I told him to stop being a f*cking racist and bigot and get on with his life. |
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Freaka
Joined: 05 Jun 2007
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| Posted: Tue Jun 19, 2007 6:51 am Post subject: |
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Really no problems. Parents will be shocked at first and apprehensive. But once they meet you and realize you're actually human too, all is cool.
Don't believe all the hype. It's not so difficult. Remember, this is Dave's 90% of what you read is B.S. or something created by some lonely internet nerd. |
Really, Newbie? I have to say that I'm surprised by your words. I'm sincerely glad to hear that some of you have had "not so difficult" experiences in dealing with Korean parents, but I'd think that for the most part, foreigners would have a difficult time being accepted by their Korean girlfriends' parents.
Fact is, many Koreans are racist. (Hey, we're all racist to some extent!) And when it comes to their sons and daughters dating (and potentially marrying) someone from another ethnic group, Koreans can be quite unflinching in their prejudice. |
I hear what you're saying, but it's like I said,, "once they meet you, things are fine (or at least get better)". Koreans, generally speaking, have this crazy notion of the big bad sex-hungry foreigner. All this despite probably never having talked to one. Once they see we're actually pretty normal, it's all gravy.
When my wife's father first heard of us dating he stopped talking to her for 8 months. When we got engaged he went on a 1 month soju bender. When he finally met me, it was like an instant turn around. I walked in their home, dressed in a suit, muttered a few Korean words, smiled ... and that was that. By the end of our hour long conversation he was offering us a building to open a hogwan in and telling us he'd buy us a house in Canada when we finally move there.
You'll find there are a lot of stories of "my Korean significant other's parents hated the idea of him/her marrying a foreigner, but now they absolutely love me" |
I guess love really does conquer all! Glad to hear that things worked out with you and your future in-laws.  |
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merkurix
Joined: 21 Dec 2006
Location: Not far from the deep end.
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| Posted: Tue Jun 19, 2007 7:01 am Post subject: |
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It took long (mostly due to my own hesitation) but there were not problems here. I have been with my Korean g/f for almost 3 year and we are engaged to get married in November (I already refer to her as my Mrs.)
One "problem" I was worried about was that her father is a firebrand Presbyterian reverend of evangelical extraction at a church near Uijeongbu. I am not a Presbyterian. I seriously thought this was going to cause problems down the road, as firebrand evangelical reverends usually get a bad rap where I'm from. But I later concluded that if he is indeed the kindly and benevolent Christian minister that I hoped he would be (the kind that embraces love, tolerance and who eschews racism, xenophobia, and discrimination as being evils against God) I should test out this theory by meeting him. My g/f just mentioned to them she had a b/f, but she didn't mention that he happens to be a foreigner and not of evangelical extraction. He passed the test. He said it didn't matter who I was or what I believed. Love is love; humans are humans. He now embraces me as his son. It worked out; the wedding's still on. |
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whatever
Joined: 11 Jun 2006
Location: Korea: More fun than jail.
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| Posted: Tue Jun 19, 2007 7:11 am Post subject: |
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It seems like Korean children are under a lot of pressure to comply with the wishes of their parents that I'm simply not used to and don't agree with for the most part. I love my family, but I don't and never will make decisions based on their input being anything more than casual, caring advice.
I guess in a way I feel like it sucks for them. Damned if you do, damned if you don't for many. |
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Paji eh Wong
Joined: 03 Jun 2003
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| Posted: Tue Jun 19, 2007 7:15 am Post subject: |
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You've got a ways to go before you need to worry about parents, grasshopper.
Get some phone numbers first, then get to a second date, then spend six months together and see if you still like each other, then come ask us about the parents.
ps. DO NOT take dave's as a font of information on Korean women. Find out for yourself. |
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nateium
Joined: 21 Aug 2006
Location: Seoul
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| Posted: Tue Jun 19, 2007 7:19 am Post subject: |
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Why are you curious about meeting a Korean womans parents when you haven't even tried dating one yet?
Why do you even want to meet the parents anyway? (unless you want to get married-are you thinking about getting married soon?!!!)
How could you possibly live here that long and not date a Korean woman?
Why do I care about your ridiculous question? It just doesn't make you seem very adventurous.[/b]
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Pluto
Joined: 19 Dec 2006
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| I've been dating my Korean girlfriend have been dating a few months now. It's a bit of a different situation though. Her parents high tailed it to Los Angeles about a year ago. In fact, her whole family (brother, aunt, uncle and cousins) lives out in Cali. I'm supposed to meet them at the end of August when I go back to the states in August. I haven't met her family yet. I am a little nervous, but it does seem to be a different situation. Meeting your foreign girlfriend's family in your own country. Should be interesting... |
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RACETRAITOR
Joined: 24 Oct 2005
Location: Seoul, South Korea
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| Posted: Tue Jun 19, 2007 7:39 pm Post subject: |
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I have a friend who was really serious about a Korean girl, but her mother forced her to break up with him. Then again, he's a soldier who's covered in tattoos who worships fascism, so maybe that's understandable.
Another warning sign: if I was back on the market, I would seriously avoid dating any Christian Koreans. It makes it far less likely they'll want to get serious with you, let alone in bed, and they'll be less interested in being exposed to foreign culture. |
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ED209
Joined: 17 Oct 2006
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I have a friend who was really serious about a Korean girl, but her mother forced her to break up with him. Then again, he's a soldier who's covered in tattoos who worships fascism, so maybe that's understandable.
Another warning sign: if I was back on the market, I would seriously avoid dating any Christian Koreans. It makes it far less likely they'll want to get serious with you, let alone in bed, and they'll be less interested in being exposed to foreign culture. |
I've met a few xian k-girls, forgive me father for I have sinned:wink: |
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Dev
Joined: 18 Apr 2006
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Don't marry a Korean.
She'll put corn on your pizza!
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Mashimaro
Joined: 31 Jan 2003
Location: location, location
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| Posted: Tue Jun 19, 2007 8:57 pm Post subject: |
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| RACETRAITOR wrote: |
I have a friend who was really serious about a Korean girl, but her mother forced her to break up with him. Then again, he's a soldier who's covered in tattoos who worships fascism, so maybe that's understandable.
Another warning sign: if I was back on the market, I would seriously avoid dating any Christian Koreans. It makes it far less likely they'll want to get serious with you, let alone in bed, and they'll be less interested in being exposed to foreign culture. |
I've met a few xian k-girls, forgive me father for I have sinned:wink: |
Yeah man, the ones that go to church are the wildest |
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The_Conservative
Joined: 15 Mar 2007
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| Posted: Tue Jun 19, 2007 9:31 pm Post subject: |
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| Paji eh Wong wrote: |
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ps. DO NOT take dave's as a font of information on Korean women. . |
OR as a font of information on much else.... |
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princess
Joined: 16 Jan 2003
Location: soul of Asia
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| Posted: Thu Jun 21, 2007 4:31 am Post subject: |
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| Young FRANKenstein wrote: |
| I must have been unlucky: 11 years and several multi-year relationships later, and I still have yet to meet any of my girlfriends' parents. |
I met my ex's parents, but he lied when he took me to their house and told them I was his Englsih teacher. His Mom and sister prepared dinner for us and were nice to me. Yes, only because they thought I was his teacher. He said if they would have known the truth they would have thrown us both out of the house. Whatever. I'm over it. Finally, after being hung up on him for years and even being suicidal, I only think of him as a friend. Finally. It almost killed me. I won't ever let that happen again. |
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