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shantaram

Joined: 10 Apr 2007
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Posted: Wed Aug 01, 2007 11:20 pm Post subject: Not returning phone messages |
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Long story... How can I be friends with this person?
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Pak Yu Man

Joined: 02 Jun 2005 Location: The Ida galaxy
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Posted: Wed Aug 01, 2007 11:35 pm Post subject: |
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Tap that and leave. |
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PeteJB
Joined: 06 Jul 2007
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Posted: Wed Aug 01, 2007 11:53 pm Post subject: |
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You know the Korean language has the word "Stalker" adopted into it for a reason . Sounds like she's latched onto you. Korean style. Are you or aren't you interested? |
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blackjack

Joined: 04 Jan 2006 Location: anyang
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Posted: Thu Aug 02, 2007 12:28 am Post subject: |
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For the love of god please use paragraphs. |
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shantaram

Joined: 10 Apr 2007
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Posted: Thu Aug 02, 2007 12:28 am Post subject: |
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I'm not interested.
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PeteJB
Joined: 06 Jul 2007
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Posted: Thu Aug 02, 2007 12:34 am Post subject: |
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Getting *very* friendly with a Korean girl has one of two results:
* They suddenly don't want to speak to you anymore.
* They wan't to marry you.
So you better be careful  |
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shaunew

Joined: 17 Apr 2007 Location: Calgary
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Posted: Thu Aug 02, 2007 4:15 am Post subject: |
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I second tap that a$s and leave. She comes and visits you tap it some more. |
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shantaram

Joined: 10 Apr 2007
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Posted: Thu Aug 02, 2007 4:44 am Post subject: |
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A ha ha... thanks for your advice. I edited my earlier posts in case she reads daves. I'm getting my copy of Shantaram back from a friend next Tuesday and she'll be there. I have visions of a "dun dun dun" (dramatic soap opera noise) moment when puts two and two together and realises who wrote this thread! |
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gyopogirlfromtexas

Joined: 21 Apr 2007 Location: Austin,Texas
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Posted: Sun Aug 05, 2007 12:35 pm Post subject: |
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I think you should just tell her the whole truth, be honest. I hate people who play mind games, and would you want to be treated like that? Always treat others the way you'd like to be treated.
She should respect you for at least being straightforward, and you can't force yourself to be interested. That's just how it is. But using her for sex is wrong. If you have to do that( keep her for the sex ), tell her you want a no strings attached thing.
I hate men who keep up with the "oh no, I can't tell her, because I won't get the sex anymore. It sounds more convenient to use her for sex, string her on, and just disappear." Well, karma is a bit*h. Those guys are a**holes and they'll have something like that come bite them in the a** one day, and they deserve it too.
I dumped a guy for admitting he did that to a girl. I lost all respect for him, it is wrong to "USE" anyone for one's selfish temporary desires. You're not interested, let her know.
Tell her, "you are a very nice person and everything, and I don't know why I'm not feeling anything, but I just don't. I don't believe in leading people on, or having them wonder what happened. I need to give you closure, and I'm sorry I don't feel anything, but I wish to remain friends."
Yea, that might be upsetting for her to hear, but that's just the truth. You can't help how you feel. Better for her to come to the realization and move on now, then to keep on stalking you. |
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shantaram

Joined: 10 Apr 2007
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Posted: Sun Aug 12, 2007 8:10 am Post subject: |
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Edit. |
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djsmnc

Joined: 20 Jan 2003 Location: Dave's ESL Cafe
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Posted: Sun Aug 12, 2007 10:37 am Post subject: |
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gyopogirlfromtexas wrote: |
I think you should just tell her the whole truth, be honest. I hate people who play mind games, and would you want to be treated like that? Always treat others the way you'd like to be treated.
She should respect you for at least being straightforward, and you can't force yourself to be interested. That's just how it is. But using her for sex is wrong. If you have to do that( keep her for the sex ), tell her you want a no strings attached thing.
I hate men who keep up with the "oh no, I can't tell her, because I won't get the sex anymore. It sounds more convenient to use her for sex, string her on, and just disappear." Well, karma is a bit*h. Those guys are a**holes and they'll have something like that come bite them in the a** one day, and they deserve it too.
I dumped a guy for admitting he did that to a girl. I lost all respect for him, it is wrong to "USE" anyone for one's selfish temporary desires. You're not interested, let her know.
Tell her, "you are a very nice person and everything, and I don't know why I'm not feeling anything, but I just don't. I don't believe in leading people on, or having them wonder what happened. I need to give you closure, and I'm sorry I don't feel anything, but I wish to remain friends."
Yea, that might be upsetting for her to hear, but that's just the truth. You can't help how you feel. Better for her to come to the realization and move on now, then to keep on stalking you. |
He just said "Long story..." and you automatically assume they had sex? You perv! |
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gyopogirlfromtexas

Joined: 21 Apr 2007 Location: Austin,Texas
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Posted: Mon Aug 20, 2007 2:03 pm Post subject: |
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djsmnc wrote: |
He just said "Long story..." and you automatically assume they had sex? You perv! |
Well, I didn't read the original story, because it's taken off. But why were everyone saying that they'd hit it a few times if they were him and then leave her. That makes me think some people here are major a holes with no morals, who think that they have to get laid everytime they have the chance. |
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djsmnc

Joined: 20 Jan 2003 Location: Dave's ESL Cafe
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Posted: Mon Aug 20, 2007 7:29 pm Post subject: |
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gyopogirlfromtexas wrote: |
djsmnc wrote: |
He just said "Long story..." and you automatically assume they had sex? You perv! |
Well, I didn't read the original story, because it's taken off. But why were everyone saying that they'd hit it a few times if they were him and then leave her. That makes me think some people here are major a holes with no morals, who think that they have to get laid everytime they have the chance. |
I know, right?
Speaking of, I'd probably have to get a piece and throw out the leftovers myself! |
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