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[wo buxihuan hanguoren]

I've been getting gray hairs since I was about 16, not too many, but a close inspection will reveal quite a few.

Used to be a great time killer in class when the students noticed it, they used to shout out, "Teacher, no!", then spend about 10 minutes pulling as many as they could out while I'd play games on my cell phone.

Good times indeed.

[kermo]

[Bondgirl]

Perhaps I have a Daddy complex... but..
Balding guy who has shaved his head nice and neatly.... HOOOOT
And grey.... equally hot.
Wish guys would stop worrying about how much hair there is on their heads. Go to a good barber and he'll make you look sexy and your life will change for the better. Bald or grey. You win my vote.

[tzechuk]

I dislike hairy men. That's just a bit revolting in my opinion.

[kermo]

[princess]

[pkang0202]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zjgTNPCj1nQ

The music video is from www.shaveeverywhere.com.

[flakfizer]

[Omkara]

I think that buzzing your head is a good solution for natures cruel joke, so long as it is done not to hide the balding but rather to look your best.

I used to have a great head of hair. But in my early twenties, I noticed that there was a sign that I'd lose some hair; then I just figured I'd buzz it and be fine with that.

When the day did come (and it was hardly a gradual process--I went from having a great head of hair to having a well-defiend penninsula in about three or four months), I realized that it is a very big deal for a guy. It's a huge deal. I had nightmares of my hair falling out regularly.

When I chose to shave my head, I had to go through some adjusting to gain my full confidence back. In all honesty, it took more than a year--maybe even two. I mean, I was usually fine. But there was always that nagging feeling underneath--"ah, she's not interested in a bald guy."

Now I feel fine keeping it buzzed. I prefer it buzzed to shaved, but would prefer that I had my full head of hair. But that is something that'll never, never happen. So, I just do my best and try not to get hung up on things I cannot change.

As I said, I had gained my confidence back. But then I got to Korea. It got to me to have to have it pointed out to me that I had a bald head so often. Walking away from my school I'd hear, "Goodbye, pak-bak-i!" I'd just shake it off as best I could. Yet many of the kids said, pointing to their head, "Teacher, good!" The funny thing is, though, it take ten of those comments to counter one negative one.

I was out one evening with a co-worker, who is also a single guy. I was wearing a hat and a korean lady said to me, "You handsome." Well, we all know that koreans are very liberal with this compliment; but still, my face lit up. My co-worker (who actually repels the ladies) then felt the need to say to me, "I heard some of the female teachers talking and they said that you are handsome, but it's too bad that you are bald." He said he thought it would be a major problem for me in dating.

Well, I'm good at keeping my poise. But that comment played over and over and over in my head--for weeks. What could I do? I mean, I'm well educated, healthy, caring. . .I do my damn best. Why should I have such a damn problem? But that's what he said. And it was rooted in fact. F#@K!!

I could see that part of his reason for bringing this up was that he felt a bit of envy for the compliment I got (the ladies laugh behind his back), and he felt the need to burst my bubble, which he did with a stick of TNT. Thankfully, I have a female friend I could talk to like a sister. . .yeah, it bothered me that much. She set it to me straight and said I should keep it shaved.

After a time, after I understood the teacher's personalities better, and after I figured out based on where each teacher sits relative to one another which female teacher made the comment, I felt relief. This teacher's judgement is off, is prejudiced by her ideas of what things are and should be. Her judgment in fact is a turn off. It misses the mark in important ways.

For example, I asked her to try some peanutbutter on apple, and she would not since peanut butter does not go on apples. . .(definitions can blind us. . .handsome men have great hair and peanut butter cannot go on the apple. I was so silly!) It may seem like a small point, but the quality of her negative response to such a little thing said so much. Moreover, there were many, many other points of this kind of judgment. . .

As the sting of the remark wore off, I just paid attention to how people responded to me. The fact of the reality is that solid, attractive women, who can see things for what they are, respond to me just fine. The more I noticed this, the more the sting wore off, and the better the responses became.

How I see myself, I came to understand more clearly, influences the way others see me. When I'm happy and playful, no problems. People are attracted. When I'm questioning myself, the world does too. When I'm down on myself, thinking I'm ugly, that's what I see in their eyes.

Since, I've gone out with some great girls. They have no problem at all with my shaven head. Maybe they even like it. And these girls can see things for what they are. I prefer their company and their willingness to try different flavors in life.

Now, if I could just get some girl to lick peanut butter off of my head. . .oh, baby!

[kermo]

[Omkara]

[Big_Bird]

Now I'd hit that!


And this too:



Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!

[The_Conservative]

[kermo]

YUM.



This guy isn't a particular favourite with me, but has been known to make the ladies' livers quiver:



(It's too late, because I've already seen everything...)

[swetepete]

What about a coiffed Picard? Better bald, or gray? (c. 1976, from 'I, Claudius.)