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oneofthesarahs
Joined: 05 Nov 2006
Location: Sacheon City
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| This may sound strange, but I think some men are way too hung up about the orgasm. It's like as soon as you finish and are ready to do some heavy duty post-sex cuddle napping, all they can do is ask plaintively, "Did you come? Are you sure? Was it good for you?" etc. It's kind of annoying. If it didn't feel good, I would have said something way earlier. Honesty's the best policy. Also, I don't know about the rest of the ladies, but sex can still feel great even if it doesn't necessarily culminate in orgasm. Sure, that's generally the goal, but if it doesn't happen, that doesn't mean I didn't enjoy myself. |
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peppermint
Joined: 13 May 2003
Location: traversing the minefields of caddishness.
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| Posted: Wed Aug 01, 2007 8:21 am Post subject: |
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is it annoying or offputting when a guy takes toooooo long?
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it's a little of both. Once in a rare while you just have to say, " Hon, this is lovely, and you're wonderful, but my head just isn't in it right now" That goes for either gender, but I think if it doesn't happen, then there needs to be that much more sweetness after.
Sarah, you're so right
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gyopogirlfromtexas
Joined: 21 Apr 2007
Location: Austin,Texas
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| Posted: Wed Aug 01, 2007 8:36 am Post subject: |
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| darkhorse_NZ wrote: |
is it annoying or offputting when a guy takes toooooo long?
like do you start thinking - why can't this guy get off?
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Sometimes, it is annoying if they take too long to get off. The ones who take very long say they are holding it to make sure the girl gets her's, she can't fake all of them, because she's getting multiple o's. They're turned on by putting in a good effort (you have to please the partner for good results), but you reach a point where you've had enough, you are sore, and you're hoping the guy will get his soon. Or at least stop "holding" it.
I think it is dissapointing to find out someone faked. It makes you feel like you didn't do your job right. Guys can't really fake, because of the way they finish. How can you miss that? Unless, they quickly fake, run off to the restroom, and you didn't "see" him finish. You guys know what I mean.
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swetepete
Joined: 01 Nov 2006
Location: a limp little burg
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| Posted: Wed Aug 01, 2007 8:37 am Post subject: |
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| ChimpumCallao wrote: |
| Aren't you a DUDE pete? What do you do? Carry around Gatsby gel in your back pocket? |
Yeah, but when I'm really loaded I can't come, necessarily; and also under certain influences I've been under in the past, I get priapic; and shytte dude, sometimes I'm just sleepy.
Pick on RTraitor! He started it.
ANd btw, wtf is gatsby gel? I read the F.S.Fitzgerald book about 10 years ago, but i remember no gels. |
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jajdude
Joined: 18 Jan 2003
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| Posted: Wed Aug 01, 2007 12:14 pm Post subject: |
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| Anyone can pretend. |
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Big_Bird
Joined: 31 Jan 2003
Location: Sometimes here sometimes there...
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| Posted: Wed Aug 01, 2007 3:37 pm Post subject: |
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| oneofthesarahs wrote: |
| This may sound strange, but I think some men are way too hung up about the orgasm. It's like as soon as you finish and are ready to do some heavy duty post-sex cuddle napping, all they can do is ask plaintively, "Did you come? Are you sure? Was it good for you?" etc. It's kind of annoying. If it didn't feel good, I would have said something way earlier. Honesty's the best policy. Also, I don't know about the rest of the ladies, but sex can still feel great even if it doesn't necessarily culminate in orgasm. Sure, that's generally the goal, but if it doesn't happen, that doesn't mean I didn't enjoy myself. |
Yep. And that might put stress on the girl because she feels she's let him down, when otherwise she was rather enjoying it. It's not all about an 'end goal' - there is so much to enjoy in the process, and if you don't get 'there' it doesn't mean it wasn't very pleasurable all the same.
| darkhorse_NZ wrote: |
cheers ladies, you've all made my night with this kinda talk... 
honest question though for that ladies point of view:
is it annoying or offputting when a guy takes toooooo long?
like do you start thinking - why can't this guy get off?
-my mate here really, really wants to know but he's too shy |
Tell 'your mate' it depends. Sometimes it has been going for an hour and I'm displeased that it ends because I want more and more....and more!!.  Sometimes it's only been for 10 minutes and I'm wishing it could all end quickly because I'm tired and I want to sleep before the baby wakes up again and needs feeding...and can't we just get on with it, after all we'll have to get up at 6:am and it's nearly 2 am already and whose the one who has to get up to feed the baby dammit! etc etc!
