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[SeoulShakin]

Ok. I don't live in Itaewon, but unfortunately it is my closest subway station, so I must get off there to transfer to a bus.

On my bus ride home, it was quite crowded, so I was forced to stand. I was standing next to a Nigerian guy. I've met one or two here who are nice guys, so I try not to paint them with the same brush. Here is our following conversation. (S is me G is the guy).

G- Hello
S- Hi
G You are so pretty, where are you from?
S- Canada
G- I am from Nigeria nice to meet you
S- (I give a nod of acknowledgement but don't reply cause I can see where this is going)
G- you are so pretty I want to get to know you closer
S- My boyfriend would not appreciate that. Sorry, but no thank you.
G- do you live with your boyfriend?
S- Yes I do (I don't really, but he was getting pushy)
G- You could leave him
S- NO
G- Where do you live. I will take you there.
S- No. (Quite loudly) You are getting very pushy. Stop it. I don't want to continue this conversation.
G- I am being nice. Where is your house. Is your boyfriend home.
S- (quite loudly) LEAVE ME ALONE. STOP TALKING TO ME. I AM NOT INTERESTED.

I get off at the last stop, and he got off before me. However, he stopped at the corner, watched me go into my kimbab restaurant. I ordered some ddeok bokki to go, and sat to wait. 2 minutes later, he enters the restaurant and sits down at the table now.

S- STOP FOLLOWING ME. GO AWAY. YOU ARE CRAZY!
G- I'm not following you, I just came to sit with you.

People in the restaurant are staring, but those ajummas know me. I get up and move to a table on the other side of the restaurant. On the way I say to one ajumma in broken Korean "He is crazy. I don't know this man." She nods and gives him a death glare haha.

He sits in the restaurant for another 5 minutes as I proceed to get out my phone in a desperate attempt to reach SOMEONE to come meet me. Everyone is still at work. Damn.

He finally leaves, I get my food, ajumma asks if I am ok and I say yes. I do a scan of the street before I leave the restaurant. I apologize to ajumma for the yelling.

Meanwhile, I feel like I have to run all the way home, and am constantly checking over my shoulder. I make note of all the stores along the way where I know people there speak enough English to understand "Please call the police. A crazy man is following me and trying to get in my home". Luckily I didn't see him as I went home, and am now here, eating my ddeok bokki.

Seriously. WHY CAN'T SOME GUYS TAKE A FREAKING HINT!
Had I seen him on the street again, I would have made my next stop the police station rather than my house, but it is in the opposite direction.

Friggin frig.

[nautilus]

Thats unfortunate, seoulshakin.

Where was your boyfriend at the time?

[SeoulShakin]

Unfortunately still at work, and he can't answer the phone. He doesn't get off until 8:30pm.

[nautilus]

Next time just keep walking through the carriages until you find one with no freaks.

[bejarano-korea]

Sorry to hear about that.

In SOME West African cultures the rites of courtship is quite full on and would be seen as harrasment by western women, not that any of this helps you.

I remember an incident similar to this at my university. The guy in question was a complete prat though.

Is this the first time you have ever seen this bloke?

[thepeel]

Different cultures have different ideas of what is and isn't appropriate means of courting a woman. I don't know about Nigeria, but it could be that women there like a man to act creepy. You are not the first white girl to have a dude from Africa creep her the hell out in Itaewon.

I had a buddy from Ghana who would decide that a girl was his girlfriend. He would start calling and asking when she would give him sex and so on. I kept telling him he was batshi.tcrazy and going to get beat on. He didn't agree.

Bangladeshis make perverted eyes with every woman who passes. If someone is dumb enough to connect with one of them, the will take it as a sign that being visually fucked was on the girls to-do list for the day.

When i lived in Korea my girl was often danced up on in the clubs by men from Africa. She would give them a two handed push to the chest and say "NO" with her finger wagging at them. She found it to work quite well..

Anyhow, not defending the dude. Women should carry guns.

[SeoulShakin]

[nautilus]

[SeoulShakin]

[CentralCali]

Next time, just start shouting, in both Korean and English, "POLICE! POLICE! POLICE! HELP!" If you don't want to do that at the bus stop, then you could ask the staff at the restaurant to call the police. While he's being quizzed by the Local Blue, you can beat feet.

[SeoulShakin]

[eamo]

Sorry Seoulshakin.......guys are horny devils. But this is not the first story on here about the sexual aggressivness of Nigerian guys.

Maybe they think that's how it's done. Stalking is not a word in their dictionary. Chasing the girl to her front door might be romantic where they come from. It shows passion!

Like in Korean dramas when the guy stands outside the house of his girlfriend and screams her name in the rain. That's not being a psycho! That shows passion!!

[Pligganease]

Guys are screwed.

"Why can't guys take a hint?" will soon be followed by the thread "Why don't guys show any interest?" which will be followed by the thread "No, I don't want you to buy me a drink!" and then there will be "Why can't guys make the first move?"

[SeoulShakin]

[Alyallen]