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Natalie · Joined: 16 Apr 2007

I'm curious how many of the ladies here want/don't want babies, compared with back home.

I'm in my late 20's and still don't want any. I like kids and the process fascinates me, but I just don't feel the maternal drive.

People keep saying to me, "but you may regret that later." OK, but thats no reason to have one NOW Rolling Eyes

Anyway, if I do regret later, I am quite happy adopting.

How about you ladies?

peppermint · Posted: Thu Jul 19, 2007 7:31 am Post subject:

Hell no. I love little kids, but I'm much better off being the cool aunt.

Sine qua non · Joined: 18 Feb 2007

You should put an "I'm a man" option so we can vote but not skew the results. Thanks!

Alyallen · Posted: Thu Jul 19, 2007 7:58 am Post subject:

I'd have to vote maybe....

The idea of reproduction amuses me but it's not a real issue for me at this point....

Julius · Joined: 27 Jul 2006

I don't think its the big biological imperative it used to be, at least not for western women. They can retain their independence, careers, identity and attractiveness for longer by avoiding the huge task of childrearing.

Having said that...I've never met a woman who regretted having her children. Wink

Pak Yu Man · Joined: 02 Jun 2005 Location: The Ida galaxy

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Natalie · Joined: 16 Apr 2007

princess · Joined: 16 Jan 2003 Location: soul of Asia

Call me selfish/self-absorbed, but I am not sure if I want one. I don't even have a boyfriend, so why would I be wrorrying about babies? I'd like to be married first, and these days, I don't even know if I want marriage anymore. I have never been one to say awwwwww when I see a baby. Yesterday someone told me I should have babies one day or 20 years from now I will be all alone. I said well, you die alone anyways. That's no reason to have a baby. You better be REALLY ready to have one. Babies are expensive, too. I can barley take care of myself, so why would I want a chain around my neck 24/7? It's fine to teach kids because at the end of the day they go back to mommy. One of my boys I teach eats like a pig. I couldn't imagine his parents' food bills. Shocked

I had a life all these years,a dn I don't need a baby messing that up. Yesterday someone told me you can still have a life. I thought to myslef, oh yeah, I'd be the one on the plane with a crying baby that everyone would hate. One of my Korean friends had a baby a few months ago and she is 28. I haven't been able to see her since January. She told me she was getting really depressed and stuff, too because her life is gone.

princess · Joined: 16 Jan 2003 Location: soul of Asia

Also, a guy I went to high school with put a pic of him and his wife on his myspace page. Underneath it said "Finally, a night to ourselves, out on the town away from the kids". Scary!

sojukettle · Joined: 23 Aug 2005 Location: Not there, HERE!

the process fascinates me,

Big_Bird · Posted: Thu Jul 19, 2007 4:09 pm Post subject:

Although it doesn't say so, I get the impression this poll is intended for childless women? For that reason I have avoided voting, so as not to skew your poll.

Before I got knocked up I was a maybe. I think I would have been content to remain childless, but when I got married, I knew it was part of the deal because Mr Bird wanted brats. But even then, I'd hoped to put it off for some years, but we had an 'accident' not long after we married.

Some women here say they don't feel very maternal. I never did, right up until the little critter was born. In fact I read somewhere that most women (even married women) end up pregnant by accident before they feel ready and just go along with it anyway - which is pretty much what happened to me. If you wait until you do feel maternal - it might never happen. Wink

And apparently, a lot of women nearing menopause (who had never got around to it, 'because they weren't feeling maternal') suddenly realise they've missed the boat and become very distressed and obsessed.

That's not a criticism of those not feeling maternal. It's just a warning - food for thought.

Big_Bird · Posted: Thu Jul 19, 2007 4:22 pm Post subject:

kermo · Posted: Thu Jul 19, 2007 4:55 pm Post subject:

I love my life the way it is right now. It's good to have my apartment, my time, my body to myself. I also love kids, but I've spent enough time with families to know that it isn't a bed of roses, even when the kid is perfectly healthy (but even more difficult when disabilities are present.) If I do start to feel a maternal pang, and I'm with someone who also wants kids in a big way, I'll weigh adoption alongside natural procreation, because although it would be terrific to pass on my parents' amazing genes, there are a lot of kids in need. So for now, there's no rush.

just alittlecrazy · Joined: 30 Nov 2006