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[JZer]

[jg]

This thread doesn't seem to have changed any minds, has it? And it isn't even particularly informative, save for Leslie C's offering. It is revealing though - things don't normally get this ugly even in the off-topic/current events cage matches. Alyallen was really crudely attacked for something she didn't do, and (I've never seen this before) the true culprit comes on and cops to it, and there is not even a hint of a mea culpa - unless one was sent to Alyallen by pm, which I sincerely hope happened. She didn't deserve that.

Then there is not just the comodification of affection, sex and time but in such a crude way, and all these ridiculous superlatives and figures (including my favorite percentage as a means of supporting an argument, 99.9%) from both camps.

Who pays on dates, what a hot button topic! Who knew?

[tigerbluekitty]

If the guy's a loser, he's not gettin' any love, AND he must pay for everything.

If the guy has potential, he must pay for everything also.

The only time I pay for a guy is if I think of him as a little brother. Awww! Cute little brother. Little brothers are meant to be spoiled! *pinchy cheeks* ^^

[twg]

Okay, I'm changing my mind about the "ho" situation...

[dutchy pink]

By reading this thread I think you can make some pretty accurate guesses as to who actually goes on dates. The people who are begging the girl from the hostess bar to have dinner are most likely the ones complaining about "she expects me to pay."
reminds me of a friend....

One day at a party he was screaming and yelling that all girls are who*&es and blah blah this and blah blah that. After about 5 minutes of this a girl asked, "So how many girls have you slept with, besides hookers?" Total silence. everyone knew the answer was none.

If you have anything that even remotely resembles a healthy relationship with women in general, this topic never crosses your mind.

[crusher_of_heads]

[peppermint]

This:

[Leslie Cheswyck]

[seoulshock]

[Atavistic]

[bejarano-korea]

[chasmmi]

Actually thinking about this from the Korean aspect there is a set pattern to how any sort of meeting should work and I may guess it could extend to dating.


Now most people at least here mention of the whole fighting over the bill thing that goes on here and my experiences have shown it is very hard to pay for stuff (not impossible, just hard) when Koreans are around as they insist or get sneaky and pay when you aren't looking or get the credit card in first and refuse your cash etc.


However even though there is this fight in general it boils down to the inviter paying I would say maybe 80-90% of the time. I think this also aids the social aspect of things by encouring the guest this time to be the inviter the next time.


Therefore if this logic applies to dates, then if you have asked the girl to go to dinner with you then Korean eating out culture dictates that you should win the fight over the bill. If she puts up a fight it may well be for show as its the done thing most of the time (if you want to be safe then tell her to take you out somewhere next time, therefore putting the paying onus on her and making her happy).


Going dutch may be a fine system elsewhere but in Korea it can be awkward whether you are with a girlfriend, workfriend or drunk guy off the street. YEs more young people are going Dutch these days but in generl I would advise that unless you are good friends with the person in question (or if there are like 6 of you) then if you invite then you pay, regardless of if it is a date or not. If anything it could show you are down with Korean culture, or at least that you are trying to be.


Please note I am not Korean and have only been here 11 months so I may have got this oh so wrong.

[kermo]

[bejarano-korea]

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