There's no rule. It all depends on the situation, and/or how she's feeling that day. Time of the month or what have you, or how much work you put into her before you started.  Best thing is to be open and honest. But the problem is, instead of feeling happy that he's got the go ahead to acheive his O, a guy can start feeling miserable because he thinks your not into it, and start making too big a deal about it in their head, and end up less likely to quickly..you know... Which is probably why some women fake it - to get it all over with as nicely as possible.
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darkhorse_NZ
Joined: 20 Feb 2007
Location: South Korea
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| Posted: Wed Aug 01, 2007 4:03 pm Post subject: |
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| Big_Bird wrote: |
| Sometimes it has been going for an hour and I'm displeased that it ends because I want more and more....and more!!. |
wow, more than an hour? 
you insatiable minx!
i'm totally comaed out and snoring by then...  |
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Qinella
Joined: 25 Feb 2005
Location: the crib
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| Posted: Wed Aug 01, 2007 4:09 pm Post subject: |
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| I have, too. Was with this girl that would to get off really fast and then complain shortly after, kinda like a guy does, I guess. Sometimes I'd just fake it so she wouldn't feel guilty and apologize for the next ten minutes. Go to the bathroom, rub one out.. it's all right. |
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Big_Bird
Joined: 31 Jan 2003
Location: Sometimes here sometimes there...
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| Posted: Wed Aug 01, 2007 4:15 pm Post subject: |
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| Like that song in your signature, Qinella. Always found those lyrics a little disturbing - Amos at her best. |
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ChimpumCallao
Joined: 17 May 2005
Location: your mom
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| Posted: Wed Aug 01, 2007 6:06 pm Post subject: |
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| ChimpumCallao wrote: |
| Aren't you a DUDE pete? What do you do? Carry around Gatsby gel in your back pocket? |
Yeah, but when I'm really loaded I can't come, necessarily; and also under certain influences I've been under in the past, I get priapic; and shytte dude, sometimes I'm just sleepy.
Pick on RTraitor! He started it.
ANd btw, wtf is gatsby gel? I read the F.S.Fitzgerald book about 10 years ago, but i remember no gels. |
Gatsby is a Japanese brand of gel. The red one looks just like jizz. Its excellent if you want to get the Gwen Stefani poof. |
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kermo
Joined: 01 Sep 2004
Location: Eating eggs, with a comb, out of a shoe.
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| Posted: Wed Aug 01, 2007 8:37 pm Post subject: |
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| swetepete wrote: |
| ChimpumCallao wrote: |
| Aren't you a DUDE pete? What do you do? Carry around Gatsby gel in your back pocket? |
Yeah, but when I'm really loaded I can't come, necessarily; and also under certain influences I've been under in the past, I get priapic; and shytte dude, sometimes I'm just sleepy.
Pick on RTraitor! He started it.
ANd btw, wtf is gatsby gel? I read the F.S.Fitzgerald book about 10 years ago, but i remember no gels. |
It's not unheard of for a guy who's bored, drunk or just sore to fake it. If you're wearing a condom, who's to know? |
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Marlboro
Joined: 31 Jul 2006
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| Posted: Thu Aug 02, 2007 2:09 am Post subject: |
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I have faked it once,aww im a *beep* i know  , but he tries so hard and sometimes im so sore i have to stop!
i was really bad yesterday, i wanted him to do all manner of things,but im in england and he's in korea, ladies im sure you are the same when you have your period? Well im a nightmare,i want him like there's no tomorrow,gawd i drive myself crazy thinking about sex!
Another day of madness for me. |
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kermo
Joined: 01 Sep 2004
Location: Eating eggs, with a comb, out of a shoe.
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| Posted: Thu Aug 02, 2007 2:22 am Post subject: |
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Ok guys. I have a question which relates. Given that it's sometimes hard to tell whether she has come or not, and sometimes she'll just keeping coming as long as you let her....
...how do you know when to stop? |
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Marlboro
Joined: 31 Jul 2006
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| Posted: Thu Aug 02, 2007 2:27 am Post subject: |
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| In my case, when im about to faint, have a dizzy spell,and then he has to stop!arhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh |
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Big_Bird
Joined: 31 Jan 2003
Location: Sometimes here sometimes there...
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| Posted: Thu Aug 02, 2007 2:27 am Post subject: |
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Good question Kermo.
Marlboro, my sympathies. I know how it feels to be divided from the one you need by a vast ocean. Excruciating! |
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