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| Do you want a baby (s)? |
| Yes |
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37% |
[ 9 ] |
| No |
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41% |
[ 10 ] |
| Maybe |
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20% |
[ 5 ] |
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tzechuk
Joined: 20 Dec 2004
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 Posted: Fri Jul 20, 2007 5:12 am Post subject: |
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| Atavistic wrote: |
| tzechuk wrote: |
Bottom line is - if you don't want children, you will have hundreds of excuses to NOT have children. |
Since when is a REASON an EXCUSE? |
It's a fine line. |
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Atavistic
Joined: 22 May 2006
Location: How totally stupid that Korean doesn't show in this area.
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| Posted: Fri Jul 20, 2007 6:14 am Post subject: |
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| tzechuk wrote: |
| Atavistic wrote: |
| tzechuk wrote: |
Bottom line is - if you don't want children, you will have hundreds of excuses to NOT have children. |
Since when is a REASON an EXCUSE? |
It's a fine line. |
Just as long as we can rewrite your own sentence.
If you want children, you will have hundreds of excuses to have them. |
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Natalie
Joined: 16 Apr 2007
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| Posted: Fri Jul 20, 2007 6:16 am Post subject: |
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| Big_Bird wrote: |
Although it doesn't say so, I get the impression this poll is intended for childless women? For that reason I have avoided voting, so as not to skew your poll.
Before I got knocked up I was a maybe. I think I would have been content to remain childless, but when I got married, I knew it was part of the deal because Mr Bird wanted brats. But even then, I'd hoped to put it off for some years, but we had an 'accident' not long after we married.
Some women here say they don't feel very maternal. I never did, right up until the little critter was born. In fact I read somewhere that most women (even married women) end up pregnant by accident before they feel ready and just go along with it anyway - which is pretty much what happened to me. If you wait until you do feel maternal - it might never happen.
And apparently, a lot of women nearing menopause (who had never got around to it, 'because they weren't feeling maternal') suddenly realise they've missed the boat and become very distressed and obsessed.
That's not a criticism of those not feeling maternal. It's just a warning - food for thought. |
thats a really interesting perspective. I know its obvious, but I never really thought about women that were neutral on the matter! I kind of assumed women either wanted them or didn't but of course there are those that don't really care. For me, the attraction of having kids lies only in the process of being pregnant, the idea of having something growing inside me, the whole spiritual wonder of it all etc. Birth is a beautiful and miraculous thing and I sometimes wonder if I'd be missing out by never having my own child.
BUT, then I remember my other values, goals in life and the fact that I just don't feel any desire to care for another human on that kind of level. Perhaps I'm selfish, but I also honestly feel like I'm following some kind of instinct NOT to reproduce! I don't have that desire, and I'm not even sure why!  |
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ella
Joined: 17 Apr 2006
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| Posted: Fri Jul 20, 2007 7:38 am Post subject: |
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| I always liked the term "childfree," myself. |
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peppermint
Joined: 13 May 2003
Location: traversing the minefields of caddishness.
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| Posted: Fri Jul 20, 2007 12:55 pm Post subject: |
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I got a comment about not wanting kids being selfish via PM earlier today, so I want to clarify that.
Parent hood is a pretty big job, and I've got all the respect in the world for people that do it and are good at it. There are a lot of people that just aren't though, and I'm afraid I might be one of them.
In the last five minutes outdoors, I noticed a neighbor's two year old run across the street to play with my dog, borrow some gardening tools to dig for treasure in the garden next door, and then go splashing about in a third neighbor's wading pool alone . I was keeping an eye on her from the doorstep, but when she started calling out to random people on the street for help taking her shirt off, I pulled on some shoes and talked her into going home.
Parenthood just isn't the kind of job you can afford do half assed. |
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Big_Bird
Joined: 31 Jan 2003
Location: Sometimes here sometimes there...
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| Posted: Sat Jul 21, 2007 12:27 am Post subject: |
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I suspect, Peppermint, that you'd be very good at it.
But I agree that people shouldn't take it on if they don't feel it's for them. |
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