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[jessie-b]

I'm going to agree with Tiger Beer and say that it is a white thing as far as I know. I would definitly invite certain ex-boyfriends to a wedding, and I know a few of them would be happy to go and have a great time. I try to stay civil with those I've been intimate with and keep them as friends...not always possible, but I think that's the ideal. Haha...a white thing.

I'm wondering why its a "white thing". Maybe because white people have been just as damaged as anyone else by colonialism... how we all live so separately because of it, our thoughts are so DIY and even the way towns and cities are built look separatist (cold, I think) compared to other villages/urban centers worldwide. I think that white people also feel a great need for family and closeness but they have to improvise it with people they find along the way. Hence the needing to keep ex boyfriends and girlfriends close. It might also be because the "first love"" idea is kind of defunct in many western societies. Just because you don't marry your first love doesn't mean that person totally sucked.

[The Bobster]

My ex didn't invite me to her wedding and I found out about the nupts a year or so later. I'd met the guy she hitched with, and I knew he was an alright sort

Like I said about myself, maybe she thought it wouldn't be prudent to invite me, and there was an ocean to cross, so I probably wouldn't have gone. I waited about a little more than a year to mention my new marriage to her, as well, same reason.

Me and the ex still consider each other good friends, though, We share ideas and thoughts by email that we never would with anyone else, just because we knew each other such a long time, and we that know no one else would really understand certain things.