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Homer
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Married to a Korean woman since 1999 and no real problems to speak of except normal couple stuff.
The dating went well and her parents accepted me with no problems. Others have had harder times and it really depends on you and on the parents. Usually if you make an effort to understand cultural norms here and respect them the parents will take a kinder view of you and it might ease things. If you refuse any and all cultural norms then it might be tough. Of course some parents are just that obtuse and will simply not accept a non-korean dating their daughter or son.
But, please do not take this place as your source of information on dating Korean women. In fact, why not just try and see what happens by getting to know the girl you date? Whatever you read here might basically be pretty irrelevant because there is no way to really predict what will happen if you date a Korean woman (or heck..any other woman). It depends almost exclusively on you and her.....yeah thats obvious sorry. |
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Dev
Joined: 18 Apr 2006
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| I must have been unlucky: 11 years and several multi-year relationships later, and I still have yet to meet any of my girlfriends' parents. |
I met my ex's parents, but he lied when he took me to their house and told them I was his Englsih teacher. His Mom and sister prepared dinner for us and were nice to me. Yes, only because they thought I was his teacher. He said if they would have known the truth they would have thrown us both out of the house. Whatever. I'm over it. Finally, after being hung up on him for years and even being suicidal, I only think of him as a friend. Finally. It almost killed me. I won't ever let that happen again. |
Yeah. I'm sorry you had such a bad experience. From this and other stories I've heard, I'd say that if your boyfriend / girlfriend's parents don't accept you, maybe you'd better just walk.
I know some people say that you're not marrying the family. This may be true in the West, but in Asian societies, the family bond is usually so tight that yes, you are marrying the family. |
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coldcrush
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Sideways vaginas.
Consider yourself warned. |
My father told me the same thing
I told him to stop being a f*cking racist and bigot and get on with his life. |
That's no way to talk to your father. |
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Bibbitybop
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| Posted: Fri Jun 22, 2007 3:22 am Post subject: |
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| coldcrush wrote: |
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Sideways vaginas.
Consider yourself warned. |
My father told me the same thing
I told him to stop being a f*cking racist and bigot and get on with his life. |
That's no way to talk to your father. |
I had never heard of the sideways deal until I watched Hannibal Rising. Has it been around long before that?
Small, but not sideways. |
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Adventurer
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| Homer wrote: |
Married to a Korean woman since 1999 and no real problems to speak of except normal couple stuff.
The dating went well and her parents accepted me with no problems. Others have had harder times and it really depends on you and on the parents. Usually if you make an effort to understand cultural norms here and respect them the parents will take a kinder view of you and it might ease things. If you refuse any and all cultural norms then it might be tough. Of course some parents are just that obtuse and will simply not accept a non-korean dating their daughter or son.
But, please do not take this place as your source of information on dating Korean women. In fact, why not just try and see what happens by getting to know the girl you date? Whatever you read here might basically be pretty irrelevant because there is no way to really predict what will happen if you date a Korean woman (or heck..any other woman). It depends almost exclusively on you and her.....yeah thats obvious sorry. |
There are pitfalls to dating women from any culture, I suppose, and many Koreans tell me that if they like a foreigner they are willing to put up with their parents objections if they occur if they really like the guy. There are many really nice and attractive Korean girls...You can't simply not date Koreans, because there is a potential for problems with the parents. It is not as bad as other cultures and the many mixed relationships and marriages are evidence of that it being okay in many cases... |
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Homer
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| Posted: Fri Jun 22, 2007 4:09 am Post subject: |
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Precisely Adventurer.
But really how the parents react depends almost as much on your attitude as it does on theirs! I know learning some Korean and some basic customs went miles to ease acceptance in my case.
But, some parents are as I said THAT obtuse! |
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