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A VERY NICE GESTURE FROM A YOUNG KOREAN WOMAN
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stevemcgarrett



Joined: 24 Mar 2006

PostPosted: Mon Aug 13, 2007 8:09 am    Post subject: A VERY NICE GESTURE FROM A YOUNG KOREAN WOMAN Reply with quote

My wife and I just returned to Korea a few days ago with some very heavy luggage in tow.

Took the bus from the airport to our campus area near Seoul.

Raining, muggy as can be, flat out tired. Couldn't fit the luggage into the standard taxis because the Hyundais don't have trunks worth crap.

Then this Korean girl, about 25, who works in a local department store, approaches us and despite her bad English bravely offers to phone a van for us. No, this wasn't a setup.

Then she shooed away three persistent and rude taxi drivers and bought us cold fruit drinks from the vending machine because we hadn't any coins on us. Refused any payment.

Asked her if she was a Christian, and she replied "yes," but said she just wanted us to feel welcome, not because of her faith, really.

I told her I love seeing all the red neon crosses at night--that I find it comforting and that it's so rare in Asia. She just smiled.

A very lovely girl at peace with herself. When the van came she insisted the driver help me load it, which he did. Cost only 5,000 won to head halfway across town.

This is the second time this has happened. The other time a Korean male college students gave us a lift.

Maybe the hope of Korea coming out of its xenophobic funk lies with the younger generation. Time will tell. And, yeah, I know this is corny enough to make popcorn.

But I for one am thankful--in all sincerity--and told the young woman she had made our day.

She was modest, of course, but I insisted she view herself admirably.

So I take back all the things I've said about Koreans--well, at least some of them. Wink
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kimchi_pizza



Joined: 24 Jul 2006
Location: "Get back on the bus! Here it comes!"

PostPosted: Mon Aug 13, 2007 9:50 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Glad to hear it Steve-O. I just wonder if your previous attitude has had anything to do with your wife's acceptance in Korea. I originally thought your attitude was because your wife couldn't join you or because she's a foreigner herself and had a hard time adjusting. Either way, I hope this is a good (new?) start for the both of ya.

I think coming to Korea as a single man or woman is tough enough, but to have the added responsibility of a spouse is even more stressful. Or is it a bigger relief an comfort?
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yesnoyesyesno



Joined: 28 Jan 2006

PostPosted: Mon Aug 13, 2007 11:20 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

this kind of stuff happens quite a bit in korea, it's happened to me a quite a few times
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PeteJB



Joined: 06 Jul 2007

PostPosted: Mon Aug 13, 2007 11:22 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

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but to have the added responsibility of a spouse is even more stressful. Or is it a bigger relief an comfort?


Logistically, it's tougher I would imagine..

But having the comfort of a partner, hand in hand travelling, seeing a new part of the world? I'd rather that than the loner arrival. Laughing
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koon_taung_daeng



Joined: 28 Jan 2007
Location: south korea

PostPosted: Mon Aug 13, 2007 5:26 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

well i read this thread thinking a nice gesture was something else, but was still very satisfied with the read
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endo



Joined: 14 Mar 2004
Location: Seoul...my home

PostPosted: Mon Aug 13, 2007 5:41 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I was about to blast you for using caps in your thread title again, but I'll let this one slide in an effort to continue the positivity in this thread. Wink
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kiwiduncan



Joined: 18 Jun 2007
Location: New Zealand

PostPosted: Mon Aug 13, 2007 10:42 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Nice story. I've had a few experiences like that too.
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humdrum



Joined: 07 Jul 2007
Location: Seoul

PostPosted: Tue Aug 14, 2007 4:33 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I forgot my umbrella today and was walking to work in a drizzle of a rain, a "nice young Korean gal" RAN up to me and shared her umbrella with me. Kinda made my day.
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crusher_of_heads



Joined: 23 Feb 2007
Location: kimbop and kimchi for kimberly!!!!

PostPosted: Tue Aug 14, 2007 10:40 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

You accidentally hit the CAPS LOCK key when starting this thread.

Thread titles in ALL CAPS: are they mildy annoying, or just plain stupid stevemcgarrett?
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contrarian



Joined: 20 Jan 2007
Location: Nearly in NK

PostPosted: Tue Aug 14, 2007 4:58 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I lived in Daegu my first year in Korea. I don't mind getting rained on, but I finally bought an umbrella to avoid inconveniencing all sorts of kindly Koreans with umbrellas.
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pest2



Joined: 01 Jun 2005
Location: Vancouver, Canada

PostPosted: Tue Aug 14, 2007 5:15 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Even I wouldnt deny that these things do happen in Korea. And its good. But it wouldnt cause me to take back all the other things I said about the place.
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kimchi_pizza



Joined: 24 Jul 2006
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PostPosted: Tue Aug 14, 2007 6:13 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Jesus, I find people complaining about stevemcgarrett's all-cap thread titles much more annoying than the actual thread titles. It's his schtick, he's obviously not gonna change or stop so let'em have it and move on already.
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SuperFly



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PostPosted: Tue Aug 14, 2007 6:16 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I don't mind his all cap titles anymore, the whole thing kinda grew on me after the first 20 or so, but has he ever told us why he does it?
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Ginormousaurus



Joined: 27 Jul 2006
Location: 700 Ft. Pulpit

PostPosted: Tue Aug 14, 2007 6:31 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

kimchi_pizza wrote:
Jesus, I find people complaining about stevemcgarrett's all-cap thread titles much more annoying than the actual thread titles. It's his schtick, he's obviously not gonna change or stop so let'em have it and move on already.


Agreed.
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stevemcgarrett



Joined: 24 Mar 2006

PostPosted: Tue Aug 14, 2007 7:43 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

pest2 wrote:

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Even I wouldnt deny that these things do happen in Korea. And its good. But it wouldnt cause me to take back all the other things I said about the place.


Something occurred to me just a while ago: could it be that I wasn't touched by the kind gesture as much as surprised it would happen at all? On further reflection, I will keep to my initial reaction, which was one of gratitude.

I am very much aware that Korean reserve, which resembles in many aspects Japanese reserve, can be misconstrued as utter indifference. Different cultures manifest their feelings in different ways. As an American, I am prone to wear my emotions on my sleeve. Chinese tend to do the same, hence my rather natural inclination toward them.

I do find most Koreans to be aloof or at least distant--reserved. I find this to especially true of men, particularly those past their 20's.

But from my experience it is uncommon for most Asians to lend a helping hand. I think it stems from this ingrained perception that anyone outside the family is a stranger not to be trusted or someone who might cause you undue trouble. However, given the pervasiveness of Christianity in Korea, it strikes me as an anomaly.

Any comments, anyone?
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