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IncognitoHFX · Joined: 06 May 2007 Location: Yeongtong, Suwon

I have a date this weekend. Yuppers.

Kind of a friend-of-a-Korean-friend, she lives in Suwon. Its a pseudo blind-date, I wasn't really too keen on dating right away here but after I got talking to her she seemed alright and I stopped being opposed to the idea.

Heres my question. I had a student in my high school, one-on-one class ask me what my religion was. This kid's English is near perfect so after we go over material we usually just sit around and talk for ten minutes or so. I told him that I didn't have a religion, and tried to downplay the fact that I was an atheist by saying that I found religions interesting from an objective point of view (this is pretty true: though Christians really piss me off sometimes). He was receptive about it and saw where I was coming from, though I think that he hasn't met many people like me.

After an hour of talking to this girl on MSN, she asked me the same question (her English is great, by the way). I told her the same thing as I told him, but her response was kind of condescending. She said that she really liked me so far, and if anything were to happen (we got serious) she genuinely thought her choice in religion would become logical to me and I'd follow suit.

Culturally, what do Koreans think of atheism, and would it be wise to get involved with someone who has this kind of attitude towards it ("oh, its cute but someday you'll realize that my god is for real")?

PS. Yeah this is my second post, I'm just pensive tonight.

wo buxihuan hanguoren · Joined: 18 Apr 2007 Location: Suyuskis

Just lie. She is only a female, after all, and you know us atheists, we lack morals, so lying should present no problem.

chasmmi · Joined: 16 Jun 2007 Location: Ulsan

I had a similar thing with my ex, she said that she believed people should go to church etc as it is the right thing to do.

Basically I decided to yield and go to her church services with her. After the second Sunday and the second successive time of falling asleep she decided that she would do the church thing at church and I could do the sleep thing at home. It didn't become a problem.

I would say, just try and give it a go and appear open to trying it and hope she understands when the 99% certaintly it isn't your thing becomes apparent.

She may well apreciate a lot the fact you tried just for her.

crusher_of_heads · Posted: Mon Jul 02, 2007 9:46 am Post subject:

Masta_Don · Joined: 17 Aug 2006 Location: Hyehwa-dong, Seoul

-Clash of fundamental beliefs
-Condescending/Pushy
-Already talking about the future
-No sex (probably)

Can't you cancel?

IncognitoHFX · Joined: 06 May 2007 Location: Yeongtong, Suwon

HighTreason · Joined: 15 Jun 2007

Doogie · Joined: 19 Jan 2006 Location: Hwaseong City

Treason is right. If she's asking about religion before your first date, then she's hinting that she will only be with a Christian in the long run. Anyway, at least give her some credit for giving you a heads-up on it. What the heck, go on the date. You could always just be friends. Remember the cardinal rule......."Hot girls have hot friends". It's all about the connections.....especially in Korea.

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RACETRAITOR · Joined: 24 Oct 2005 Location: Seoul, South Korea

I went through the exact same thing...with a girl in Suwon. She told me actually she wasn't a Christian but she went to church every week and wanted to be. I think she was having a hard time swallowing the whole theological side, but she thought Christians were better people than non-Christians. It ended when she told me "I would only marry a man who is a good man, and a Christian." Yeah, good luck. (Then immediately after I randomly met a girl who mentioned she was atheist, and it was like a sign from God.)

My advice to you is don't waste your time with this girl.

Bibbitybop · Joined: 22 Feb 2006 Location: Seoul

Last year while at a dinner meeting, some teachers told me one of the teachers was single and looking for a man. The single teacher at my school asked me first my religion. It wasn't her same religion and she said she only wanted a man exclusively in her religion. I wanted to start talking about the ability for people to love despite religious differences, but I understood that this woman was closed-minded and not worth my time.

dogshed · Joined: 28 Apr 2006

Fishead soup · Joined: 24 Jun 2007 Location: Korea

pest2 · Joined: 01 Jun 2005 Location: Vancouver, Canada

Yeah, I doubt you'll get serious with this girl.

I dont think Koreans are different than anyone else in this respect... How would you handle it if an american woman said these things?

However,... you should go on the date... i know a certain someone who had thier first sexual experience in a church... being religious doesnt rule out having human desires.